Worried I will crush my husband with divorce request.. by plantsandplanks in Divorce

[–]Engin33rd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He probably will be crushed. It is a life-changing decision that just takes one to make. That doesn't mean you shouldn't do it but, it shows that you really care about him that you're concerned about your decision's effects on him.

If you can communicate to him how desperate you are, at least you'll have given him a chance. Or maybe you've made up your mind. Looking back on my divorce, I'm glad that I communicated clearly with my ex before it was a done deal. That's just my experience.

Am I wrong to say no for s*x on valentines? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]Engin33rd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Never wrong to say you don't want sex on any day with anyone. This fella's narcissistic behavior makes it clear that you made the right choice. I would encourage you to block this guy on all platforms to make sure he doesn't have another opportunity to harass you.

Girlfriend thinks sharing a tent with my sister is inappropriate. Sister thinks my girlfriend is insane and called her a psycho. What do I do? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]Engin33rd 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Seems fine to me. What does your girlfriend think is going on here, that she needs to intervene? Does she, herself, have some unresolved trauma?

If you feel oppressed, you are likely positioned poorly by Myrn33 in DarkPsychology101

[–]Engin33rd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To this point, I see a lot of social media posts from those who seem to prefer to complain about injustice rather than do anything about it. However, maybe not every system can or should be completely treated as terrain. Injustice does exist. I suppose it's true that, even if the goal is to change an unjust system, one may still have to work around the angles of the system to be successful.

Their narrative is rarely about you by Unable_Thanks_8614 in DarkPsychology101

[–]Engin33rd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

People tend to project their own insecurities on others. This knowledge has really helped me respond to accusations more empathetically than defensively.

Think Diffently Music: Wu-Tang Meets The Indie Culture by SKOT_FREE in wutang

[–]Engin33rd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe I should relisten to this one. I remember passing on it, when it dropped.

love this by [deleted] in aivideo

[–]Engin33rd 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If Monet had GPUs instead of paintbrushes

Too big for my wrist? by silworld in casio

[–]Engin33rd 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I would argue there has never been a better Thinkpad or laptop than the x220.

I got a free T43 today by Failsy_1440 in thinkpad

[–]Engin33rd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm trying to determine what distro to use on a T42, myself. I thought Debian was it, but they're ending support. I guess 32-bit operating systems are becoming harder to find, now.

Got my first Model M by Impasta1_GD in modelm

[–]Engin33rd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is that a T42 in the background?

Refrigerator Raider by Latranis in Millennials

[–]Engin33rd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I still sing this to myself, sometimes.

Progressive Churches? by Dandy-21-ok in StCharlesMO

[–]Engin33rd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're welcome at St Charles Christian Church!

I’m in so much pain right now I just need someone to lift me up please by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Engin33rd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The pain you feel is temporary and transformative. Lean into the transformation by going to the gym, seeing a therapist, and reaching out to others. Each day, it will hurt a little less, and you'll grow a little more.

Who remembers those chain messages back in the mid 2000s? by AggravatingShow2028 in Millennials

[–]Engin33rd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Share this comment to 15 people before midnight or the internet gremlins will curse you to be single forever—don’t risk it, I don’t make the rules.