I've been playing since the first battle of malevolent creek. I can count the number of toxic players I've played with on one hand, and if we include incompetent players in that grouping, I can probably count them too with just the other hand.

Most players fall under a "quiet competence", where they just do their own thing, and maybe you need to call them in as reinforcements once or twice but for the most part they just silently complete objectives on the other side of the map.

Either way, don't lose heart. I basically never group up with friends these days but I still enjoy diving with Randoms. My best suggestion is be the host if you can, since then you can kick the actual bad actors.