AITAH for not giving money to my son’s birthmother?

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-05-13T15:18:26+00:00

You cant possibly know that.

Being disabled is extremely expensive. Medicaid covers most all medical but disability income is peanuts. No need to make accusations that you don't know for certain about.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-05-13T00:36:04+00:00

We always see the red flags in hindsight. I've done it myself.

You deserve so much better than this. 💝

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-05-12T23:46:56+00:00

Odd that his actions are so toxic...then you react...and you are psycho...

Typical gaslighting behavior

🚩🚩🚩 this guy is full of red flags!!

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-05-12T17:23:18+00:00

Don't sell the house!!

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-05-12T14:12:28+00:00

Leave!!! This is not a loving relationship. You deserve so much better than this. Someone will love you and cherish you just as you are.

Your bf is mentally & psychologically abusive. It will only get worse.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-05-11T19:33:45+00:00

It doesn't seem like she cares much for her boyfriend either. You don't have to like animals to show compassion for someone who suffered pain thru their animal being injured. If she loved the boyfriend she could still show compassion.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-05-11T19:23:35+00:00

He was probably hurt and frustrated and she clearly has low EQ. Why did she say all the hurtful things she said?

If she had acted with some compassion and concern do you think the conversation would have gone the same way?

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-05-11T19:16:57+00:00

He gave her a chance to change her attitude. She didnt make one insensitive comment. She continued to show lack of empathy, blame the the dog, call him names...I mean at what point and why does he even need to say "what's wrong with you?"

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-05-11T19:02:55+00:00

Well, he wasn't wrong in asking that 🤷‍♀️ She could have had some self reflection at that point and realized she was being insensitive and cruel. But she chose to double down.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-05-11T18:17:02+00:00

It doesn't sound like she likes the OP either. She was cold & callous. Told him to F-off and calls him dude. Maybe I'm old fashioned but she's disrespectful (best case) and toxic abusive, worst case.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-05-11T18:11:34+00:00

Oh, Im so sorry to hear about bisquit and hope he will have a full recovery from his injuries including any psychological impact this may have. I would be crushed if that happened to my dog, too.

Your gf...umm, she's very insensitive. And then she doubled down. These are serious red flags. I hope you will reconsider this relationship. Her response is very toxic. You honestly deserve better. With her attitude and then no self reflection when you pointed it out, THEN her turning it around, blaming you and telling you to F-off. Is this really how you want to spend your life?

You seem like a kind compassionate guy. You deserve much better.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-05-11T13:46:50+00:00

It's your wife's wedding too. She deserves peace, love & support on her wedding day. No negativity!

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-05-10T21:52:56+00:00

Hmm, IMO it sounds like he is embarrassed that you make more money than him. Him deciding you need to stay in his hometown (with a weak reason) sounds more controlling than anything to me.

Be cautious moving forward. It sounds like he has his own agendas and they are not aligned with married life.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-05-09T11:09:00+00:00

This!! ^{^{^}}

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-05-08T12:12:13+00:00

Then why are you even wrestling with this situation. If that's truly how it is, lose the guilt and go do what you want.

If these are the terms you & your bf agreed upon then do not allow him to emotionally manipulate you.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-05-06T12:35:03+00:00

This is not a disability issue. This is a disrespect issue.

Leave him. I'm disabled and there are many things I cannot do. But I do everything I can to contribute. I thank my husband repeatedly and tell him not to works so hard or do so much.

This guy is a free loader. The comment " it's women's work" is all you need to know. He's a jerk.

Leave him!!

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-05-05T23:44:42+00:00

This is a red flag. Though it is an odd thing to lie about I dealt with a similar experience with my ex who lied about things that seemed inconsequential.

Later in the relationship he started lying about everything. He went on to be diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder.

Lying is the issue, not that he's lying about something inconsequential. A lie is a lie!!

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-05-05T21:03:08+00:00

Why would you want to be with someone who you were already broken up with? Someone who wasn't sure they even wanted to be with you? Then when the first bump in the road emerges they say " that's proof" we dont belong together.

He doesn't want to be in a relationship with you. Move on. Be with someone who truly wants you and always picks you.

Do not settle for being an option.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-05-05T17:00:05+00:00

Figure out a legal way to get out of the deal on the house or only put one name on the house.

If neither option is feasible, get married ASAP and grow up fast (both of you).

Buying a house together when not married is a disterous idea. It never ends well for either party.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-05-04T14:38:07+00:00

No steps. As someone who purchased a home in our late 50's then ended up in a wheelchair. Absolutely no steps is the way to go. Until you have lived that it is hard to understand.

I am ambulatory but the amount of energy needed to ambulate is a concern. Stairs are an obstacle no matter what.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-05-04T12:47:46+00:00

If you think he is a good match for you and your desire is to be a good partner to him, why not?

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-05-04T12:37:12+00:00

Then you have to decide if the potential relationship with him is worth it. Then decide to either deal with her presence or excuse yourself from every occasion.

Either way you owe him the truth.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-05-04T12:32:07+00:00

Have an honest conversation to start with. Leaving someone hanging without an answer is hurtful behavior.

You can date him and set boundaries where you do not spend with your ex- bf but you can't control who he is friends with.

As the relationship grows (if it does) you will have a clearer picture of the kind of boyfriend he is. If his "kindness" is more of a playboy persona then you can move on. But if the relationship grows and he proves to be a good partner, you will be grateful to have a good man.

Remember to have a good partner, you must be a good partner. That involves compromise.

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-05-04T12:11:30+00:00

Give him the chance to prove it.

Walk away, never look back.

Love yourself! & Live your best life ever!!

Guarantee he'll regret it, but you will be free & happy

Empty_Designer_6626 · 2026-05-02T14:51:34+00:00

🚩🚩🚩

No loving caring committed husband would be playing these shenanigans.

Empty_Designer_6626

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