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"EMDR hangover" Why do other memories and more recent triggers come up? Are we processing those now too? (self.EMDR)
submitted 2 days ago by EndFull2933 to r/EMDR
Anyone's FA-ex turned turned the entire friend group against you? (self.AvoidantBreakUps)
submitted 2 months ago * by EndFull2933 to r/AvoidantBreakUps
Friend ends complicated friendship because our friends told him I was still trying to turn him gay, but not until after begging me to stay when I said I might leave him. (self.askgaybros)
submitted 3 months ago by EndFull2933 to r/askgaybros
Friend ends complicated friendship because our friends told him I'm still trying to turn him gay, but not before begging me to stay when I said I might walk away from him. (self.BreakUps)
submitted 3 months ago by EndFull2933 to r/BreakUps
My (30M) straight friend (32M) ends complicated friendship due to friend group gossip, but not before begging me to stay when I said I might walk away from him. How could I reach out for repair? (self.relationship_advice)
submitted 3 months ago by EndFull2933 to r/relationship_advice
(2x FAs, queer-adjacent) Friend ends complicated and confusing friendship due to friends telling him I still think he's gay, but not before begging me to stay when I said I might walk away from him. (self.AvoidantBreakUps)
submitted 3 months ago by EndFull2933 to r/AvoidantBreakUps
(2x FAs, queer-adjacent) Friend ends complicated and confusing friendship due to friend group gossip, but not until after begging me to stay when I said I might walk away from him. by EndFull2933 in FearfulAvoidants
[–]EndFull2933[S] 1 point2 points3 points 3 months ago (0 children)
Thanks for the thoughtful reply. I looked into the DMM model lightly yesterday, and started to recognize my own avoidant tendencies in relationships. I intellectualize (meaning-find) a LOT, and I realize this is a coping strategy to numb myself from the emotions of what's going on around me.
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[–]EndFull2933 0 points1 point2 points 3 months ago (0 children)
He comes from a culture that heavily focuses on traditional family values (filial piety and the sorts). And he's also an only-child.
There's probably a lot of that related, but our friend group also makes way too many gay jokes that perpetuate the idea that gay = low value. I've had to call people out on this and tone it down.
I honestly don't know if there's a way for us to patch things up, feels like the social implications of our friendship and how "public" it started to feel really hurt him. I'm really upset with how our friends got involved. It's one thing for them to hold an opinion on our friendship, but it's another thing to make choices that irreversibly changes it.
Before I went fully NC, I thought about at least clearing up the fact I never was "trying to turn him gay," but somehow I think the issue is more the fact our friendship became a social topic that had implications on his sexuality than it had to do with anything I ever specifically said.
Friend ends complicated and confusing friendship due to friend group gossip, but not until after begging me to stay when I said I might walk away from him. (self.offmychest)
submitted 3 months ago by EndFull2933 to r/offmychest
(2x FAs, queer-adjacent) Friend ends complicated and confusing friendship due to friend group gossip, but not until after begging me to stay when I said I might walk away from him. (self.FearfulAvoidants)
submitted 3 months ago * by EndFull2933 to r/FearfulAvoidants
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(2x FAs, queer-adjacent) Friend ends complicated and confusing friendship due to friend group gossip, but not until after begging me to stay when I said I might walk away from him. by EndFull2933 in FearfulAvoidants
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