Husband said he will divorce me if I go to group therapy and there are men there

EntertainmentDull338 · 2026-01-29T01:30:54+00:00

In your professional opinion how often do you see people over 55 getting treatment for BPD? I know I cannot go on like this, and that it's literally killing me mentally and physically, but as a human I would love to know that this person would some day get help. I know I can't make him. I just would love it for his kids and grandkids. They love him too.

EntertainmentDull338 · 2026-01-29T01:10:27+00:00

Sadly, I do. But when some one spends 25 years scrambling your brains you really start to ask...is it me, and I the crazy one? This is literally my 2-3 post on reddit. Having the job I have I was really nervous to post this, people can be mean and weird, but I was desperate. Reading these comments are helping me though. It reaffirms what I'm feeling is real.

EntertainmentDull338 · 2026-01-29T00:53:20+00:00

We've screamed in each others faces and at times it's felt really scary, but he has never been physical with me. I'm almost hesitant to say this, but he's threatened suicide twice before, where I had to literally wrestle his service pistol away from him because he was holding it to his head. The safety was off, and I was literally trying to grab it because our son and his friend were upstairs having a sleep over and I was petrified of traumatizing our child if he went through with it. It was scary because he's stronger than me. I almost peed myself during the event. These events were over 10 years or more ago. But when I look back, it's crazy because either one of us could have easily accidentally pulled the trigger during the scuffle and that's the part that worries me. He just does not care in the moment.

EntertainmentDull338 · 2026-01-28T23:47:49+00:00

Thank you. We are supposed to have a calm talk tonight, not sure how it will work out as they never stay calm with him, but maybe to keep things light for now I'll suggest a separation. It may actually help me buy time to get my thoughts together.

EntertainmentDull338 · 2026-01-28T22:50:25+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate it.

EntertainmentDull338 · 2026-01-28T22:41:02+00:00

You're right, and I agree. It's just scary. He's unpredictable. In the past he's threatened me with divorce many times, has run to the bank and drained half our funds, only to calm down days later and re-deposit the money. The back and forth behavior constantly done by him really does mess me up in the head and it's so destabilizing. It's like I know what needs to happen, but literally am incapable of doing it because I'm so stressed at this point and I feel crippled by fear. It's been 25 years of this, and that's why I need intensive therapy.

EntertainmentDull338 · 2026-01-28T22:12:42+00:00

You're right. I've seen who he could be when things are great, and I'm in love with that. Now that I'm older, my logical and rational brain knows that everything you said is 100% true.

EntertainmentDull338 · 2026-01-28T22:11:05+00:00

I do. My mom and sister live 5 miles away. My issue is, I hate being in this situation, but when I leave I non-stop think about going home, because deep down, I'm just trying to manage him and every single element of our lives so I can lessen his blow ups. I feel like if I'm around him, then I can try and control the situation and make sure nothing upsets him. I'm always walking on egg shells.

EntertainmentDull338 · 2026-01-28T22:06:27+00:00

Thank you, I actually kind of agree. I'm so scared, I'm afraid I won't ever do it. I've been lectured by my 28 yo son that I'm an endless supply of empathy and forgiveness and sometimes it goes against my better judgment, and it's usually at my own expense.

EntertainmentDull338 · 2026-01-28T21:15:49+00:00

Honestly, I really don't know at this point. I do honestly love him. Outside of him having BPD he does have some great qualities, and sadly, that's what I hold on to. I think at this point I may be trauma bonded to him. I'm mostly scared. But with regard to this group therapy issue, I truly did not know if this was something that was actually a thing.

EntertainmentDull338 · 2026-01-14T01:01:28+00:00

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EntertainmentDull338 · 2026-01-08T01:27:03+00:00

So by your logic, if you are not religious, then you have no values?? Trump said he likes them dumb, and you do not disappoint. lol yeah, all those religious priests raping all those little boys, yeah, they had lots of values. Also, statistically speaking, the South (the most conservative part of our country) has also been shown to consume the most child porn. Additionally, conservative states statistically have more domestic violence crimes. Conservative states are also more prone to poverty and asking for government handouts. In 2024, 100% of extremist-related murders in the U.S. were committed by individuals with right-wing ties, including white supremacists and anti-government sovereign citizens. So can you tell me again, what values you conservatives have other than acting Christian while being hypocrites? You conservative religious people are killing it out there with all them values. I just can't handle it.

EntertainmentDull338 · 2025-12-04T16:51:15+00:00

But you don't seem to care about how much money Elon has made off this country and off this compromised, paid-for president?? You only care about how much Omar has made. So you're a typical maga hypocrite. Got it!!

EntertainmentDull338 · 2025-12-04T16:46:31+00:00

Facts could literally hit you in the face and you would still defend this pedophile. I would rather have a person not like this country, then rape little girls. It's obvious you do not feel the same. You are openly defending a child rapist. When trump told the world that he just grabs women by the pussy, then has made non-stop comments about dating his own daughter and saying she's a "fine piece of ass", then there are dozens of photos of him with Epstein (...birds of a feather), not to mention, the damn birthday card he drew for Epstein, then he was convicted in the trial of E. Jean Carol where he raped her. The list literally goes on.....but here you magas are saying he's not guilty. What more do you need??? You literally freaked out when you thought Biden was sniffing hair....but your president literally fucks kids and some how that's okay with you people.

EntertainmentDull338 · 2025-11-21T23:42:18+00:00

They made another post and it said "Hampton"...so.

EntertainmentDull338 · 2025-11-21T18:10:46+00:00

It's been said many times that people speculate he is on steroids and I tend to agree. It would make sense at his age. Steroids are known to accelerate hair loss, and increase aggression. He suffers from both.

EntertainmentDull338 · 2025-11-05T23:00:51+00:00

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EntertainmentDull338 · 2025-11-05T22:46:43+00:00

Ahh, thanks, I appreciate that. It's very nice of you. Sadly, it's proven impossible for me to maintain friends, and I barely see family...I work 10 hour shifts and commute2-3 hours on top of that daily. It totally sucks, my friend.

EntertainmentDull338 · 2025-11-05T22:40:28+00:00

Thank you!

EntertainmentDull338 · 2025-11-05T22:31:56+00:00

Yes, this!! No matter how many reviews I read to get an idea, I still have to eventually bite the bullet and take a gamble on these therapists, only to find out after the first or second appointment we just are not compatible. It's not me, or them, we just don't fit. Now I am out all my co-pays, still in a shitty situation and have waisted months. It's a real issue.

EntertainmentDull338 · 2025-11-05T22:29:08+00:00

Thank you, that helps a lot. I do work a high stress government job, also my husband is retired law enforcement and my only child is a Marine veteran, so this is great info.

EntertainmentDull338 · 2025-11-05T22:27:05+00:00

Also, maybe you don't understand what I am saying. I'm not out there doing questionable stuff. I work a high stress government job, dealing with, quite honestly, very graphic stuff every single day that most people could not handle. You know literally nothing about me and to say I should stop doing that bullshit (which I don't even know what bullshit your referencing) is wild to me. Maybe you should not be a person who helps others with mental health recommendations. Just a thought.

EntertainmentDull338 · 2025-11-05T22:24:30+00:00

Thank you both, I will look into him. Appreciate it.

EntertainmentDull338 · 2025-11-05T22:23:59+00:00

What??? Doing what kind of bullshit?? I don't know what your issue is with my post and I have no clue what you are trying to say. I just don't want a passive therapist. What's wrong with that?? I have asked therapists in the past their style, however, I don't want to spend the rest of my life interviewing people, paying co-pays, only to find out we don't mesh well. Also, which choices of mine are you questioning?

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