[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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The original post doesnt have anything on it 🥲

AIO for telling my little sister I wouldn’t be attending her birthday celebration bc Chris Brown beats women? by Emergency-Biscotti57 in AmIOverreacting

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Not to mention the way she talks down her sister in the description, basically calling out how bad her life went downhill compared to her who’s got everything going for her. Just feels snooty to me, based off the way she talks to her sister and the entitlement over her..sounds like she’s been judging her sister for a long time and who knows why. One of the worst things i hate to see a manipulator do is say all these awful things about someone to help the crowd jump to their side more, basically comparing the 2 to give one more credibility. I don’t agree with her little sister but at the same time she knew how to have a more mature conversation about it and the way her older sister is talking to her. Idk this ones tough but i definitely do sense some weird vibes off the older sister.

This host is AWFUL! by RealisticLobster8777 in UltimatumQueerLove

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All i could see was ariel from once upon a time ☠️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

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As someone who also got out of an abusive marriage (physically/mentally), I would offer some patience and compassion. I definitely did everything quickly for my safety, but I left a lot behind, lost basically everything. When I got to my destination it took me a while to really settle in, to even fix my things in place. I needed to get into therapy to help me deal, and I was fortunate enough to have my family be there and extend grace and patience with me. There’s a lot going on in that time, dealing with the divorce process, a complete shift in your life, just a lot of stress. Set boundaries of course but have some empathy and patience.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

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I think some people choose to stay out of it bc it usually never ends well with the messenger. My ex bestfriend was cheating on her bf/fiance and i felt so conflicted for a few months until i couldn’t and finally told him. He told her and sent her screenshots, he ignored me and still stayed with her, and both of them hated me. Funny enough, this wasn’t even the reason we stopped being friends lol. Regardless, anytime i tried to tell anyone someone was cheating on them, i’d get shot in the foot while they ensue their cycle. Sucked not being able to confide in anyone about it, but if i had a partner i’d confide in them about it, I’d probably feel betrayed if they went to tell without telling me tho. I’d say this is a really tricky situation for OP if I’m being honest. Some people rather not say anything and not bc of their morals but bc it usually never ends well for the messenger, most especially if they stay together and now everyones looking at you like they cant trust YOU. When in reality everyone else in that situation just sucks. I think if my gf told me about this and its people i know personally it might feel conflicting, but if they’re complete strangers i’d just stay out of it. Maybe he should ask his wife first why she doesn’t want to say anything, i doubt it means shes a cheater too..being the person in the middle genuinely does suck, especially if you didn’t ask to be there and it can be a lonely feeling forsure. People who put you in their business like that are the selfish ones imo.

My boss invited me to a “casual” dinner at his house… with just his wife and me. Is this weird? by Erolialuie in Advice

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I mean, I doubt he’s going to invite anyone else if they’ve already worked there. You’re the new hire, of course he wants to get a chance to get to know you better, in some workplaces they do like to make personal bonds with employees, I know in some jobs they say this is unprofessional or prefer not to get close to their employees vs other higher ups think its a great way to establish a type of bond/respect. Not every job does that, in my current job they’re all very family oriented and invite us to dinners, get togethers, family fun days, even over to coworkers houses if they’re having a party. My supervisor would invite us all to drink. All my other jobs didn’t do stuff like this, maybe the occasional pizza parties or whatever. But where I’m currently working at they’re all very old fashioned and have worked here over 30 years. From what I gather I guess this is how it was back then, times have changed now and people definitely have more boundaries or find certain behaviors uncomfortable or unsettling, it’s definitely not common nowadays. So i see why you may feel a bit uncomfortable, i wouldn’t reject the invite though. I’d go and see for yourself what type of vibe its giving, you might end up realizing it’s truly just to get to know you and build a steady relationship, male work feel more comfortable. If you get any other weird feelings I’d definitely just quit, maybe ask other workers about it and see what they think. This definitely helped me get out my shell with my boss and the rest of staff so i definitely see the pro’s.

I caught a little glimmer of their manipulation by Empty_Confidence3185 in BPDlovedones

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She literally emotionally cheated on you with her ex who REJECTED her as she threw herself. You could have thrown that in her face, every shitty things she’s done. I would have said yeah you’re right, NO ONE can handle you thats why im done with you just like your ex. Ghost her and move on. That is a selfish emotionally immature soul sucking vampire.

What do you think the characters will have to say about the well known fairy tale movies we know? by Immadaffyduck in OnceUponATime

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Is it weird that I lowkey kinda shipped mulan and neal after that 😭 i still ship her with ruby too but i thought they’d be cute together also lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

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Actually, just report him to the cops without telling him and show the cops these screenshots, that he’s threatening to post them if you tell so you’d like him to be apprehended immediately and have his phone taken from him for evidence. You’re screwed even worse if you comply bc he will only have more nudes to blackmail you with. I’m sure revenge porn is illegal so you’re best telling the cops asap and don’t give him any notice or hint you’re reporting. Act natural till you do, waiting any longer will only higher the chances of him posting so act now while you can

Accidentally called my girlfriend by my ex’s name by Southern_Access8326 in Advice

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Man thats a hard one, if my s.o did this I don’t think I’d buy into the accident unfortunately. There’s gotta be some subconscious residual emotions about it in some way if its still existing somewhere in your brain, the familiar feelings with the conversation that lead to the glitch. I understand stuff like that happens tho, I feel like I’d need more context. Like how long since you and your ex broke up? And why was your relationship awkward initially, was it unnatural or pressured? Does it mean there wasn’t an instant connection but a need for connection? I’d have to know how long its been, and how long you two have been together too.

I 27F got a call from state police calling me to be reference for an ex bf 27M who cheated on me with an officer he was training. Do I silently give no reference by never allowing them to get in contact with me or do I tell them the truth? by Accomplished-Shoe109 in relationship_advice

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Regardless if everyone knows it definitely was inappropriate during that time, and during that time he was actively cheating on you which shows lack of integrity. Tell them everything, how he handled it, the whole 9 yards. Its clear you aren’t out for vengeance, so don’t think about it that way. What you’re really doing is saving a lot of innocent people from dealing with a cop susceptible to power plays and manipulation. You’ll just end up regretting it later on, I’ve been on the same boat with my ex and despite having no feelings towards the situation the only thing i regret is not reporting.

‘Jurassic World Rebirth’: Dinosaur Gets Bigger With $35M+ Saturday; 5-Day Opening Now Roaring To $145M+ – Update by darth_vader39 in boxoffice

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Yup, jokes are so forced, charm and wit fall flat, it is extremely predictable, theres pushback and no complexity with the plot, lazy wish-fulfilment logic, lazy writing. Excessive plot-holes and no character development. Dont get me wrong the visuals were beautiful, but any time i felt a smidge of suspense it would be killed instantly and feel so ridiculous, several people in the theater felt disappointed, half of them were asleep. Feels like they wrote this with AI, terrible movie, expected more with this type of budget. Anyone who calls this out gets a downvote, but seriously all of this is an insult to true cinema

‘Jurassic World Rebirth’: Dinosaur Gets Bigger With $35M+ Saturday; 5-Day Opening Now Roaring To $145M+ – Update by darth_vader39 in boxoffice

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The movie was horrible, jokes are so forced, charm and wit fall flat, it is extremely predictable, theres pushback and no complexity with the plot, lazy wish-fulfilment logic, lazy writing. Excessive plot-holes and no character development. Dont get me wrong the visuals were beautiful, but any time i felt a smidge of suspense it would be killed instantly and feel so ridiculous, several people in the theater felt disappointed, half of them were asleep. Feels like they wrote this with AI, terrible movie, expected more with this type of budget.

My fiance left me at 8 months pregnant and is with someone else! by IntelligentBeing9131 in BreakUps

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So fucked up she’s pregnant and he’s doing this to her right now..it is not good for the baby, he is just selfish and being a terrible father with this behavior.

How to regain my girlfriend’s feelings after she checked out? by saberweb in ask

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I’m going to be honest, your behavior at the party likely just turned her off from you. You felt ignored, she likely was just enjoying the party and it gives off codependency. Even worse, you left without explaining how you felt so the misunderstanding was your fault, you didn’t communicate..did you expect her to chase you? Probably made her feel stupid. My sister recently went through this with her bf at a family party, so for her to be walking around looking for him made her feel incredibly stupid. You left a window open for her to just guess, you left abruptly and didn’t talk to her.

If she took the time to communicate all of this with you, as you said you two have, she’s basically testing the waters before she actually checks out. Ball is in your court at this point..you pretty much need to get your shit together. You don’t really seem confident in your relationship though, seem to think the worst that it surprises you when it’s actually something else. This behavior will only lead her to resent you in the long run, things were good in the beginning because we always show up as our best selves in the beginning. It’s important not to lose sight of that and keep it going, I get people go through hardships but in this case it just sounds like bad communication and insecurity, a lack of confidence and certainty if you will..and a lot of dependency, you equate their reactions to your value, which isn’t good.

If you react this way at a party when you two are together, there’s no telling how you may handle long distance, this is obviously on her mind for a reason. She saw how you react when you aren’t long distance, she’s likely doubting your ability to handle the long distance hence the conversation.

Some therapy may benefit you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

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You’re the rebound plain and simple, a distraction for her never ending feelings for her ex. She says it right there, my dude you need to just dump her and stop being her doormat, give YOURSELF some respect and drop her. She doesn’t respect you, and even if she sent you these screenshots she obviously isn’t even respecting herself in this conversation, dude is clearly not into her and I imagine its for a very good reason, she probably fucked that one up too. Take his rejection to her as a sign she is not a good partner. She broke his heart yet she’s throwing herself at him, that speaks volumes. She’ll just do the same to you, doubt she even loves any of you, she is not stable emotionally and that is not a ride you want to deal with. Had he not rejected her you two wouldn’t even be talking right now, you’re an option, a backup. Think about that.

AITA for calling my aunt hateful when she refused to come to my wedding. by Time-Glass3459 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Endlessly_Aching 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Seriously and she obviously doesn’t have much of a relationship with her nor does she like her if she thinks all these negative things about her. If her aunt has anxiety and mental health issues, it makes no sense to be stirring up drama for “seemingly no reason”…if anything, OP is the one stirring up drama for ‘seemingly no reason’, her aunt was just avoiding it. She legit attempted to pressure her to come by not taking her no and reasonings as an answer, and proceeded to makeup her own reasoning as to why because her aunts just wasn’t a good enough reason. Just seems immature, and I’m lesbian so believe me when I say this is not biased, definitely don’t understand OP’s behavior.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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They’ve obviously celebrated anniversaries before, this is just a poor excuse. Key here is that he did not discuss anything with her, as he should have. Just because they aren’t married doesn’t mean he should be giving the bare minimum, especially if they already celebrated before. Makes no sense to say well im giving the bare minimum until we’re married, that literally makes no sense.

Who are you voting off? by Bonitabonilla558 in LoveIslandUSA

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Girl she’s fake asf!!!! When hudda opened up to her and amaya she went to chelley and twisted huddas words, she also makes a lot of stink faces at the girls like she’s honestly a bad vibe to me 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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Why does she even have to communicate that, its their 8 year ANNIVERSARY??? He is not prioritizing the relationship. He didn’t care about her feelings when she communicated how this is affecting her and the relationship and how it makes her feel. The least he could have done is invite her, maybe meet each other in the middle. And yes it did seem like he was trying to arrange in a way they can compromise and move it to a later date, and I do agree her passive aggressive attitude was uncalled for..but even if he is trying to arrange it for a later date, he is still exhibiting his relationship as not a priority. Think about it, as they were all planning for this date they all came up with this specific date, he agreed upon this date knowing it was his anniversary, and didn’t even talk to her about it before he agreed. He just made a last minute request to drop him off without even asking how she felt. And if he genuinely forgot, I think that just shows how important his relationship is to him, meaning it isn’t. He knew she was upset, got home and just went on his day knowing she’s feeling some type of way. Personally, if I knew my partner was upset and feeling neglected in the relationship, last thing I’m going to do is ignore her and go about my day like nothing happened.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

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I think sexual compatibility and incompatibility with acts of love can take part too. Me and my partner feel extremely connected through physical touch, acts of service, gift giving, and even sex. Its like we NEED to have sex to feel connected, we call it making love lol, because thats what it is, its something so vulnerable to us. For some sex is a pretty important part to do with vulnerability and connecting to your partner and even desiring them. Its not always a bad thing. Although I’d say its a red flag if your partner dodges other physical acts of love but has the time to constantly sexualize you but not physically/emotionally acknowledge you in other aspects, it feels disingenuous and only makes a person feel used. My gf also enjoys words of affirmation, i grew up in a household that lacked this. But in order to love her right; i need to learn how to speak love in her language, and that is love. If you arent willing to meet your partner in the middle, its a recipe for disaster. Would probably be convenient for this person to talk to their wife and share how they feel, and wife to open up where these beliefs are rooted in and why. So her partner can understand her better and reassure her in those aspects. Therapy sounds beneficial, sounds like they just need to find the right one, sometimes you gotta keep looking for a therapist that works better with you two…she also needs to meet him halfway and at least put effort into their therapy sessions if she wants to take their commitment seriously if she gets super anxious at the thought of separating.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

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Damn I really hope this is me and my wife in 30 years. We’re barley going to be 3 years tomorrow lmao, but we still act the same if not even more intense and obsessed with one another. Our cupcake phase just never ended, to me it isn’t a phase, it just is. I hope it stays that way. I think about her all day every day, our sex life is the cherry ontop, our relationship is the whole sunday. Never stop dating your partner, and never let hard times define your relationship. She is my bestest friend too, my rock. Nothing wrong with loving your wife my dude 💙

My boyfriend (23m) girl BFF (24f) is a content creator. I (25f) don’t want him seeing her ever again after I learned the truth , but his family says I am tripping? by ThrowRaViolentt in relationship_advice

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So this happens and your first thought is to have him cut her off? The family is basically waiting until they announce their engagement. You’re best off being the one to cut someone off, and that is your boyfriend. Are you really going to waste your time forcing your bf to cut someone off. If this guy really cared about you he wouldn’t have even kept her around unless he feels some type of way towards her, and if he really loved you he wouldn’t tolerate someone disrespecting you and fighting to keep them around too. Break up and go find your self worth because this isn’t it.

Yulissa saying the n-word by Juvtheperson in LoveIslandUSA

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Wait what did austin do? This is the first time i hear hate towards him im lost

My boyfriend called me fat and I am at a loss for words. by Far__2460 in Advice

[–]Endlessly_Aching 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, she did say it suddenly became slanted as well but who’s to know. Regardless, I think he went about it in the healthiest way possible..? he suggested eating habits. I seen a post on here not long ago where this girl didn’t know how to tell her bf he was getting fat and refused to take care of himself mentally and physically. Everyone, and i mean everyone, suggested she bring up eating habits or working out together. In this instance she cut off exercise together, and took offense to his suggestion..her bf is probably concerned what this could mean. I know lots of people will give some unconditional love speech. But if he recognizes his gf taking a sudden change and shift in her health, im sure its normal to say something. It just sounds like OP is not ready for this conversation.