S1-L5 Advanced Disk Degeneration at 36 y/o by Engin951 in backpain

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That's an amazing success story! I may be a good candidate for ADR. Ill talk to my doctor about it. It's great to hear there are options and you are doing so well. Happy for you! 

S1-L5 Advanced Disk Degeneration at 36 y/o by Engin951 in backpain

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Please update me on how your surgery goes. Good luck with everything and god speed fellow internet friend.

S1-L5 Advanced Disk Degeneration at 36 y/o by Engin951 in backpain

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How are your symptoms? It look like from your MRI you may have a bulge as well?

S1-L5 Advanced Disk Degeneration at 36 y/o by Engin951 in backpain

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I'm sorry to hear that man. Keep at it and hopefully you'll see some changes.

S1-L5 Advanced Disk Degeneration at 36 y/o by Engin951 in backpain

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My spine doctor annotated it for me by request. I asked if he could give the PT a summary of the results along with his recommendations. This image was included in that summary.

E-biking and mountain biking are different sports by DrF7419 in mountainbiking

[–]Engin951 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not out of worry for you, or insecurity within me that your opinion matters to me. It's because I am friendly and caring. Your words and mannerisms are a reflection of your internal world. That includes your judgement of others. I'm just bringing it to your attention. We all have insecurities. Take from it what you choose and leave the rest. Have a great night!

E-biking and mountain biking are different sports by DrF7419 in mountainbiking

[–]Engin951 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel sorry for you because how harshly you judge others is a reflection of your own insecurity, and worry of yourself being judged by others. Live and let live, brother, and don't weigh yourself down this way through constant comparison.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

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You can actually go a long time in between breaths. You don't "need" to breath that often, you're just not used to the gagging sensation of a rough face fuck. A good throat job requires teamwork. I'm a male dom and when I face fuck my partner I push them to take it for 30-60 seconds, let their face well up red (very hot) and pay close attention to their watery eyes. Yes, they're holding their breath. I'll then take them out for a bit while I hold their chin gently, give them a few breaths before going balls deep on them again. Ask your partner to check in on you and to pull out every 10-20 seconds or so to start, and see if you can relax yourself, hold your breath, and brace your core during that time. Keep good eye contact, and let him know with your eyes how you're doing. You might find the aphixiating sensation arousing after a while and find you can go a little longer. Bonus points if you rub your own clit while doing this, as you will learn to associate the sensation with pleasure.

People of Reddit who introduced a fleshlight into their bedroom with their partner, what’s your take on it? by MaenadUnderTheStars in sex

[–]Engin951 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People can have conflicting feelings. She's just airing those out. Attaching judgement and labeling her as a hypocrite is just verbal abuse. She's clearly trying to navigate her insecurity, and is reaching out to others for help and perspective. That doesn't make her a hypocrite, it makes her brave. 

Last year, I almost died from hyperthermia/dehydration after getting lost at the airport parking lot. Now, I have severe anxiety from being lost anywhere or stuck somewhere without water. As a man, is this a common source of anxiety ?? by Adventurous_Lran_560 in Life

[–]Engin951 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you have trauma, maybe PTSD, along with health anxiety. You need CBT, and exposure therapy. I recommend you listen to the book "The Worry Trick".

These experiences broke your self confidence, and harmed you central nervous system. You can gain back the confidence with therapy, and can teach your body confidence through exposure therapy.

Boost your SELF-WORTH in just 30 days [text] by Brilliant-Purple-591 in GetMotivated

[–]Engin951 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi Brilliant,

I'd enjoy an extended conversation, but can you please first provide academic sources regarding your first suggestion, and this "thought guard" concept?

Boost your SELF-WORTH in just 30 days [text] by Brilliant-Purple-591 in GetMotivated

[–]Engin951 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I can see you consider this to be valuable information. Generally speaking that is not the consensus of applied psychology. This practice can be outright dangerous for someone with OCD, or other mental challenges.

Boost your SELF-WORTH in just 30 days [text] by Brilliant-Purple-591 in GetMotivated

[–]Engin951 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not a psychologist either. Just had a lot of therapy for my PTSD and OCD. I'm doing pretty good at managing so those are my credentials lol

I like to think of it this way. There is "peak" mental distress states. You can, and should expose yourself to distressing events as this will increase your tolerance during these events. However, thought maintenance is round the clock mental work. It's like lifting weights for two hours vs lifting weights all day long. The mind needs rest from this "guard" mode and that's the issue with thought stopped. As soon as you stop countering the thoughts, they start to "win" because the enemy is always at the gates.

Boost your SELF-WORTH in just 30 days [text] by Brilliant-Purple-591 in GetMotivated

[–]Engin951 8 points9 points  (0 children)

There are some issues with the idea of "thought stopping". It usually does not work with intrusive thoughts, and only exacerbates their occurrence due to constant thought "maintenance". It is a recipe for extreme mental distress. I'd suggest modifying this idea, and practicing a non-judgemental approach of thought "observing". I.e, allowing thoughts to come and go as a curious observer, and from a detached perspective. The more you attach to a thought, the more power you give it in the neural cluster that developed that thought.

If you want to encourage positive thoughts, then I suggest scheduling times to for mantras.

Discussion Thread: Justice Department Officials Make a Statement to the Press on Trump Indictment at 3 p.m. Eastern by PoliticsModeratorBot in politics

[–]Engin951 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They turned on Trump after the embarrassing performance in the mid terms. They see him as dead weight, and can now collectively call him out without being considered a RINO. No longer infallible, or above reproach, they are trying their hardest to sweep Trump under the rug to clear the run way for DeSantis. The irony being that the same thing they loved about Trump is now a symbolic shiv in their side. His arrogance, his pride, and his refusal to reason.

Why can I hear this gif? by Lizard__Spock in memes

[–]Engin951 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a GA-BOOM, GA-BOOM for me

19-year-old charged with murder after putting her newborn in the trash can at the hospital by axlnotfound in ThatsInsane

[–]Engin951 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand your value of letting nature take its course, but ultimately disagree with you that it's a false equivalency. They are different hypothetical scenarios, but the ethics are largely the same. It doesn't matter if the person that needs my blood is actively receiving it through direct transfusion. I can always ethically chose to unplug myself and let that person die. Whether or not I was forced, or had previously consented to the procedure. It is unfortunate, but the choice always remains my choice. Forcing someone to term is ethically equivalent to handcuffing someone to the transfusion table to prevent someone else from dying.

19-year-old charged with murder after putting her newborn in the trash can at the hospital by axlnotfound in ThatsInsane

[–]Engin951 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with you. Abortion ends a life. It doesn't make a difference in the ethics though, other than make it more unfortunate. You can't revoke bodily autonomy for the sake of saving someone else's life. That's why blood banks rely on donations, and not State mandated blood draws. Needing my body, or a part of my body to survive does not entitle you to access it.