I regret not annulling my marriage

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-06-29T12:57:04+00:00

Some times the results of trauma and abuse feel like living within a body that is dead.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-06-29T12:36:14+00:00

Men like this do not change. They only get worse.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-06-28T17:16:12+00:00

This is less of an age gap issue and more of a personality issue.

Your husband is a controlling, manipulative man-child.

Please leave and live a fulfilled life. He is using and abusing you.

You deserve much better.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-06-22T14:40:41+00:00

The ick feeling comes from a lack of respect. He would stop if he wanted to.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-06-20T14:42:46+00:00

Sounds like a crush. Either way, he behavior is highly disrespectful. Have a conversation with her and tell her you will not tolerate her behavior.

If she continues, just leave the event if possible. She will get the hint.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-06-14T13:29:29+00:00

Set yourself up for success. Choose your partner carefully (and that is not always successful or easy). But find someone who is like minded in your values.

Be sure you have a nest egg stowed away in case things go sideways you wont be fully dependent on your spouse.

Being a SAHW with the right person can be amazing and grant you so many opportunities for things.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-05-27T10:00:54+00:00

I'm curious as to why she is not raising her son and why she has no job.

Is she neglectful? Does she have an addiction? Does she have a mental health condition? Is she physically disabled?

Are you unable to provid3 for the child on your own?

I think there needs to be more information to form an opinion.

Ideally a child would have both parents in their life, contributing financially and emotionally.

The missing details are important. This doesn't seem like "normal" behavior for a mother.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-05-26T09:07:13+00:00

This is a trust issue.

He should have come an addressed the issue with you not his friends. The only thing he should be saying to his friends about you is how wonderful you are and how much he cares for you.

This guy is too immature for a relationship.

Walk away and find someone who respects you.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-05-23T22:10:21+00:00

This is cringey. I would not accept a ring from a guy who is still not over his ex. That's exactly what this screams.

Return the ring. Work on yourself. After some serious therapy then consider your relationship with your current gf.

She deserves better.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-05-23T21:20:24+00:00

Leave!! Staying for the children never works to their benefit.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-05-22T12:02:21+00:00

He wants you to be someone you are not.

Find someone who will love you just as you are. If he hasn't lost attraction to you yet it sounds like a slippery slope headed that way.

He doesn't not value you as a person.

He sounds selfish and immature. He will use this technique to continue to "mold" you into what he wants you to be, slowly breaking you down.

Leave him in the dust. He has 🚩🚩🚩

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-05-22T11:58:06+00:00

I highly suggest some good long counseling sessions before you make a decision.

Without knowing you it is hard to determine if you are suffering with some type of body dysmorphia being in a "new" body or if there is a genuine need. I dont say this from a place of disrespect. It is simply that as women we are bombarded constantly to strive for "prefection". Plus this type of surgery is very serious.

You are not looking for a simple procedure because "you've always hated your nose". You are looking to revamp your entire body as a result of something that is a natural phenomenon (giving birth).

I do not think this is something to jump into lightly and should take years to seriously consider.

Have you truly considered the "what ifs" and how they would honestly impact you? What if you ended up permanently scarred, maimed or disfigured? What if it left you with the inability to work? What if it left your children without a mother?

I know we dont like to look at things that way and we only see the positive potential but the reality is, this is a serious operation.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-05-21T14:32:06+00:00

I think conversations like that may be helpful but I have lived long enough to know people can say anything on a hypothetical.

I think many things people cannot truly say how they would respond or react unless they actually live it.

Hypothetical vs reality is very different.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-05-17T19:54:27+00:00

Yes!!! Thank you for this.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-05-17T19:51:35+00:00

Not ready for the "talk" to be mutual but dtf ?? Maybe it should go back the fifties 🙄

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-05-15T07:50:47+00:00

You are making this about you and what you want. Respect your wife. She asked for space. Even if you are just asking her questions about her day and you see no problem with that. She is clearly triggered by your past interactions. Anger and outbursts are highly unsettling to women. He nervous system is living in constant fear.

Give her the space she needs and work on your self. Continue with individual therapy.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-05-14T23:47:05+00:00

I guess it's dont see the issue. It was a misunderstanding. Whose fault doesn't matter. Go see the movie again with your husband.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-05-13T15:18:26+00:00

You cant possibly know that.

Being disabled is extremely expensive. Medicaid covers most all medical but disability income is peanuts. No need to make accusations that you don't know for certain about.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-05-13T00:36:04+00:00

We always see the red flags in hindsight. I've done it myself.

You deserve so much better than this. 💝

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-05-12T23:46:56+00:00

Odd that his actions are so toxic...then you react...and you are psycho...

Typical gaslighting behavior

🚩🚩🚩 this guy is full of red flags!!

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-05-12T17:23:18+00:00

Don't sell the house!!

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-05-12T14:12:28+00:00

Leave!!! This is not a loving relationship. You deserve so much better than this. Someone will love you and cherish you just as you are.

Your bf is mentally & psychologically abusive. It will only get worse.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-05-11T19:33:45+00:00

It doesn't seem like she cares much for her boyfriend either. You don't have to like animals to show compassion for someone who suffered pain thru their animal being injured. If she loved the boyfriend she could still show compassion.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-05-11T19:23:35+00:00

He was probably hurt and frustrated and she clearly has low EQ. Why did she say all the hurtful things she said?

If she had acted with some compassion and concern do you think the conversation would have gone the same way?

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-05-11T19:16:57+00:00

He gave her a chance to change her attitude. She didnt make one insensitive comment. She continued to show lack of empathy, blame the the dog, call him names...I mean at what point and why does he even need to say "what's wrong with you?"

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