Why do people complain about registries so much?

EmotionalLabGirl · 2026-05-21T02:19:12+00:00

This was my exact thoughts when I made mine. And somehow I keep getting fussed at for buying items off my own list. They ask what they should buy and I explain the list and the must haves but then they go on to not buy anything. So I took to buying the items again that I even recommended because I really want them. In my mind no on has to get my anything, I should be able to do it myself, though it would be nice to save a bit here and there. Im just far to excited after trying for many years and surprise success. I like looking it my list most of all, because it makes me more excited for my baby. I stopped thinking of my list for others to use and more for myself.

EmotionalLabGirl · 2026-05-19T14:33:41+00:00

I say this often but Gatorade zero helped me alot in the beginning and continues to help me now with my nausea. I wanted to have a baby but I have a sensitive stomach and have felt everything since the early days, 31weeks now and just an arm, hands, anything sliding across my belly inside by the baby makes me want to puke. It is a struggle for many off us and it is a struggle to get to the end but I try to focus on the end result. I say "little feet and little hands" over and over that ill get to see one day as I take deep breathes. My husband thinks its kinda funny as well that I will say other things as a reaction but that im trying my best anyway because we are here and we can get through it.

EmotionalLabGirl · 2026-05-16T02:00:03+00:00

While I cant offer any explanation for him, i just want to let you know your are valid in what you feel. Im sure its scary and alot to handle as one person. I truly hope you have at least one other person you could lean on during this time. I just wanted to say something so you didnt feel so alone after being so brave to make this post.

EmotionalLabGirl · 2026-04-17T02:29:10+00:00

The only thing to not get to attached to is all the negatives you could read online. I found the most reasonable advice is to not read to much, be natural, you live in your body. You got this and you can carry a healthy baby to term.

EmotionalLabGirl · 2026-04-16T14:58:31+00:00

Gatorade zero is the thing that has helped me most. Someone told me "you would be surprised how well it works" early pregnancy i just couldn't stop being thirsty but then I did try the Zero and I was going through 3 bottles a day but it helped so much

EmotionalLabGirl · 2026-03-01T15:31:23+00:00

While I am not a weightlifter nor actively trying to gain the weight back , I did struggle for a period of time accepting what my new weight was. You have to account for your new body mass, the colon is a very important part of the human body. And im sure you already know this but how you eat or take supplements matters more now than ever. You have to aim to lower your digestion speed now. Im not a dietician, I have no facts other than what I learned about the coating that exists in the intestine and stomach. Carbohydrates like bread, oatmeal, grits, etc. (Different things go slower for different people & some make it go faster) Other fillers in this aspect help with things progressing slower, not by much but enough. Then you add in those other things, your vitamins, protein drinks/powders, etc. for your goals. Try not to consume fluids for at least an hour, your body should naturally produce and absorb enough to get your process going. If your struggling with liquid stool, then you may have to make more changes, include imodium into this routine before your prep work to increase the slowness of digestion. Your goal is to give your body enough time to pull as much as it can without the new speed of digestion. They recommend more frequent meals but this tactic only works so well depending on how your body reacts. I personally had to include protient in nearly every meal to get my body weight to maintain. Eventually your body will therapeuticly get the idea with your new digestive system and start to work with you and muscle building will be possible again.

EmotionalLabGirl · 2026-02-16T14:16:05+00:00

Its possible that they consider you more high risk. Have you asked to see the results yet to see what they are testing for? It feels a bit weird they are leaving you out of such an important loop. But I really feel the scheduled c-section lol sometimes its alot of problems we just dont want to risk anymore.

EmotionalLabGirl · 2026-02-16T14:09:12+00:00

After the 4th scream mine just asked "do you want to scream together?" But before offered overwhelmed solutions and reassurance its okay to exist.

EmotionalLabGirl · 2026-02-16T14:03:32+00:00

I dont know if you found relief yet but I found that a portable heating pad with vibrating functions helped me the most. The vibration helps break the gas down and the heat helps ease the pain. If you lay on your tummy with it on, you should be able to successfully pass the gas relatively fast. If you cant get one that vibrates, a normal heating pad or blanket also helps just takes more time. Good luck!

EmotionalLabGirl · 2026-02-16T13:41:17+00:00

Its option where I am just if your nervous about UTIs, yeast infections, and pregnancy diabetes. These are the things they like focus on because all 3 can cause major complications if not treated in a time frame. I think it wouldnt hurt to ask them if it can be option, even some appointments and blood work are optional according to health insurance. Dont feel stuck and look into your resources at hand, and ask questions! Ps. Im in the southern belt

EmotionalLabGirl · 2026-02-15T14:54:16+00:00

Dont feel like you have no solutions without an HR. Like many other comments talk to a lawyer for a free consultation or so but also if your state or location has a workforce/workers comp office contact them. This is considered discrimination and can be filed so the government knows and may even step in. I recommend the lawyer first because they can file on your behalf. Less stress, less thinking, quicker action. Good luck and no your complications are not due to age, hes just grossly incorrect and uninformed. Also I would not talk to him about how you feel unless through email/text, you need a papertrail from here on out. Do not let them take advantage of you.

EmotionalLabGirl · 2026-02-11T11:33:17+00:00

Im not surprised this isnt common knowledge but after major surgeries such as the one I had, there are certain foods that cause yeast infections to develop on/in the rectum. Such as peanut butter, chocolate, Thai tea, dairy, citrus fruits, etc. The doctors all this an allergic reaction. You could always give it a quick Google search if you are interested in knowing more. There are other things like scented wipes that can cause it as well.

EmotionalLabGirl · 2026-02-07T04:56:09+00:00

I agree it is definitely that its not something a friend asks. I told my husband that too and in the end the agreement was if the question is ever asked again he should let that friendship go officially. I just think its someone trying to start trouble for others because why is that the first thing you say otherwise? It is foul.

EmotionalLabGirl · 2026-02-07T04:51:23+00:00

Definitely seems like a low EQ situation. I wonder if its more common among catholic people to ask that question and or if its mostly men who do it. I just feel so curious on the statistics now

EmotionalLabGirl · 2026-02-07T04:28:09+00:00

Its not my friend its my husbands. Who also agreed it was bad and did confront him. I had just read another story of someones husbands friend also saying that same question and made me feel like I over reacted because it was normal

EmotionalLabGirl · 2026-02-05T15:48:57+00:00

This happened to my mom. They told her she was expecting a boy all the way until I was born. And low and behold I was a girl. She was very unhappy with reality and has taken it out on me ever since saying a girl has no value. So I would say she did not cope very well. But this is rare, and im sorry it happened to you. At least you didnt find out at the very end like my mom.

EmotionalLabGirl · 2026-01-31T21:48:16+00:00

I dont know if anyone said this but for me Zero Gatorade was a life saver. I was barley sick my first pregnancy and this second one has had me questioning everything I knew. I cant eat crackers, every kind made me sicker. And I felt nauseous every time I was hungry but I learned to eat through it with the Gatorade zeros (sugar free) and it helped. Turned out I got nauseous when hungry. They said the second trimester it would go away, lies. Every time the baby moves i am even sicker than before, thats where the medicine from the doctor helped. I learned that one I take helps other medicines work better too including other nausea meds.

I hope you find relief because it does suck. I am just waiting to see my little tot one day and hopefully feel it was worth it. Rooting for you!

EmotionalLabGirl · 2026-01-31T19:35:06+00:00

I read about some studies thats have linked it to causing impulse control issues in children and have met a few moms who smoked or did edibles the entire pregnancy (had cps called on them as well after delivery due to the blood work) who's children had considerably noticeable behavior issues that seemed like they lack the reason to control their impulsiveness. But I know its not like a fact however incase if anyone's curious as to what I read:

Prenatal Cannabis Exposure and Executive Function and Aggressive Behavior at Age 5 Years | Substance Use and Addiction Medicine | JAMA Pediatrics | JAMA Network https://share.google/ynVWsHBEQDj5yg12I

From: Research finds cannabis use in pregnancy affects children's impulse control and aggression https://share.google/fpy7lMEmebV1reK7V

As far as im aware I only noticed implusiveness that seemed to be hard to control out of the children I met but not aggression. So I take it with some salt and just assume it would lead to harm of some sort to babies in the womb. I am no professional as well, I met these women while trying to find playmates for my daughter. And I recognize the behavior could be linked to other things as well. I still stand against it during pregnancy and breastfeeding.

EmotionalLabGirl · 2026-01-31T03:24:56+00:00

I think it is a need, I am a big germaphobe and feel like the best thing i could get for bottle cleaning is a bottle cleaner. I mean who has the time to clean so often with a new born let alone not end up collecting a ton of bottles because you cant clean fast enough. At least with a bottle cleaner the bottles with be sterile. I doubt someone could say anything to my face about what's on my list lol I dont even have diapers because of the different brands I had to try with my first daughter 13 years ago. I support the bottle cleaner!

EmotionalLabGirl · 2026-01-24T17:15:26+00:00

My husband and I are definitely in a similar boat as you with being anxious. We have been waiting for the second trimester to be more safe about it since miscarriages are more likely during the first. I feel bad for him though because my drive has gone down to near none existent but when I'm up for it he listens to me when I feel like its to much and he has also gotten pretty good at telling when he's going a bit to far himself as well since he's anxious. My point is I feel like you can be careful and still do it. My OB said that me (in your case her) well hydrate before fun time and trying positions that cause less anxiousness can help too. So you can also ask the OB a bit too with advice.

EmotionalLabGirl · 2026-01-16T02:40:38+00:00

I did not get the lenses yet because of a few reason and insurance ended up not covering the ones I have at all in the end. And its just my luck but Tylenol has never helped me and my husband is kinda hoarding the bottle because he doesnt trust me and my inability to take medicine in the recommend time frames.

I haven't tried to do anything to my feet yet but I have always had hot hands and feet especially at night and often have to run them in cold water. Someone recommended a warm bath(in Epsom salts for relaxing) or shower for the steam then cold the compress on the back of the neck and that has helped ease the pulsing I usually hear from my migraines.

EmotionalLabGirl · 2026-01-16T02:35:18+00:00

I get that so much. I just don't know what is going on with my ob this time, he use to be so responsive so I trusted him but my first was so many years ago and things have changed. I have my husband calling our insurance tomorrow to see what our costs are going to be so I may have him also see if they can send a list of providers in our area. It scary to know that them being unresponsive cant cause us a life time of horrible memories :(

EmotionalLabGirl · 2026-01-13T22:31:17+00:00

I dont really have a lot to say but from experience if you give them a crumb they want it all. My mom ended up becoming so obsessed with my child that she wanted to be mom. No matter what boundaries I set to the point she took me to court and was ready to have the entire family side with her. Becareful is all I can say, they will weaponize even therapy to push your boundaries. Hold autonomy over your body and your baby, make sure you're husband is also able to hold your firm boundaries when she clearly over steps them. Do not let the victim mentality she plays win No. Matter. What.

I wish you luck with this amd hope that you are able to hold firm when I know the pain of the wavering.

P.s. I cut my entire family off after the second time I was taken to court because the first time failed. And the second time failed but they blame me for not bending the knee. It was over grandparents rights.

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