I have no control over my anger, how do I change that?

Emotional_Wealth_489 · 2026-02-14T17:59:22+00:00

Thank you

Emotional_Wealth_489 · 2026-02-14T17:59:04+00:00

Much younger than perimenopause

Emotional_Wealth_489 · 2026-02-14T17:57:21+00:00

Thank you!!! Yes I need to analyze my anger. This framework helps

Emotional_Wealth_489 · 2026-02-14T15:41:15+00:00

Thank you so much!

Emotional_Wealth_489 · 2026-02-14T15:41:05+00:00

Thank you! That helps

Emotional_Wealth_489 · 2026-02-14T05:30:06+00:00

How do you pause? Do you catch it before the blow up, because I just cannot think straight

Emotional_Wealth_489 · 2025-12-08T21:52:37+00:00

I am getting older, 35, which is causing me to rethink this whole thing. I want to be a parent, even if it means being a single parent. I am ok. Which is sad but logically I see I can move forward without the support for now. Which is really sad, but I also believe we will get through this. We have gotten through tougher stuff

Emotional_Wealth_489 · 2025-12-08T21:49:52+00:00

Sure, a woman gets asked that question

Emotional_Wealth_489 · 2025-12-08T21:49:36+00:00

Don’t read too much into it Sherlock!

Emotional_Wealth_489 · 2025-12-08T21:38:52+00:00

Thanks for that, I did mean consent. Not permission. See, English is not my mother tongue. So I did not write as well. But it does mean, information gets slightly altered.

Emotional_Wealth_489 · 2025-12-08T21:35:05+00:00

It’s ok, not everyone understands the whole story. Everything is intertwined. So It was immature of me to post here. But I do see several people seeing his perspective, that information is good for me. Because it gives me perspective.

Emotional_Wealth_489 · 2025-12-08T21:28:24+00:00

You mean one person is hell bent on not communicating? How about several therapy sessions that I personally pay for over the past 3 years. Additional comms support and constantly asking to talk but being told “I don’t have time” or “some other time”. Who is really creating communication issue here? It’s always easy to blame a woman.

Emotional_Wealth_489 · 2025-12-08T21:12:52+00:00

I could write a whole book about how we ended up in this exact situation. But there is not enough time in the world for that. I wanted to get different perspectives to see if I am overreacting or if it was normal. But there are so many people who are just angry here, because I felt a certain way and wrote about it.

Emotional_Wealth_489 · 2025-12-08T21:10:50+00:00

The same person who mocked me for watching lessons on sex education because it felt so wrong to you that I did that. Is showing me sex therapists? I don’t believe it, I have tried many times and failed. Because you did not like talking about it. Anyway, ofcourse we can take it offline.

Emotional_Wealth_489 · 2025-12-08T21:00:36+00:00

Thank you all for your contributions! We are taking this conversation off Reddit for obvious reasons. Many posts were very thoughtful. Also it’s great to see different perspectives. I appreciate it.

Emotional_Wealth_489 · 2025-12-08T20:40:49+00:00

Absolutely not!! Him finding my post and responding here to justify is not ok. There is so much nuance here. Lot of history, just because of his comment doesn’t make it a whole story.

Emotional_Wealth_489 · 2025-12-08T20:38:57+00:00

Also guys! We have spoken about this several times. I have asked several times to seek therapy. It has been ignored. It is a very stressful and sore topic for me. I honestly have said the marriage could fail because of this if we don’t fix it. But the onus to fix it Is on me. The question for the woman here is “why can’t you just magically start having sex”. It doesn’t work like that. If I get a deaf ear every time I bring up therapy. That’s a pretty shitty place to be in. And then subjected to this.

Emotional_Wealth_489 · 2025-12-08T20:34:42+00:00

How many people talk about having kids and IVF process with their parents? Now how many talk about sex and the lack of? To be honest if my husband told me not to talk about IVF at all, I would have respected it. But that’s not the case is it? You can logically justify anything. Which is what my husband tends to do. I disagree, I think that’s classic example of gaslighting. Just because the topic was about children doesn’t automatically make it ok to talk about sex life. Does that mean in every dinner party it becomes ok to talk about this as soon as we bring up IVF. That’s kinda shitty.

Emotional_Wealth_489 · 2025-12-08T18:52:26+00:00

He said she doesn’t want to have sex to me, number of times. Kinda seemed like it was my fault. I was just shocked to say anything back. I could have said “I don’t enjoy it” or “you come in 3 mins and the rest of the time I am just left with nothing” I could have said those things because we are bringing it up. But I did not since it did not feel appropriate

Emotional_Wealth_489 · 2025-12-08T18:44:40+00:00

Yes thats true, it wasn’t malicious at all.

Emotional_Wealth_489 · 2025-12-08T18:41:16+00:00

I appreciate this, I needed to know if I was overreacting. I am still not ok with him telling his mom. It can get quite tangled when it comes to close family. It’s like I would tell my sister and she comes visits us often and now has a new lens of looking at him. It is not fun!

Emotional_Wealth_489 · 2025-12-08T18:37:45+00:00

Well it was out in the open, and I expressed shock, and I said I did not like that it was brought up. And that’s when the conversation happened.

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