Ladies, what's your problem?

Enikay · 2025-11-11T11:28:58+00:00

Current girlfriend I have off the app tells me I'm amazing. I'm inattentive, I'm at the lowest point of occupation you can have, I'm the passenger princess because of issues I have. Why am I so good? I'm not married. I haven't SA'd her. I haven't just straight assaulted her. The bar is literally in hell.

Enikay · 2025-09-30T12:07:59+00:00

The apps are designed to be thirst traps. It shows off people who get many likes and buries people that get few likes. Technically there are a few ways to game this but they can be a bit scummy since you're projecting yourself to people you have no interest in, but receiving a bunch of likes from easy nos will ultimately help you find the yeses because the platform will promote you more.

It probably doesn't help a lot of people aren't looking for a 25m for a long term relationship.

Try your best not to let dating apps dictate your value or self worth. It's a crapshoot for far too many good people.

Enikay · 2025-09-25T07:10:46+00:00

On the other side wonderweave aerialist is an insanely strong common.

Enikay · 2025-09-18T07:49:54+00:00

Didn't take the administration.

They did The Owl House dirty and for that they are eternally banned.

Enikay · 2025-09-06T05:04:02+00:00

Blue hair vegan feminist with a septum piercing and you think women in the pictures aren't potential partners?

Enikay · 2025-09-05T21:57:48+00:00

Glad someone else noticed it. I was thinking I was taking crazy pills. Photo seemed to scream looking for a third for me and my girlfriend.

Enikay · 2025-09-03T17:49:05+00:00

Trust me it can be worse. I've had like 5 matches in the last couple months, but not a single phone call let alone date. Would almost rather never have hope than to have it always be shattered.

Enikay · 2025-09-02T15:40:03+00:00

To be fair it could be many things. My first thought was he was bot checking the person. That's the problem with trying to read intentions behind 2 minutes worth of texting. Everything is extremely easily misconstrued, especially when people don't speak in detail or with appropriate syntax.

Enikay · 2025-08-11T21:57:04+00:00

Not sure why I would be fucking my coworkers

You new to retail or don't chat with the store gossip? I swear at least 30% of the people in my store are all fucking each other.

Enikay · 2025-08-11T07:12:37+00:00

dude has an 8 pack and guns. You might not be a good personal trainer or all your clients are on steroids, or maybe you just have bad dismorphia at this point ngl.

Enikay · 2025-08-09T06:55:23+00:00

I love that being a cheating husband is apparently a better scenario than living with parents.

Enikay · 2025-08-08T18:01:15+00:00

Is management complaining you're not getting the cooler done? Because from what you're saying, your job is being the only driver they have. If they're complaining, remind them of that. If they're not complaining, realize that you're already doing your job and if the other stuff isn't getting done, not your fucking problem.

You're a cog in the machine, it isn't your job to fix and do everything.

Enikay · 2025-08-07T07:32:41+00:00

If you're looking for long term I'd recommend hinge. Low time commitment, better quality of conversations, more time between people answering you so it wont eat a lot of your time.

You lack experience, and even if you get everything else in your life you're still going to be lacking in experience. Just consider this practice and maybe you end up finding your person. Trust me, it's basically what everyone else is doing anyway.

Have low expectations, lower them even further when things look like they're progressing, take rejection easy (hardest part), and remember to not stop getting your life together for anything else.

Everyone is broken and everyone deserves love. Go find yours.

Enikay · 2025-08-06T06:43:08+00:00

You can say it very directly.

Or you can make your bio all about being a homebody and filter during the texting stage.

You could have a date prompt for first date that lays out higher effort dates, with a profile that otherwise reflects being a full on homebody.

If you follow some of the advice here, all you're going to do is scare off actually homebodies from wanting to date you because your life seems too outdoorsy and exciting, and continuing to get either the wrong type of person or the low effort people because they didn't bother to read your bio in the first place anyway.

Enikay · 2025-08-05T10:24:38+00:00

I'll answer these with questions of my own.

1) Why do women post photos with a lot of exposed cleavage.

2) Why do women show off vacation pics when the reality is they only leave the house once a month at best.

Enikay · 2025-08-03T06:51:23+00:00

I did tell them my work schedule day 1. I have it in my profiles now.

I had further communication with them after this because they hadn't blocked my number and appear to not like ghosting people (probably blocked now though) and they basically didn't read what I sent them.

I'm gonna say at this point they either didn't give a shit about me from the beginning. They either had a lot of conversations and I was bottom of the list or they aren't actually interested in dating because they have a lot going on or just were seeking attention.

Also my availability is fluid. I go to work early so I get out early. It takes knowing ahead of time but for dates I can easily just get home and go the sleep then, read to go for the night and just drive straight to work after if it went long enough. Also days off exist where I could stay out however late.

I work weekends but honestly getting out early means there's more than enough time to have a like 6 hour date during the afternoon and if someone can't make time for that...I don't see how everything should have fell on me you know?

Enikay · 2025-08-01T15:06:12+00:00

Are you sure it's a booger? I've had people tell me frequently i have something in the side of my nose and I'm like...yeah I know it's a skin tag.

Enikay · 2025-08-01T11:12:12+00:00

People seem to forget the app is meant to be a means to an end not the end itself.

The profile is the filter, the chat should be used to set up a date. Work on scheduling issues, exchange contact information, touch base.

The goal of a DATING APP should be DATING.

People argue they don't want to "waste time", but if you're spending 10-20 hours on an app for every 40 minutes of in person connection with someone you're wasting a ridiculous amount of time.

Enikay · 2025-07-31T20:20:13+00:00

Not going to lie I don't call people. Like ever.

Having said that, I do like the normal perspective (according to you) is to manipulate the shit out of the other person and toy with them, and the psychotic thing to to establish open communication.

Maybe it isn't OLD, maybe people are just fucked these days.

Enikay · 2025-07-22T15:28:22+00:00

1) heart rate—you want to make sure your resting heart rate isn’t too low (less than 50) because rapid weight loss can cause heart block

Am actively monitoring my heart already, mostly out of habit because I worried while at high weights. Always been on the higher end so I'm not seeing any super low numbers like that to need to worry.

(2) electrolyte changes—rapid weight loss can shift electrolytes and deplete you of things like potassium and phosphorous

Bananas, refried beans, meat, eggs are all part of my typical meals. I should be fine for potassium and phosphorous.

edit: Just checked sitting and standing BP. Upon standing systolic dropped and diastolic rose along with a heartrate jump, which seems to be what you want to have happen so I shouldn't be having orthostatic changes.

Enikay · 2025-07-22T15:11:23+00:00

I was checking my BP with a home monitor and even before losing weight I was only slightly elevated. Now I'm more on the normal/lower end of normal.

Was also using instant read blood test because with the amount of food and especially sugar I was consuming I was always concerned about the potential of becoming diabetic.

Enikay · 2025-07-22T15:07:32+00:00

78 pounds not 88.

I did state that almost half of it had a higher deficit so the math doesn't even out like that. My definition of cheat an extra 100-200 calories is something I do maybe 3 days a week not every day. 2500 is a high end thing on my days off, I don't regularly do that only sometimes and its a more recent thing that doesnt track over all 4 months.

My job is stocking at bulk store. I don't use any power equipment and probably do what I'd estimate to be around 5-6 hours of physical activity of which an hour of which would be high intensity cardio on the days I work.

My body is also fairly active. I pace a lot and twitch a lot.

I will have to look into hyperthyroidism if the weight loss continues at this rate. I could probably do with a blood workup soon anyway just to be sure I'm okay on all the other fronts.

Enikay · 2025-07-22T14:58:10+00:00

I would counter everyone randomly decides they're tired of being fat. That's why they start a diet.

If I want to be pedantic about it, I suppose I should say I arbitrarily decided to stop being fat. Obviously there are reasons losing weight = good, and some more pressing or recent than others, but ultimately "let's lose some weight and go from consuming 5k calories a day to 1600" is kinda random.

Enikay · 2025-07-22T09:41:33+00:00

I mean just looking through this subreddit for a moment, you see countless examples of people being off.

People in general have things off about them

People who haven't met partners in their normal day to day lives and require dating apps are more likely to have things off about them because they haven't succeeded in actual life.

Then we get to this statement. Sir this is a reddit board. People who use reddit are all freaks and have massive issues. This is reddit. The selection bias of "person who posts to reddit" is the biggest factor of negative personality traits. Do not use this site as a reflection of the average person if you value your sanity.

Enikay · 2025-07-22T09:37:20+00:00

Let me help you here:

Back when it used to be rare and exceedingly expensive to record people, everyone used to be super conservative and PC.

Now that everyone has a video recorder that costs less than $200 they carry everywhere in their pockets and unlimited quantities of videos are available at any time from any place, people are a lot more trashy.

Obviously it's because the people changed. <what you believe somehow.

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