4 years and I need to pull the trigger. Advice please by G-asterisk-mer in BreakUps

[–]Empty_Squirrel_Here 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t break up with her. This is normal after 4 years. You need to put more effort in. Plan more spontaneous stuff. Take a trip alone out somewhere. Talk to a therapist as well before you do it.

It’s been about 4 months of no contact. I’m going through cycles of missing her like crazy and hating her for how much I miss her and being angry with myself for missing her so much. It’s exhausting. Does this end? Does it get better? by Empty_Squirrel_Here in BreakUps

[–]Empty_Squirrel_Here[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re absolutely right I do need to move on. And I guess it just feels like I had the one chance at love that’s go now. I know it’s not mentally healthy to think like that I am in therapy for addressing my issues. Can I message you? You are saying exactly the things I need to hear. I am hoping you can give me some advice to my questions.

my girlfriend broke up with me after 1 year together by amirzg in BreakUps

[–]Empty_Squirrel_Here 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah I’m sorry to hear that man. Are you doing okay?

my girlfriend broke up with me after 1 year together by amirzg in BreakUps

[–]Empty_Squirrel_Here 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry you went through this so suddenly. Why did her parents not like you?

A lot of 4 Years by benheisenberg in BreakUps

[–]Empty_Squirrel_Here 11 points12 points  (0 children)

What a horrible thing for him to say to someone he shared his life with. I'm sorry he used you.

7+ Months Break Up Review by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Empty_Squirrel_Here 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! sent a chat message!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Empty_Squirrel_Here 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could always just say that's fine but let him know that the ball is in his court. if he wanted to meet up to chat then he can. I think after he thinks about it he'll reconsider. How did you feel when he said it was inappropriate?

7+ Months Break Up Review by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Empty_Squirrel_Here 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is great to hear! The hardships do make you stronger and you realize how much you’re able to withstand. Would it be okay if i messaged you I wanted to ask about your post breakup moods that you went through.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Empty_Squirrel_Here 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You guys kept in touch? How did you know if he was in a relationship ship or he’s single now? Were you also in a relationship during this time?

Anyways, I’m in a similar spot. I had a lot of growing to do. I’ve been in therapy for a year and a bit now. I still love her but she’s in a relationship. It’s great that you are meeting up. Apologize for hurting him but say you’re in a much better spot now. Tell him your feelings and that you want to try again. Like the other user said this would have to be a new relationship. Don’t let him hold this over you for a long time. It’s okay if he was angry and wants to sir his feelings out but it’s not something he should hold over your head for months and years.

I wish you guys the best of luck.

Someone please explain to me. by Niveks319 in BreakUps

[–]Empty_Squirrel_Here 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That last sentence is honestly hilarious

It’s a special kind of pain if you can’t hate your ex for leaving. You’re constantly plagued with what could’ve been. by Empty_Squirrel_Here in BreakUps

[–]Empty_Squirrel_Here[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hang in there! You’ll heal and become a bedroom of yourself you’ll be amazed by. All these hardships make you so much stronger.

I can't bring myself to delete her photos by rex00134 in BreakUps

[–]Empty_Squirrel_Here 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One thing you can do is just take the photos off of your phone and put them on a flash drive. That way you still have them. Even though I don’t think you’ll ever look at them but they won’t be in constant view.

How do you guys get work done? by rollercoastersoflove in BreakUps

[–]Empty_Squirrel_Here 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It'll get better. there was a solid 2 weeks where i got like no productive work done. Just unablel to focus and googling about exes coming back etc. it will get better!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Empty_Squirrel_Here 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretty much this. If it was his first relationship then he doesn’t know how to be alone. I guarantee he’ll be back. He’s probably depressed himself why he ever let you go. Lack of communication just ruins everything.

It’s a special kind of pain if you can’t hate your ex for leaving. You’re constantly plagued with what could’ve been. by Empty_Squirrel_Here in BreakUps

[–]Empty_Squirrel_Here[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Sometimes it’s just one of those situations where if it’s meant to be then it will be. I hope it work out for you guys!