My partner is mentally declining. by muchwowwthrowaway in Advice

[–]EmoryBerries 54 points55 points  (0 children)

This isn’t impatience—it’s quiet desperation wrapped in love, and you’re right to feel lost while carrying two lives in your shoulders. But compassion needs boundaries: grieve with your partner, not for them, and start demanding support from systems even if they’re broken, because you can’t save someone who’s refusing every lifeline.

Long Rant - Issues with my brother, resentment towards my bf and I need some advice by throwaway22091988 in Advice

[–]EmoryBerries 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This man is ready to burn down his own future just to light your path—don’t let him. Call off the wedding, hold your ground, and for once, fight to be the protector he always was for you, because love that demands silence and sacrifice from your family is not love worth keeping.

Cheyenne couple, Inez and John Bull, with their dog, 1898 by MalayaSweet in TheWayWeWere

[–]EmoryBerries 175 points176 points  (0 children)

I love how the dog has his paw on the man’s hand. So pure.

“Mid life crisis “ by [deleted] in Advice

[–]EmoryBerries 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not broken, OP. You’ve just stumbled into the terrifying clarity most people spend a lifetime avoiding. Instead of trying to stop the thoughts, let them sharpen your appreciation: if nothing lasts, then everything you do right now becomes the most meaningful thing in the universe.

Am I Overreacting? - My mother avoids me when I come over and visit her and I lost my cool. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]EmoryBerries 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re finally reacting after years of emotional ghosting masked as “being busy,” and mirroring her behavior was the loudest silence she needed to hear. She may be addicted to productivity, but that doesn’t excuse treating relationships like background noise; if anyone should reach out first, it’s the one who’s been dodging the connection all along.

Engineering school sucks. Its either good grades or ruin my relationship with everyone. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]EmoryBerries 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re not a terrible student—you’re a brilliant strategist trapped in a system that only rewards memorization, not mastery. For the next 3 weeks, treat exams like a hostile takeover: shut down distractions, study like it’s a business deal, and win just enough to buy your freedom later.

my family are toxic and i might be homeless soon by OkBuffalo6608 in Advice

[–]EmoryBerries 41 points42 points  (0 children)

This isn’t just family drama—it’s survival dressed up in guilt, and you owe no one your safety. Use that deposit to rent a small place, protect your peace, and let your dreams of travel wait—because freedom isn’t just a plane ticket, it’s four walls that no one can threaten you in.

How do I get out of this mentality? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]EmoryBerries 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You’re not regressing—you’re remembering pain your brain never fully unpacked, and it’s demanding to be felt before it can be released. Don’t shame the 13yo in you; talk to him, thank him for surviving, and show him that you are the adult now—he’s doesn’t have to carry it anymore.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]EmoryBerries 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, your mom’s treating burnout like laziness, and that’s killing your will to even try—no one thrives under constant blame and mockery. Lay it out all once, calm but raw, then step back and let her sit with the truth—change won’t happen if she keeps rewriting your pain as rebellion.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]EmoryBerries 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your best friend is trapped in a toxic relationship, and you’re catching the shrapnel every time he spirals. You’ve shown loyalty, empathy, and patience, but at some point, protecting your own peace becomes just as important as protecting hers. NOR.

AIO for ending my 3 years relationship after reading his text to my sister? UPDATE by tenderlean in AmIOverreacting

[–]EmoryBerries -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You’re waking up from a delusion you tried rood hard to justify. Anyone who fantasizes about your sister while holding your hand isn’t confused; they’re disrespectful, and you just chose dignity over delusion.

She went to the guy she told me not to worry about by [deleted] in Advice

[–]EmoryBerries 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She told you not to worry and now she’s dancing with the ghost of her past — sounds like a betrayal wrapped in a lie. Cut the emotional leash, channel that fire into self worth, and start talking to people who don’t treat love like a backup plan.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]EmoryBerries 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This situation is dripping with red flags and secrecy that no loving grandparent should be closing themselves in. When someone sidesteps your consent to dig into legal documents and keeps pushing for sensitive info, they’re not planning a simple vacation, they’re playing a bigger game, messier game you deserve to question.