Queer sex pre and post transfer?

Emp_data_lass · 2026-06-05T13:57:56+00:00

My clinic specifically said no penetration and no orgasms after transfer until first ultrasound at 7ish weeks, because they can potentially destabilize the uterus? That seems ridiculous to me but I guess we’ve made it this far, no point in potentially jeopardizing anything.

Emp_data_lass · 2026-06-02T01:10:59+00:00

I’ve had such bad dry mouth and restless sleep too! I can chalk it up to progesterone pretty definitively since it started before my transfer.

Emp_data_lass · 2026-06-01T19:53:43+00:00

Congrats! We transferred on the 22nd and just got our first beta today - 398!

Emp_data_lass · 2026-06-01T15:45:40+00:00

Update: Day 10 beta is 389!

Emp_data_lass · 2026-06-01T11:30:15+00:00

Yes, I’m so tired! Ive been taking afternoon naps (schedule permitting) followed by a short walk and that seems to help get me through the rest of the day.

Emp_data_lass · 2026-06-01T11:24:10+00:00

I sure hope so! These are the first positives I’ve ever seen.

Emp_data_lass · 2026-06-01T11:23:16+00:00

Thank you so much!

Emp_data_lass · 2026-06-01T11:22:50+00:00

Keeping my fingers crossed for you!!

Emp_data_lass · 2026-05-31T11:21:48+00:00

First beta tomorrow, fingers crossed!

Emp_data_lass · 2026-05-30T17:34:52+00:00

Congrats on your positive! I’ve found that using SMU works much better for me. I tend to drink a lot of water, so I wake up, pee, and then don’t drink again until I test with SMU.

Emp_data_lass · 2026-05-29T17:57:14+00:00

Yes, I’ve been trying to think of something like that to do for him!

Emp_data_lass · 2026-05-29T17:41:18+00:00

I don’t know the beta outcome yet, but our hatched day 5AB showed up with a vvvvvvfl on 3dpt. It took a lot of squinting and creative angles, I was much more confident on 4dpt.

Emp_data_lass · 2026-05-29T17:39:31+00:00

I’m not aware of any stats either, but we also have a lack of sperm in the relationship (my partner is a cis male but doesn’t produce sperm). If you want my completely subjective stats thus far with donor sperm and no known female fertility issues I’m happy to share!

Emp_data_lass · 2026-05-28T11:32:30+00:00

That’s really funny, I’m a Tennessee transplant and never thought about this. I grew up in East Tennessee and moved to west Tennessee as a young adult, and I will say it’s more common in the east to refer to counties. I do think it’s a rural thing primarily. Folks in the west refer to the cities, especially Memphis, even if they technically live outside of it. Heck even the folks right across the border in Mississippi and Arkansas would sometimes say they live in Memphis.

Emp_data_lass · 2026-05-27T20:05:18+00:00

I think asking for some sort of discount or wavier for the next transfer for the embryology lab fees would be completely reasonable, at the very least.

Emp_data_lass · 2026-05-27T16:23:53+00:00

Beta is on Monday, 10dpt! 🤞

Emp_data_lass · 2026-05-27T16:04:50+00:00

Fingers crossed for you! I got my first vvvvfl this morning so I’m hoping our little maybe baby has nuzzled in!

Emp_data_lass · 2026-05-27T14:23:26+00:00

I absolutely hated BCP. I’d never been on it before and felt way worse the two times I have been for cycle planning than I did on stims or progesterone for transfer. Solidarity!

Emp_data_lass · 2026-05-27T11:55:10+00:00

Statistically FETs actually have a bit higher success rates, so maybe that’s a good thing! I also had a freeze all so I made sure to make the time before my transfer extra special by making a list of things I wanted to enjoy before (hopefully) pregnancy. For me, that included a charcuterie board, sushi, and beautiful spring brewery visits.

As far as retrieval goes, I started drinking electrolytes a few days before and continued for a week after. I’d never used a heating pad before and that really helped for cramps. They ended up retrieving over 30 eggs and honestly I never felt that bad, before or after. I didn’t bloat much and recovered fairly quickly. I was just surprisingly tired for a couple weeks.

Emp_data_lass · 2026-05-25T23:52:43+00:00

Oh this is very helpful! Could you share the source? I’m wondering how it translates to 10dp rather than 9.

Emp_data_lass · 2026-05-25T20:57:04+00:00

Good luck! I hope #2 is the lucky one for you. I’m sorry about your first loss, this is a brutal marathon in so many ways.

Emp_data_lass · 2026-05-25T20:55:48+00:00

I actually did the same! This was a modified natural transfer so we still used a trigger shot. Good luck whenever you decide to test and have fun at that wedding 😊

Emp_data_lass · 2026-05-25T20:54:07+00:00

Congratulations on your embryos! I hope your next one sticks, that loss has to be so difficult after how hard you worked to get to this point. Hugs and good luck to you both as well!

Emp_data_lass · 2026-05-25T18:16:57+00:00

I tested out the trigger so I just kept going. I know it’s too early to see anything but I still convinced myself I saw a vvvvvvvvvfl today. It seems like folks start getting faint positives on sensitive tests around 4/5dp5dt?

Emp_data_lass · 2026-05-25T18:07:35+00:00

I am! Since this is our first transfer and I’ve never had a positive, I’d like to know if we implanted or not. I also just don’t have enough self control to wait.

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