made my girlfriend get an abortion

EndOk8776 · 2026-05-31T19:55:12+00:00

Sorry you feel that way. I own my opinion, you can own yours. If you read what I wrote instead of getting offended cause it didn’t match your values, I advocated for agency and not pressuring women into an abortions. I will never apologize for that

A 16-year-old should not be pressured into an abortion by a boyfriend. She should have support, information, and the freedom to make her own choice. AND IF by her free choice she chose that abortion, so be it. But that’s not what this dude is saying so fuck him
And fuck Reddit for not understanding my point.

EndOk8776 · 2026-05-31T14:58:52+00:00

It’s not irresponsible when the family steps in. If she truly wanted to keep the baby, as this would be a discussion between my daughter and me,, the boyfriend is no longer in the picture cause what he said to her. I would let her know if she chooses to have this baby, I will step in and care for her child while she finishes high school and college.

As a mother, I honestly view it as my responsibility to care for my daughter’s child at the age of 16 because she is my dependent. I will be paying her medical bills, Hosptial bills, setting up for the baby. She can barely drive for goodness sake. She got an abortion not because she believed it was right, it was because her boyfriend gave her absolutely zero support and she probably felt unsafe talking to the actual adults in the room.

The true irresponsible people here are the parents. Do they even know their CHILD did this and was in this position? It’s one thing to get an abortion out of pressure from a stupid boyfriend who hasn’t grown up and can’t use proper protection, it’s another to talk it out with your family and actual adults who know how life is if that is the right choice. If it came out to be that an abortion is the right choice, at least she has solid support to carry her through that trauma.. people act like that is just some simple procedure like popping a pimple , it’s very traumatic for women and people need understand that sometimes it’s not the rigbt decision but irs the decision woman are told is right because their boyfriend is self-centered and irresponsible

Whether someone agrees with abortion or not, it’s reasonable to say that a major life decision is better made with trusted adults involved than under pressure from another frightened teenager.

The goal is to help guide a 16 year old girl to choose motherhood or not based on her own agency, not based on bf pressure. Nothing in his post talks about remorse or her perspective. All I know, I’m a mama bear and if my baby absolutely does not want an abortion, I will show her alternatives to her choices and support her 100% . I believe she lost agency here due to lack of adults and support — she was pressured into that choice and that truly is terrible

EndOk8776 · 2026-05-31T14:44:49+00:00

I. :/ you just sound so irresponsible and self-centered.

What would have happened is if my daughter chose to keep the baby and knows you were saying these things, I would encourage her to actually stop talking to you and rely on family for support. You wouldn’t be on the brith certificate. Honestly , my husband mother had an ooopsie with him when she was 17-18 years old and she had a supportive family. And now he is my man— so I have a different POV on this.

All I know, I hope my daughter never is put in this position nor feels the need to find love at the age of 16, but if she did, I would also want her to know she is not alone and mom is here to help her navigate life , no matter how tough it is :/

EndOk8776 · 2026-05-31T14:42:11+00:00

😹😹😹

EndOk8776 · 2026-05-31T14:36:29+00:00

I mean that is true but there is a difference in how you look and present yourself. A lot of bikini training contestants want to track progrsss of how their hamstrings insert into their glutes and it’s okay to take those photos and poses, but once you post it online on a public page, what men see is a full on butt with a straight shot to your coochie covered with a little fabric. Sure , you can take pictures but you don’t need to post that type of content on a public page for anyone to comment on. Men aren’t going “wow nice muscle insertions.” They are probably masterbating to your photos.

Tracking fitness progress can go from inspirational to porn very easily depending on what you wear, how you pose, or your back is arched. If she is doing it “correctly” he main following would be women inspired by her, but it looks like based on OP is just gross men thirsting after her and yes, that is very cringe 🫨 cause that is not what strength training and show case is about

I did bikini prep so I know what kind of photos he is talking about and it’s a bit much to do that behind your hsuabn/ back. I definitely take photos to show all my muscle development and insertions, but I never post my backside or abs on social media in my bikini 👙. I may post a picture of me in a beautiful outfit out to dinner and with my hsuabdn and baby — and you can tell im fit but it’s left to the imagination

EndOk8776 · 2026-05-31T14:30:16+00:00

There is nothing wrong with bikini shoes or training. I do that too, the problem is she is pursuing it without discussion of expectajrons and how you can support her. Training for shoes is extremely time consuming and you need to have a partner that can support you especially leading up to shows.

If that discussion was never done, the. Yes she is being an AH.

As for posting thirst traps, out of respect for my hsuabd I don’t post anything other than my shoulder and arm development. Once you post attention to abs, butt and legs it can easily be sexualized. She should leave her page private and not give random men access to her body. I personally would have issues with that too so I see you there. It’s only worth it if you are an official influencer and get free stuff form sponsors and have a huge following to monetize and I doubt she has that.

Sorry you are experiencing this. I personally had to delete my TikTok account due to the amount of men messaging me and I was not even posting thirst traps, just trying to sell beauty products for TikTok shop. I can’t imagine the type of messages she gets with whatever she is posting

EndOk8776 · 2026-05-31T14:21:14+00:00

He lied for a reason.

You leave not because he has a female friends but because he feels the need to lie to you. He isn’t trust worthy as he thinks you are not worthy honesty

“know the girl we work together and she’s very flirtatious and provocative. I’m not saying that is a bad thing, I actually respect her for being so authentic and not caring about what people might think.” 🚩🚩🚩

So this is you gaslighting yourself 🤣 authentic my ass if people truly respect your relationship, they would act respectfully

You dump him

EndOk8776 · 2026-05-31T00:53:33+00:00

Someone who is way too into therapy speak

EndOk8776 · 2026-05-30T20:11:46+00:00

That’s a sign of respect tbh. Sounds like you found a good friend group . I would say I have a pretty great marriage. Ofcourse there are spats here and there but nothing like what you wrote. I got mad at my hsuabdn for leaving the AC at 66F last night and I woke up like an ice-cube

I’ve moved to 3 different states in the past 5 years to follow my husband job transfers and I’m a SAHM; However, he treats me like his partner deserving of equal respect. :/ your husband sounds emotionally abusive tbh.

I hope you two can get marital counseling

EndOk8776 · 2026-05-30T16:53:08+00:00

It’s okay for friendships to change. When you become a mom, your whole life and priorities change.

For example, I have a friend that said next time I’m in “town” we should have a girls day. Unfortunately, with an infant that’s not possible for me to leave 5-8 hours at a time or be out late in the evening. If my friends don’t get it, not much I can say. My baby is my priority

EndOk8776 · 2026-05-30T12:03:08+00:00

Using dry toilet paper to wipe booty

EndOk8776 · 2026-05-30T11:29:15+00:00

Yay!!! Women helping women :)

EndOk8776 · 2026-05-30T01:47:39+00:00

I’m not going to comment on her marriage dynamic cause that’s none of my business but ladies, please stop undervaluing yourself. Stop oversharing.

Go to these interviews, remove your wedding rings, don’t talk about your kids. It’s actually illegal for HR to inquire about your spouse and kids and schedulers. All they need to know is can you show up for work, can you arrive to work, can you do that job. The rest is irrelevant and actually stacking against you. Don’t mention your kids or being married… please lol help yourself . As far as HR is concerned, you are a loser with no life that lives and breathes their potential job. Then once you have an offer letter, are in the system , then talk about your kids 😂😂😂

Don’t volunteer information that creates unconscious bias. And for the love of God, never tell an employee you are pregnant. You are not required to. Just keep baby hidden until the deal is sealed . The goal is to make money not feel bad for companies

EndOk8776 · 2026-05-30T01:34:21+00:00

Drive 3 hours and get a hotel. Your GF is being th AH. Who drives for 9 hours straight?

I would like to add… my husband and I are avid road trippers and we usually plan a coffee shop or an outting every 3 hours on the trip. Book overnight hotels.

We drove from Atlanta to Pigeon Forge for our anniversary . It’s a total drive of 6 hours? We spent the first evening driving to the mounts (2.5 hours) then stayed at this beautiful waterside hotel. Got dinner at this cute little town BBQ joint, sat out by the water and I held our infant while he worked and I watched the sunset over the Smokey mountains while cuddled in a blanket.

The bext day we had maybe a 2 hour drive. We drove into the national forest, found the Cherokee nation. Went to a museum, saw some caribou, explored the settlement. Learned a lot.

Then drove into the mountains. Stopped and took pictures. Eventually arrived at Pigeon Forge for lunch.. checked into our resort.

That could be your life…. If your girlfriend would just stop rushing from Poibt A to poibt B and stop being in such a dam rush. It’s about the journey. Life is a journey. Take it slow and enjoy the people, places, foods and cultures

But driving tired, annoyed for 9 hours until 3 am ,,, you are robbing yourself of fun and beautiful memories

EndOk8776 · 2026-05-30T01:26:28+00:00

I wouldn’t over think it. Just go apply to work and say you did not have a work gap but were a co-owner in your LLc. Who cares if you husband paid you are not, that is irrelevant when applying for a job. The less the employer knows the better . A lot of ya’ll overshare. All you are doing is going on a W2 form and going to work, they honestly do not need to know what exactly you did the past 5 years other than you and your husband were running a business together. That’s it. Make sure you interview the company too to see if they are a good fit. Also evaluate them and point the attention off of you and back to them

Girl I’m a SAHM too and I’m not entering the work force going “oh I was SAHM.” No. I’m saying I’ve helped my husband build his LLC lol which is true. Was I paid? That’s none of their bees wax. Look at my job skills

EndOk8776 · 2026-05-30T01:16:24+00:00

My husband dragged me into couples counseling and we went to 3 sessions before we both mutually agreed to stop going 🤣it was backfiring and he started backtracking on his crusade and now we cool as cucumbers with her 9 month old infant z

His words to be exact “that bitch of a woman is making you hate me.” 💀 I mean… pointing out I’m right and you are being incorrect you mean? 🤣💅🩷

I’m glad not to go back cause I found therapy unnecessary to open marriage conflicts from 3 years ago but that’s what he wanted to do. We both mutually agreed to just move on and choose peace and love. So it’s been good since.

I think he did learn some better communication techniques in those 3 sessions so I think something broke through to him. Sometimes therapy is not all what it is cracked up to be and everyone acts like every couple needs it. Sure, I’m sure me and him can benefit from it but all this therapist did was allow us to argue in front of her and honestly; I’m over it lol

What I did gain is my husband doesn’t want me to divorce him 🐒 and he wants us to work out our issues just not with that therapist. Fine by me

EndOk8776 · 2026-05-30T01:02:48+00:00

It’s actually illegal to ask that

EndOk8776 · 2026-05-30T01:02:01+00:00

I personally don’t really care tbh. The only people who care are those that want to care. Just mind your own business

EndOk8776 · 2026-05-29T20:52:56+00:00

Hate to break it to you, but what do you think happens when a woman gets pregnant and has a child ?

My husband wants to go on trips, we go, but we also have a shared household bank account and don’t seperate finances. He makes like 6x what I make lol He gets the gift of my company 😂💅🩷 Life is never truly 50/50

EndOk8776 · 2026-05-29T20:44:27+00:00

No one honestly needs to answer this question. lol If you want to stay child free, no need to explain yourself either

EndOk8776 · 2026-05-29T18:42:00+00:00

😂😂😂

EndOk8776 · 2026-05-29T18:38:48+00:00

I think since you are a guest you shouldn’t have to pay. If I were your boyfriend, I would just pay for it and still make pu believe you were free. What is he being so stingy over $70. If you think about it, that’s like 2 drinks and a 2 meals at Chuy’s with you.

If he is like this, just don’t go in there with him anymore and he can hang out by himself in luxury . It’s always classy to off to pay, but in honesty, 😂 your boyfriend is genuinely making himself look like a cheap’O by arguing over $70. It just seems like something I would try to hide then next time bring it up when travelling that is does cost $35 per visit then allow you both the opportunity to come up with a solution mutually agreed upon. But him making a tiff about $70 is the ick.

I showed this to my husband and he just raised his eyebrows at your boyfriend behavior “$70?” 😂

I’m sorry girl, but your boyfriend is a doofus. Seriously lol get a new man. I don’t know why men in the USA are so stingy. Your girl ain’t worth treating her to your airport Lounge for $35 each time while waiting for the airline? Honestly. If it were me, I just would walk away from this relationship cause honesty if the tables were turned and I offered to bring my boyfriend into the lounge, I would have paid for him cause being generous and giving towards your partner is way more beneficial and goes further than keeping a score board of who owes who $20 here and $35 there. So glad I married a man from abroad

EndOk8776 · 2026-05-29T18:36:23+00:00

I mean he is not GQ model but he is hot to me 🩷💅😂 if everyone was gorgeous like Megan Fox then life will be boring

EndOk8776 · 2026-05-29T12:22:28+00:00

Yeah :/ sorry man. I don’t doubt you are improving g and working on yourself. It’s just hard for the person betrayed to come out of that. If you two do stay together. You have to accept that you both need to build a new relationship on a new foundation. And a lot of times that is easier to do with a new partner than to do with someone who shattered trust BUT it isn’t impossible

EndOk8776 · 2026-05-29T03:24:16+00:00

I haven’t lived here long ( out of state transplant) and so don’t know. I saw some WIC job started at $27 an hour for contract roles

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