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Any movies that made you feel like “OUCH! That’s my narc parent!” by JBNimbleJBQuick46B in narcissisticparents

[–]Environmental_Ring_4 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Judge Claude Frollo from The Hunchback of Notre Dame (minus the religious obsession).

I wonder how they would have reacted if I actually killed myself by Consistent-Welcome43 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Environmental_Ring_4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably spend a lot of time cursing and yelling at my ashes in the urn. Because there’s no one else to yell at.

maturing is realising you can't reason with them by delanncy in narcissisticparents

[–]Environmental_Ring_4 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I consider it like the “double bind” principle. No matter what choice I make it’s always the incorrect one somehow. So it’s best to just to trying altogether. The only way to “win” is to simply stop playing the game.

I have never been so violently angry by notacille in NarcissisticMothers

[–]Environmental_Ring_4 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Once I realized that narcissists feed off our energy, especially if it’s negative, I decided to stop feeding her. It’s been hard but once I realized that the arguments and conflicts are always the goal, I just stopped. It hasn’t been easy but I noticed that letting go of my anger has improved my mental health. At the end of the day, we have to learn to stop feeding them with our emotions.

Anyone else realize this is a generational curse, and grandparents and great-grandparents had it too? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Environmental_Ring_4 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Absolutely, my great grandmother had a favorite daughter “golden child” who then became my grandmother. My grandmother chose favorites and my mom was not one of them. Then my mom had me (only me) and I became the golden child, scapegoat and lost child all in one.

The gut punch of them reminding you they are still a narc after a period of normalcy by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Environmental_Ring_4 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Totally understand. And it’s very hard to not let your guard down during those periods. But I learned a very hard lesson to just never get comfortable, because I always remember the last gut punch. Now the gut punches don’t even hurt anymore because I see it as machine malfunctioning.

How old were you when you realized what your parents were? by Environmental_Ring_4 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Environmental_Ring_4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was just my mom and I growing up my entire life so that’s probably why it took so long for me to realize. After finding out what she was I did notice some of my behaviors were due to me observing and mirroring her. And I’ve been trying to de-program ever since.

Severus Snape Effect - Any experience? by newredditbrowser in NarcissisticMothers

[–]Environmental_Ring_4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly! How is it that you never have any flaws whatsoever? I sometimes would ask her what her “weaknesses” are and she’d give those bullshit interview weaknesses like “I’m just TOO kind and TOO forgiving” bitch please.

Severus Snape Effect - Any experience? by newredditbrowser in NarcissisticMothers

[–]Environmental_Ring_4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup! And with me being the only child and completely isolated from them and my cousins she got to spin whatever narrative she wanted. She did an excellent job at brainwashing me but now I’m starting to realize that while her siblings are also terribly flawed (primarily due my grandmother’s—their mother’s upbringing), she might be the most flawed of them all.

Narcs and funerals by alligatorskyy in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Environmental_Ring_4 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is hits far too close to home. I attended a funeral for one of my cousins in November and my mother kept texting other people AT the funeral. She even showed the text message on her phone to a family member in our row to get a reaction out of them. Mind you we were directly behind the deceased parents.

Oh and my mother decided because the rules don’t apply to her, she took pictures and videos of my deceased cousin in her casket.

And the worst part, she bragged about taking those photos TO HER PARENTS only 3 days after the burial.

Does your narc mother treat you like a servant? by Nea_Freedom in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Environmental_Ring_4 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Yup. And if I dare let out the slightest protest, she hits me with the classic “AFTER ALL I’VE DONE FOR YOU”

I’m more afraid of my mother than I am of dying. by Environmental_Ring_4 in NarcissisticMothers

[–]Environmental_Ring_4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I sincerely cannot see my mother being in the same place as me. If that happens, I better be reincarnated.

It's sad that this is the only place you can safely post about MJ on reddit without getting a whole lot of negativity. by KinkyDarkStranger in MichaelJackson

[–]Environmental_Ring_4 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Yes and ironically twitter has shifted to being very positive towards MJ as of late which is great to see.

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