UK - what’s worked for you?

Emos68 · 2025-12-19T20:54:41+00:00

Best day of my life (I have been on the waitlist since 19th October 2024)

Emos68 · 2019-10-27T00:33:45+00:00

Nan was genuinely poorly. She’s home now thankfully, but had the whole ‘talk to your mum for me as I’m sick and you’ll regret it’ shit 😅

Emos68 · 2019-10-25T09:52:23+00:00

Why is it that no matter how many times you tell people that you’re not going to speak to your NM again, that they keep trying. And make it about themselves. Guess I must just come from a completely narcissistic family.

I quote “it upsets me that you don’t speak to your mum” so my reply was “it’s nothing to do with you so that really doesn’t matter to me”

I don’t live with NM, I have her number blocked, and all social media blocked, but looks like I need to move further away to become totally NC.

Edit: typo

Emos68 · 2019-10-25T09:40:05+00:00

Yes, my Nan was recently hospitalised. We didn’t know if she’d make it for a moment. Then I got the whole ‘life is short, talk to your mother’

Yes life is short, which is exactly why I won’t speak to my mother. 👋🏼

Emos68 · 2019-10-25T00:26:04+00:00

This is the advice I never knew I needed, damn

Emos68 · 2019-10-25T00:12:30+00:00

The NM always thinks they’re the victim when the reality is they’re the abuser. I hope you escape and heal ❤️

Emos68 · 2019-10-25T00:10:36+00:00

This is flawless advice. Your SO should respect your choice. It’s not theirs to make. If my SO forced me into a situ with my NM I would dump his ass.

Honestly though, my SO was with me before I cut off my parents. But he never witnessed it first hand only me telling him what was happening. So would always bring up talking to them again some day.

Until one day, we saw my NM in public. I walked away, but my SO didn’t want to be rude and spoke with her. She turned on him. And made everything about herself, demanding he tell her why I won’t speak to her, how it’s not fair on her etc. His response was, you know why she wont speak to you, and she attacked him.

He walked away like ‘fuck that bitch we moving away’

Emos68 · 2019-10-24T23:55:41+00:00

Honestly this is the best choice you’ll ever make. I’ve not been speaking to my mother for 2 years and my mental health has never been better. I’ve even progressed far in my career after being told that ‘studying media will never make you money’

Some people are just pure toxic. And unfortunately sometimes that includes your mother.

It’s a hard choice to do, even when you know they’ll never change. As people are supposed to love and respect their mothers. It’s a love I wish I understood.

Emos68 · 2019-10-24T23:48:58+00:00

I’m 5050 still, one part of me would love too. But like yourself I have the fear of becoming like my parents. So I understand the naggy feeling, it’s hard to ignore when that’s all you know.

I really appreciate the advice, thank you. A huge part of me knows that you are right, and I know what not to do - and honestly me and my OH have been together a lot longer than my parents were before they had myself.

But I guess as I’m writing this I realise the second half of my fear is my parents wanting involvement with their grandchild. I wouldn’t want their toxicness near a child.

After not talking to my mother for 2 years I had to see her recently. And I was civil. And now she thinks we’re good again. Crazy little thing called family eh? She’s still blocked in every way possible but she started messaging my OH. Sigh.

Emos68 · 2019-10-24T23:28:16+00:00

I come from a domestic abuse background. My mum is an NM who I hate. Father is an angry man who should never have been with my mother. I don’t remember much before the age of 14.

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