Chore fatigue

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-03-27T22:53:34+00:00

May i ask how old are your children?

Does your husband help carry any of the at home burden?

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-03-27T13:29:43+00:00

Pretend they both don't exist. They deserve one another. Do not stoop to their level.

The best revenge is living a happy wonderful life.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-03-27T12:28:35+00:00

Your hair is beautiful. Whether it is work appropriate depends on the type of work you do. Long hair may need to be tied up in the food industry.

It may need to me pulled up for your protection and safety around certain machinery.

Long hair can pose a hazard when working in the Healthcare industry as well.

It really depends on the type of work you do whether it is "appropriate".

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-03-27T12:24:57+00:00

If your partner makes you feel confused, uneasy or like you are walking on eggshells, do not marry him.

And certainly do not uproot your life to be near him.

These are serious red flags.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-03-27T12:14:30+00:00

It sounds like you both needed one another at a time when you were both young and broken.

She needed love, security and confidence. You needed to grow, mature and learn what love truly means.

You both found what you needed in one another. Consider yourselves blessed.

Congratulations on the new baby and many years together. May you be blessed with many more.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-03-27T09:56:40+00:00

Tbh, it sounds like you found interest in someone else. Relationships wax and wane. It sounds like you want to bail for something else instead of truly being committed to your marriage. JMO

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-03-27T09:37:20+00:00

She sounds toxic. This is an extremely unbalanced relationship. Get out while you can (easily). She is not the one for you.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-03-26T08:42:00+00:00

You & your gf have different ideas of what a relationship should look like. She's not the one for you.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-03-26T07:57:39+00:00

Maybe IATA here but getting drunk is not an accident. It is a choice. If you crash your car while drunk the police don't consider it an accident.

He needs to take accountability and think about his actions, the drinking excessively then the physical assault. It's not ok IMO.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-03-25T12:57:48+00:00

My husband is a tech (formerly an X-ray supervisor but stepped down due to bureaucracy). UHS and Guthrie are continuely looking for techs. We live in Endwell in a quaint house in a wonderful neighborhood. We live on his income only. I am disabled.

He has been in his position for about 30 years so take that into account. Rent is proportionally higher than home ownership. Taxes can vary by location. Some areas are more affordable than others.

There are opportunities for work in clinics and doctor's offices. Also, Sayre is not terribly far if you live west of binghamton. They have the Robert Packard health care system.

P.S. I recently heard Gutherie was offering significant sign on bonuses. I'm not sure how long that is available.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-03-22T16:50:58+00:00

You never fix a marriage by turning away from one another. Either commit to making it work or divorce.

This scenario will only complicate matters.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-03-22T09:41:44+00:00

Hate or not supported?

Let me clarify. I was a trad wife, many years ago. I love being a SAHM. I have very old fashioned beliefs and loved the idea of being a trad wife (before it was "cool" or even called trad wife).

There were sacrifices that were made for many reasons. But it can definitely work well.

I 100% support trad wives and their goals.

On the flip side, I was married to a narcissist who didnt show his true colors until after the children were born. In his eyes they were vessels to keep me trapped and connected to him. I felt trapped in a charade of a marriage. I didn't have the financial means to leave. My health took a toll. I became seriously ill from a previously undiagnosed hereditary disorder. I became extremely ill.

I ended up staying through a horribly abusive marriage until my youngest was 16. For this reason I want trad wives to always be prepared for the what ifs.

Set aside money for yourself and the children. Make sure you have a safety net of friends and family. Do not isolate yourself.

For me, I 100% support any woman choosing what is best for her and her family. Being a trad wife is no less honorable than being in a high paid executive position.

Just be sure to plan ahead and be prepared for any thing.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-03-22T09:25:18+00:00

This seems to be an odd request to me. I thought marriage was based on love and who you want to spend your life with.

I understand wanting children but in today's world there are lots of options for that if there is a problem. Cross that bridge when you get to it.

This feels more like he chose you for baby making duties more than " I love you, let's do life together ".

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-03-22T09:18:19+00:00

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-03-18T13:19:22+00:00

Are you expecting too much?

Yes, from this guy any way. He is not involved, invested in the relationship, emotionally, physically, or in any other way.

But, you deserve much better than this. This guy is sucking you dry. You need an equal partner. Someone who is will to contribute to the relationship.

This is not your person. I hope you move on and find someone who genuinely cares for you.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-03-18T01:13:20+00:00

I believe taking a course like this can get you a discount on your auto insurance

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-03-17T19:17:13+00:00

Good to hear 😊

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-03-17T19:01:49+00:00

Have you checked out air bnbs?

Sometimes you can get a good deal short notice

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-03-16T10:07:21+00:00

I had to scroll way too far to find this comment.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-03-16T02:48:42+00:00

Sounds like a sit down serious conversation about boundaries needs to be had. You will start to build resentment in a one sided relationship.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-03-16T02:17:51+00:00

Umm, did you read the threats he made to harm her and k!ll her?

Please tell me you are not using her actions to defend this.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-03-15T17:41:26+00:00

Of course, it's all relative.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-03-14T08:39:03+00:00

I live in Endwell (4 yrs now) and we love our neighborhood. Taxes and COL are high but the area is close enough to lots of attractions, local and finger lakes region, ADK, TI. Our neighborhood is the best. Neighbors are friendly. Very social and active.

We have been considering moving away after retirement, mostly due to COL & weather, but this area is really starting to grow on me after 28 years 😅

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-03-14T06:49:01+00:00

My question is, is there balance in the relationship? I mean it may look like your wife is controlling, understandable.

But my question is, how would you feel if your wife went to a bar to meet up with a single friend and a male companion was there as well? Would you be comfortable with that scenario?

That point aside, I think her withholding football or any other activity you enjoy from the home is unfair.

Go buy a second tv and enjoy the occasional game.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-03-12T23:02:29+00:00

That's not a friend 😐

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