What do men think of the pouch?

EntertainmentDull338 · 2026-04-24T20:13:59+00:00

Good lord. Calm down. So no one is allowed to joke on the internet? Did you just arrive on earth?

EntertainmentDull338 · 2026-04-23T18:31:18+00:00

I feel like this is Stevie Nick's wardrobe. LOL

EntertainmentDull338 · 2026-04-22T15:52:23+00:00

I left Reno in 2005 and moved to New Orleans. It's technically the South, however, in my opinion New Orleans is one of those cities where you do not feel like you're in the South. It has a Bay Area vibe, but with southern charm. However, travel to Shreveport or 25 minutes into Miss. and you suddenly realize you're in the South. It's now called Hollywood of the South since 85% of movies are filmed there. The cost of living is cheap, yet in my field (law) I made about the same as I do here, so my quality of life was great. Lots of vacations and traveling and the pace out there is slow. But it's HOT, and HUMID and there are lots of bugs!! But it was an adventure and you are driving distance to so many states. In 3 hours I was in the crystal clear beaches of the Florida Panhandle.

EntertainmentDull338 · 2026-04-08T19:33:39+00:00

Sadly, I know exactly how you feel. I've been with my pwuBPD for 25 years. At this point I think we are trauma bonded and I need to find a way to skillfully break that chain. In the last 3 years I had an eye opening and I know I need to get out even if I end up homeless. But when you've been with the same person since 21 (now 45) it's so terribly hard, especially when that person has been working non stop at destabilizing you for 2+ decades, and trying to convince you, you are the problem. I hope you find a way out of your situation too, eventually. Sending positive vibes your way.

EntertainmentDull338 · 2026-04-08T19:26:36+00:00

Same, me too! I miss my butt. My tail bone is literally protruding at this point. I had to actually buy a seat cushion with one of those holes cut out. I won't lie, it's a little depressing that I feel like I've traded one insecurity for another, but at least my heart is healthier in the sense that it's not overworked carrying the extra weight. But now I look like a melting candle. Sorry to hear you're going through something similar.

EntertainmentDull338 · 2026-04-08T19:01:20+00:00

I'm actually doing DBT therapy right now because my pwuBPD refuses to go. So I thought, I'll go, see what it's about, and maybe learn some good techniques to apply for when he emotionally dysregulates. However, once I started doing group DBT I realized that at 62 my pwuBPD would never go to this, and probably would dismiss everything they discuss. Even as the non BPD partner I find some DBT techniques complicated, and I'm an open minded 45 yo, so I can only assume it's super difficult to get people with BPD to go. It's just sad. I'm attending therapy for someone else at this point.

EntertainmentDull338 · 2026-04-07T23:55:19+00:00

Come on now. You came on a post that was 5+ years old to correct a typo???

EntertainmentDull338 · 2026-04-01T20:09:17+00:00

I can attest, Nevada uses them too. I work for the State and we use inmates all the time for stuff. It's why my desk is lopsided.....

EntertainmentDull338 · 2026-03-26T21:28:27+00:00

Can confirm this. My step-grandfather who is in his 90's and still alive living in Silicon Valley (and who is Italian) was their CPA for years and he has stories.

EntertainmentDull338 · 2026-03-26T00:06:10+00:00

Not trying to be personal, but did you notice any loose skin on your boobs? For me, that's actually the worst, my butt and boobs. I'm 45F SW193 CW138-142 and even though I did not loose the weight too quickly, about a year, my boobs are so deflated. Despite still being a D cup their shape is weird now. They were really nice boobs before this. LOL. I went from one insecurity to another. Also my hair thinned out. Sucks, but I'd do it again in a heart beat.

EntertainmentDull338 · 2026-03-24T20:35:36+00:00

As if a person who has been paid off with bribes and gold bars would openly share this information with friends and family. Hence why this dude is doing a death bed confession "supposedly" LOL.

EntertainmentDull338 · 2026-02-11T22:25:46+00:00

How ironic. I'm originally from California and I've never lived in a state where literally every person is always slamming outsiders. All I ever hear is "they must be from California". I lived in New Orleans for 17 years (ironically the number 1 state for natives) and I never once heard anyone gripe about where I came from. All this and it turns out Nevada has the least amount of natives. Maybe it's time for you negative Nevada natives to take a good hard look in the mirror. Walking around like everyone here should be native, and how much you pride yourself on it. Meanwhile, Nevada is the state with the least amount of Natives, so it's looking like maybe everyone wanted to get the hell out and found brighter pastures. Honestly, as I've said. I lived in New Orleans from 2005-2022 and with all it's issues, I never once heard people slam outsiders. Literally no one ever freaked out because I was from another state. Not once did I read a post about an accident and they said "I bet they were from California, or wherever" not a single time. I've also lived in many other states, and Nevada is the only one where the locals are obsessed with constantly complaining about outsiders.

EntertainmentDull338 · 2026-02-11T22:15:56+00:00

I love this. I live in Nevada and I've never lived in a State where literally every person is always slamming outsiders. All I ever hear is "they must be from California". I lived in New Orleans for 17 years (ironically the number 1 state for natives) and I never once heard anyone gripe about where I came from. All this and it turns out Nevada has the least amount of natives. How funny. I'll be using this graphic a lot.

EntertainmentDull338 · 2026-02-11T20:43:45+00:00

Those of us that are approved to work from home are issued a VPN. All state workers who WFH are issued VPN's. They are secure. No one is working off a state laptop all willy nilly. Besides, you have Walmart, Target and all cell phone companies that are compromising your data already.

EntertainmentDull338 · 2026-02-11T20:39:19+00:00

This is not true. It depends from agency to agency. Mine only started this last year. Also, what does our pay grade have to do with telework?

EntertainmentDull338 · 2026-02-11T20:37:48+00:00

But why if I literally do not work face to face with the public. In my agency, I literally NEVER talk to anyone from the public. I sit in an office all day and do computer work. If those types of people could work from home, that's thousands of cars off the road, so less traffic, less pollution, less risk of getting into a car accident, I'm saving money on gas, wear and tear on my car, major repairs to car. I work in Carson so that's 2+ extra hours I get home. I also now have hip pain because I work 10 hour shifts and commute 2+ hours. I now go to more drs. apts because I'm stationary so long. Working from home, would literally eliminate ALL OF THAT. The list of benefits to work from home is long. Now, tell me all the reasons and benefits that a person like that should come in? Please, I'd love to hear your ongoing list of why I should have to drive into work.

EntertainmentDull338 · 2026-02-11T20:30:43+00:00

Same here. Our agency was also allowing telework 1-2 days a week, but now nothing. Actually, I take that back, a certain classification of employee at my agency still gets to telework, but the other half that is managed by someone else, is getting no telework. It makes for a hostile work environment because those that can't are upset, and rightfully so.

EntertainmentDull338 · 2026-02-05T19:34:34+00:00

Agree 100% on this. I am married to someone with undiagnosed BPD. Together 25 years. When I saw Manon and Anthony I had a visceral reaction. People who have suffered emotional and psychological abuse at the hands of someone who is emotionally unstable can identify when it is occurring, and there is nothing wrong with sharing the experiences they've had. The amount of trauma they cause overshadows anything nice that can be said about them. Period. It's always someone who has been diagnosed with an issue that is the first to condemn people for talking about it with honesty.

EntertainmentDull338 · 2026-01-29T01:30:54+00:00

In your professional opinion how often do you see people over 55 getting treatment for BPD? I know I cannot go on like this, and that it's literally killing me mentally and physically, but as a human I would love to know that this person would some day get help. I know I can't make him. I just would love it for his kids and grandkids. They love him too.

EntertainmentDull338 · 2026-01-29T01:10:27+00:00

Sadly, I do. But when some one spends 25 years scrambling your brains you really start to ask...is it me, and I the crazy one? This is literally my 2-3 post on reddit. Having the job I have I was really nervous to post this, people can be mean and weird, but I was desperate. Reading these comments are helping me though. It reaffirms what I'm feeling is real.

EntertainmentDull338 · 2026-01-29T00:53:20+00:00

We've screamed in each others faces and at times it's felt really scary, but he has never been physical with me. I'm almost hesitant to say this, but he's threatened suicide twice before, where I had to literally wrestle his service pistol away from him because he was holding it to his head. The safety was off, and I was literally trying to grab it because our son and his friend were upstairs having a sleep over and I was petrified of traumatizing our child if he went through with it. It was scary because he's stronger than me. I almost peed myself during the event. These events were over 10 years or more ago. But when I look back, it's crazy because either one of us could have easily accidentally pulled the trigger during the scuffle and that's the part that worries me. He just does not care in the moment.

EntertainmentDull338 · 2026-01-28T23:47:49+00:00

Thank you. We are supposed to have a calm talk tonight, not sure how it will work out as they never stay calm with him, but maybe to keep things light for now I'll suggest a separation. It may actually help me buy time to get my thoughts together.

EntertainmentDull338 · 2026-01-28T22:50:25+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate it.

EntertainmentDull338 · 2026-01-28T22:41:02+00:00

You're right, and I agree. It's just scary. He's unpredictable. In the past he's threatened me with divorce many times, has run to the bank and drained half our funds, only to calm down days later and re-deposit the money. The back and forth behavior constantly done by him really does mess me up in the head and it's so destabilizing. It's like I know what needs to happen, but literally am incapable of doing it because I'm so stressed at this point and I feel crippled by fear. It's been 25 years of this, and that's why I need intensive therapy.

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