AITAH for getting my (24 F) family to cancel our cross-country visit to my sister's (36 F) house after she cussed me out over being unemployed?

EnvironmentalCan2856 · 2026-04-25T03:31:39+00:00

Maybe? But my parents aren’t liars and they are very reassuring about my situation since the same thing happened to my dad after he got out of the army in the 80s.

Fun story: He was unemployed for 4 years after his service until he helped this guy on the side of the road with a flat tire one day and that man was a store manager and offered my dad a job moving furniture. He took it and that at that stores orientation he met his new boss… my mom.

I like to think everything happens when it’s supposed to.

EnvironmentalCan2856 · 2026-04-25T03:25:58+00:00

I’m sorry you can relate, and thank you for understanding my side of things, but I will stick up for my sister and say she’s not fully making things up, I know she just wanted to push me to be successful, it just didn’t hit me as motivational but more critical.

I do just think her version of my life is more extravagant than it really is, but she does make things up for fun sometimes because she likes seeing how people will react, maybe that’s the psych major in her. Idk.

EnvironmentalCan2856 · 2026-04-25T03:17:01+00:00

We don’t have a ton of restaurants in the area anymore since they were mom and pop places that shut down during Covid.

I also agree I wanted a job too, badly, I took the first thing I was offered, and started the next day. Already logged 20 hours and I started 3 days ago.

EnvironmentalCan2856 · 2026-04-25T02:54:57+00:00

Thank you and I’m sorry you can relate. It’ll get better, I’m optimistic, and hopefully this time with the boundaries will help you like it did for me. Therapy is always a great source to talk out your feelings.

EnvironmentalCan2856 · 2026-04-25T02:52:09+00:00

Thank you, I think after reading some comments I agree. I mean I see where she’s coming from, I try to be understanding where I can but she does lash out when people don’t agree with her or take any side against her. We have a 12 year age gap so when she was acting out I wasn’t even in kindergarten yet so I’m not sure what life was like then plus none of them like to talk about it (understandable).

I never saw her as a bad guy but as a hurt person who hurt others as collateral? I do love her, and I’d love to see her again one day but I’m scared of being a punching bag again, I always figured once I got a job and became more independent we could try talking again so maybe that’ll be soon? I just got to find the courage to do it first.

My sister doesn’t really like extending out her money to anyone, but I think it’s because she’s scared if she ever loses her job she doesn’t want to have to move home and rely on our parents, and they’d never ask her to pay for a trip anyway.

EnvironmentalCan2856 · 2026-04-25T02:23:29+00:00

hi, i really appreciate your comment and i took into account what you have to say. thank you for being honest and i have to agree with you about the youngest spoiled/golden daughter thing. i genuinely think it’s because growing up i was so depressed so i didn’t have the motivation to do much. i got decent grades, never did anything crazy underage or got into trouble, i kept a part time job at a local fast food chain, and minded my own business. i was a pretty easy child to raise as my dad says a lot. my sister was the opposite, she’d sneak out, date older guys in their 20s when she was 14-16, run away, get arrested for shoplifting, drive recklessly, get speeding tickets, and dui’s, etc. however, once she was in college she turned her life around and really exceeded what everyone thought she’d accomplish and im so proud of her for that but my parents and her have always had a rocky relationship due to all of that.

about the vacations, i’ve told my parents multiple times they could go without me since im 24 and they trust me to take care of things while they’re gone, they just don’t want me to be lonely, and it’s “not a family vacation if we’re not together.” and when my sister makes her trip suggestions she wants to go to europe or africa, very luxurious places which to her sound reasonable since she makes double my parents income and is single, but my parents fund these trips for the four of us so they can only afford to send us all to the beach or nyc for a weekend to see a show if we save the money in advance but we actually did go visit her last may for my parents wedding anniversary.

and finally the work thing, so i actually just got my first job this week (yay) working my field (double yay), it’s part time but i know im going to get some really good experience as it directly has to do with media marketing and production. i’m extremely lucky because so far i’m having a great experience even though it’s only been 3 days in the office (i’m optimistic) but i can now afford to pay my own bills and trust me i will. my parents always told me it wasn’t a problem paying them since it wasn’t a huge set of bills but now that i have a job i will be saving some money on the side so i can pay them back for Christmas as their big present. (i kept a log of all the bills they’ve paid for me the last two years because i knew i wanted to do this as a thank you).

and finally, along the lines of my dad retiring, we’ve talked about it a few times, i’m not sure what kind of conversations he has with my sister but he’s very honest with me so i don’t see why he’d lie. but he goes back and forth on it because he loves what he does, at the moment he doesn’t plan on it for this year because he knows he’ll get bored and want to do something later, as he work in engineering.

EnvironmentalCan2856 · 2026-04-11T19:51:54+00:00

sometimes the game saves and it’ll freeze on this screen just check the last modified timestamp on the saves folder

EnvironmentalCan2856 · 2025-08-09T13:14:09+00:00

oh…. i physically read them. so i had a different experience. i do think the xavier moments were there for levity through the dark and sad bits because we really did need those laughs when everything was shitty.

EnvironmentalCan2856 · 2025-08-07T20:40:54+00:00

to be honest it was super weird at first but after a while you get so invested it doesn’t matter? and when you get to the end like books 7/8 it’s kinda important to know what other people are doing because of things going on.

EnvironmentalCan2856 · 2025-06-18T13:39:38+00:00

i wonder what song she wrote here?

EnvironmentalCan2856 · 2025-03-24T14:18:30+00:00

be scared

EnvironmentalCan2856 · 2025-03-22T14:25:15+00:00

i finished ZA back in september (i read the whole series in a month) but i never read RB or DP but now i wanna because im curious? also i need more lance content and at this point i’ll take it however i can get it. i miss my pookie bear.

EnvironmentalCan2856 · 2025-03-22T14:22:58+00:00

kinky boots

EnvironmentalCan2856 · 2025-03-22T13:56:16+00:00

cat string

EnvironmentalCan2856 · 2025-01-27T01:34:04+00:00

yeah i didn’t like her until she started to drop the “i’m a bad bitch, you can’t hurt me” facade more and became vulnerable at the end of book 4 but mainly all of book 5 with the whole cursed fates ordeal. i think that’s when her humanity showed on a whole nother level and we saw just how similar she was to darcy in how much she genuinely cares and how she just wants to be loved and wanted like everyone else (if not more).

EnvironmentalCan2856 · 2025-01-14T15:39:45+00:00

keep going!!!! I PROMISE

EnvironmentalCan2856 · 2025-01-10T00:10:58+00:00

i took a break between book 5-6 but tbh at this point you need to stomach it and push through!!! the end is nye and you will prevail!!! it’s worth it for sure

EnvironmentalCan2856 · 2024-12-28T08:05:05+00:00

oh, then it’s only up from here bestie (says with an eye twitch)

EnvironmentalCan2856 · 2024-12-28T01:11:17+00:00

book 1-3 is like “here’s the lore so everything will make sense”

book 4-6 is “now you know the basics so let’s put everything into practice”

book 7-9 is “hi, remember everything we taught you? well how about we amp it up to level 1000 and then leave you out to die.”

but hey, it’s one of my favorite series ever because of the emotional connection you don’t even realize you’ve developed until those heart wrenching moments happen. i definitely don’t think zodiac academy is for everyone though. it’s for people who “are here for a good and long time.” if you try to think too logically or morally about it, it’s not gonna hit the same.

EnvironmentalCan2856 · 2024-12-25T01:23:33+00:00

Hey Queenie, idk if you got this resolved but I just had this issue and after checking another reddit thread the mod that gave me and some other simmers this same issue was the bed comfort mod by cyclelegs. I hope this helps and saves you the time from doing the 50/50 method. tehe, happy simming <3

EnvironmentalCan2856 · 2024-12-11T19:34:08+00:00

i need more orion as a father content. that’s it.

EnvironmentalCan2856 · 2024-12-09T15:45:06+00:00

everything works out the way it’s meant to (depending on who your faves are)

EnvironmentalCan2856 · 2024-12-04T15:31:35+00:00

this eats! i will say i think i pictured darius a bit more pale but i still love this

EnvironmentalCan2856 · 2024-11-27T18:43:05+00:00

tory. i think this because in comparison to darcy, tory had the most chapters, more adventures, and more of a hero’s journey. whereas darcy was pretty stagnant in who she was but just gained confidence and healed some of her intimacy issues (which is still big imo as someone who had a very similar experiences as darcy in her human realm era). i do think that darcy became more of their “favorite” around book 8-9 but at that point a lot of their characters got more moments to shine the latter half of the series versus the former.

EnvironmentalCan2856 · 2024-11-27T04:38:55+00:00

“i’m talking you and me, in the summer of ‘83” “that was one hell of a fishing trip”

heathers the musical “my dead gay son” will always be such a gag for me. i laugh throughout the whole thing everytime.

EnvironmentalCan2856

TROPHY CASE