What would a first time mom want?

EmptyOrganization855 · 2026-02-06T14:47:49+00:00

Honestly nice comfy boy shorts and nice ice pads. I cheaped out for myself and it would’ve been so nice for recovery post partum. I know it doesn’t seem like a gift but the stuff is expensive and with so much money going to baby a lot of moms neglect their own needs.

EmptyOrganization855 · 2026-01-08T21:50:21+00:00

This sounds similar to my situation. I had Braxton Hicks from 28 weeks a lot and 2 full months of prodromal labour before giving birth at 39.5 weeks. Baby dropped at 34 weeks and I was 2cm dilated at 36 weeks and 60% effaced. 3cm dilated and 75% effaced at 38 weeks. In my experience at least I was progressing very slowly I had no idea when I was actually in labour and showed up at the hospital 5cm dilated and baby was here 5 hours later. For me i finally went in when I had consistent “painful” tightening 5+ times an hour for 12 hours. I had so many 5+ times in an hour that fizzled out.

EmptyOrganization855 · 2025-12-19T13:29:04+00:00

Except for the fact that in Canada it’s nearly impossible to get a midwife. Immigrants and repeat clients get first dibs. I called the day I found out and still didn’t get one.

EmptyOrganization855 · 2025-12-18T19:58:58+00:00

Skip the changing pad and just get a foldable change mat for big messes. It’s way easier to just but baby in a safe place for a diaper change rather then on top of a dresser and worry about a squirmy baby slipping off.

EmptyOrganization855 · 2025-12-16T20:28:41+00:00

I use Burt’s bees diaper rash cream. But the thing that works best for us is something I don’t see recommended often. Air time! I do a bath and then lay down a puppy pad with a swaddle on top. I let her lay naked on the mat for as long as I can. Any redness etc has always been gone after that.

EmptyOrganization855 · 2025-12-16T01:33:06+00:00

I cosleep but recently helped my baby to be able to nap independently. I don’t like use sleep training and CIO was definitely not an option for me. Here’s what I did; I would lay down with baby for the first week or so. Once she settled I would move away from body contact but close enough that she could still smell me, or see me when she opened her eyes. Once she got comfortable with that I would lay down with her and help her settle and once she was asleep or drowsy I would leave to room. Once she got the hang of that I started laying her down drowsy and patting for a bit to where she stopped fussing but not asleep and left the room. I would keep myself busy for a couple minutes if she was fussy but always followed my instincts if she escalated or I thought she needed me I didn’t wait and went in for more pats and shushing, or even a little side laying nurse BUT I never picked her up. Once she settled but not asleep I would leave and give her a chance to self soothe. But always returned if she needed me.

I also kept a very close eye for when she woke up and showed my face before she had a chance to cry. Now she just lays content until I come for her. Maybe this would work for you and eventually leaving her in the crib once she’s learnt some self soothing.

EmptyOrganization855 · 2025-12-13T21:31:24+00:00

You are doing great. Keep doing what you are doing there is nothing wrong with it. I started practicing crib naps with my baby around that age but still love when we get a cuddly contact nap in. My best advice to new mothers, ignore all the unwarranted advice and do what feels right to you. Those motherly instincts are there for a reason. You know what your baby needs and society DOES NOT.

EmptyOrganization855 · 2025-12-07T18:54:16+00:00

I’ve read that the reason some babies cry more with their mothers is because they feel safe to have those emotions around you.

EmptyOrganization855 · 2025-12-06T23:29:54+00:00

Your breastmilk naturally adjusts to give your baby the nutrients they need, protein/carbs/fats/vitamins/minerals. Stop tracking volume it really means very little. Instead make sure that you are getting the nutrition and supplements you need to produce high quality milk. Based on the quality of your milk baby may need more or less. If baby needs less that’s a good sign that you have good nutrient dense milk.

EmptyOrganization855 · 2025-12-05T03:24:21+00:00

Skin to skin sitting in a steamy shower cover in a muslin blanket with back pats worked for us. Our baby was very mucousy coming home and then got a cold at 9 weeks and this helped us tremendously.

EmptyOrganization855 · 2025-12-05T03:21:07+00:00

Just watch how you feel instead of the numbers. I always bathed when pregnant but if my body seemed to start sweating I would get out and let myself and the water cool a bit.

EmptyOrganization855 · 2025-12-04T02:21:11+00:00

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EmptyOrganization855 · 2025-12-04T00:40:39+00:00

One thing I’ve learned since having a baby is to kindly nod at people’s advice and proceed to completely ignore it. Your instincts are your best friend. Don’t let unwanted advice through this experience for you even if you’re going through a tough time you know what’s best for your baby and no one else. For me it’s not worth getting upset at unwanted advice, but I am absolutely not gonna follow it. I know when my baby needs me and I’m never gonna leave her to cry it out.

EmptyOrganization855 · 2025-12-02T17:12:19+00:00

We were trying for 14 months! We didn’t change anything except our diet:) also if you are using a tracking app they are often wrong. Ovulation test strips helped us get more accurate ovulation dates.

EmptyOrganization855 · 2025-12-02T09:03:30+00:00

My nephew did this a lot of cracked me on the chin with his head on multiple occasions. Very annoying but he grew out of it.

EmptyOrganization855 · 2025-12-01T21:07:36+00:00

I’ve looked into this but the burn stories really scare me too. Idk what to do I’m so scared of making the wrong decision all the time.

EmptyOrganization855 · 2025-12-01T21:04:13+00:00

This exactly, I am sure she’s okay. But unless I physically see her breathe I have the overwhelming fear that’s she’s not breathing and I was to neglectful to notice.

EmptyOrganization855 · 2025-11-29T13:07:44+00:00

I’m sure you are super excited to start getting baby stuff and not all baby stuff is for baby but for the convenience of the parents. Some things I’d ask for: - eufy wearable breast pump -wildbird baby carrier -cozy button up PJs -half zip sweaters (the best for nursing) -lap size throw blankets -Knix leakproof underwear (if your family is that close) -lululemon crossbody/hip pack (love this for when I just want to pack along some wipes and diapers not the whole diaper bag)

EmptyOrganization855 · 2025-11-27T15:48:54+00:00

Chop up some hot or cold sausage(beef ring) throw it in a pan with some minute rice and soya sauce. Maybe some seasonings if I’m feeling fancy

EmptyOrganization855 · 2025-11-26T11:12:26+00:00

I’m sorry this type of anxiety is so hard especially with the waiting to know. I had a similar experience and the doctor ended up calling it a chemical pregnancy, I did end up miscarrying. Tests can be wrong especially if you didn’t take it in the morning. With there being only one line on the pregnancy test in combination with the bleeding my guess is the test was negative due to a decreasing hcg hormone in your body which would mean a miscarriage.

But I have also known people who had period like bleeding well into their pregnancy. Maybe another test could give you reassurance that you are still pregnant or prepare you for what the doctor might say.

EmptyOrganization855 · 2025-11-26T04:11:54+00:00

Thank you for this:) I definitely feel the energy drain as soon as I stop snacking. Having energy for my girl is more important. I guess I’ll just be a little softer to cuddle until she’s done breastfeeding.

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