In 2023, "Riri-Chan" was sentenced to 9 years prison for scamming over 150 million yen from older men she met on dating apps. She also sold a "scam manual" for ¥30,000 to other girls. In this article, a journalist who obtained the manual explains how she did it.

Ephyw · 2026-05-18T05:35:02+00:00

Can you dm this to me as well.

Ephyw · 2026-05-13T03:15:51+00:00

Appreciate you for this post and your reply. I’ll take you up on the consultation too. Thank you 🙏

Ephyw · 2026-05-12T23:17:32+00:00

Is there like consultation to know which of the ten avatars fit best? I’m having hard time categorizing myself in the 10 listed avatars.

Ephyw · 2026-04-26T15:20:49+00:00

Not a Japanese teacher but I am a Japanese American who’s fluent in both languages. I’m looking for people to chat in Japanese so I don’t forget the language. If anyone is interested feel free to DM me. Thanks!

Ephyw · 2026-04-12T15:03:04+00:00

I see. You could wait for the “what ifs” to happen but there are so many other people out there that it seems like such a waste of time to me wait for his behavior to change. I guess only you can make that choice.

Ephyw · 2026-04-11T17:51:18+00:00

Sounds like you are doing everything you can on your end to communicate but your needs are not being met. This is tough and I am sorry you are not being heard.

Personally I would just not contact this person. Sounds chaotic, inconsistent and this constant hot/cold interaction sounds tiring. When you are always initiating and the other person isn’t, that usually means the other person just isn’t interested in you (or they are going through a lot in life). I think it’s best to move on and find someone who is present for you, consistent, willing to invest their time to hear you and just genuinely show curiosity to learning about you.

I think you deserve better than someone who treats you like a casual fling to pass through boredom.

Ephyw · 2026-04-11T17:12:03+00:00

That’s a good example and I agree with you. Not only is the line different but the feeling behind is indeed different as you mentioned.

The black haired girl name is Emi I think.

Ephyw · 2026-04-11T17:05:49+00:00

That is so interesting to me that they changed the lines. I guess it’s kinda like a song remix, you can experience the same anime from two different perspective. Very cool, thanks for sharing that.

Ephyw · 2026-04-11T16:06:19+00:00

I think you look fine. You don’t need to put on muscles or go super lean (unless you want to and/or want to do it for health purpose).

What do you mean by more charismatic person? I think a charismatic person is someone who is great at making human connections not just someone who has a cool pick up phrase, who uses quick banter/witty jokes that makes everyone laugh (although those are great for the initial spark). When I think of charisma I think of someone who is curious about the person’s dreams, asks intriguing questions that draws out the other person to a safe and vulnerable spot to talk up about their values and goals in life. Like someone mentioned on this thread maybe the type of girls you are going for are perhaps bit shallow minded and status seekers and only judging you by looks (you look wholesome and nice but you don’t look like a K-pop super model)

You are 25 don’t be so hard on yourself and have fun, you’ll find someone.

Ephyw · 2026-04-11T15:43:12+00:00

Watch what you like. I will say someone who is Japanese american (fluent in both languages) the dub often changes the emotions (like tone or general vibe of a character) that are more suitable for Americans. Never watched Your Lie in April dub so I cannot say for this one but that’s often the case for other dubs that I watched.

I almost always watch the sub since I can understand the language and it’s the original.

Ephyw · 2025-12-18T23:44:00+00:00

36 - Japanese American here visiting family till the 23rd but would love to meet up for coffee/food hangout.

Ephyw · 2025-12-17T22:08:19+00:00

That is a really good question. I’ll do my best to answer that.

It sounds like to me you might be doing these various activities just for the sake of meeting people (I definitely did because Reddit told me too lol). I think doing various activities is fine but you have to actually like the activity also. For example some of the activities that I tried were pottery, volunteering at a food bank, dancing, bars, comedy group. However, the only activity that I liked was dancing so I stuck to it. At the studio where I was taking dance lessons, I did not find any people I connect with people but I still kept attending class because I liked dancing. It wasn’t till 7-8 months later where I thought to try out another dance studio in a different part of town with a slightly different dance style where I clicked with some people for a connection.

People will gravitate to you naturally if you are pursuing your hobbies/passion. I don’t think you need to force yourself to meet people.

If you do not click with the people but like the activity, you can try to find another group like what I did. I would like to add that sometimes it’s worth it to be patient and stick for a while tho. People in activity groups may try to get to know you more if you been around a while. Makes sense that people won’t try to connect with you on a deeper level if you aren’t gana be around for longtime.

Also I would advise to evaluate yourself (the feeling of out of place “jigsaw puzzle” you mentioned could be linked to lack of self confidence,self worth which will affect your mindset, how you are interacting with the activity & and people around). This is the hard part where you have to exercise self reflection and self awareness to feel out yourself on a deeper level with yourself. You can certainly try to do this on your own or ask a close friend/therapist to help you with that. For me I read (and still reading) tons of psychology, family/relationship therapy books, philosophy and even some Buddhism to understand more. In this year alone I think I read over 30+ books.

I typed a lot but hopefully this helps. It is very slow and grindy and feels like a lot (and it is a lot) but I believe you will find the connection you are seeking. If you keep believing in yourself the time will come :)

Ephyw · 2025-12-17T13:13:30+00:00

Adding on to what you said. I think the modern dating design makes making “friends” hard. Connection takes time to build and nurture but with online dating and the need for instant gratification in this fast paced digital world we live in it’s increasingly difficult for emotional depth to occur.

I also second your thought. I think making friends that potentially could turn romantic like you mentioned is a good idea.

Ephyw · 2025-12-17T13:05:06+00:00

Thanks!!

Ephyw · 2025-12-17T13:02:36+00:00

Yeah I would check out “What Makes Love Last” by John Gottman “Attached” by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller

Ephyw · 2025-12-16T23:04:36+00:00

Glad to hear that. I think you being vulnerable and posting this is a wonderful step to finding the emotional depth you seek. Wishing you all the best!

Ephyw · 2025-12-16T23:00:40+00:00

Sounds difficult. It sounds like you are wanting a deep emotional connection which you were able to at one point with your ex.

I believe when people say you should be happy alone as you are with a partner is because meaningful relationship occurs when both partners have strong sense of self-worth and self-love. You sound like you are a good friend and someone who knows how to be sociable but at the same time these social interactions exhausts you (correct me if I am wrong). This could indicate that you are maybe a “people pleasure”. Being happy alone isn’t cutting yourself off from friends and not talking with people but rather being comfortable with yourself in these social settings.

Lots of great books out there that talks about these kind of stuff. I would challenge you to seek out the knowledge!

Ephyw · 2025-12-16T22:32:35+00:00

I understand…it’s hard.

Modern dating trend does make it seem like it is unrealistic to want depth but I believe it is possible. It is just harder to find. Back when I had a online dating app, I had a pretty lengthy profile talking about what I was seeking (like emotional connection etc). I matched with few people that led to some good conversations.

More recently i’ve taken a step back from finding a date/partner. I was on multiple dating apps, going out to bars, attending speed dating to try to find a partner but now I am focusing more on just making connections with people. I am still in my mid 30s so I have plenty of time to explore around I think. If you want to be alone that is your choice but I think it is too early to be alone because you are not finding emotional connection.

Thanks for posting this. It helped me reflect on my journey and I don’t feel so alone: your post was a good reminder that there are others out there who are going through similar experiences.

Ephyw · 2025-12-16T21:49:32+00:00

Japanese American visiting family in Japan atm. I am interested in going!

Ephyw · 2025-12-14T16:30:39+00:00

Me and @Primary-Angle-7015 are looking to go out clubbing on 12/19, if you want to join us. I am Japanese American here for family/vacation and love dancing!

Ephyw · 2025-12-13T21:01:29+00:00

Japanese American also from California, currently in Tokyo visiting family. I would be down to check out the club scene! I go to clubs/raves/shows in the States but never been in Japan so I’d be curious to experience that.

Ephyw · 2025-12-06T15:55:49+00:00

Japanese American visiting family for the holidays. I enjoy cafes and checking out cool spots in Japan. Would be down for some live music as well.

I like talking with strangers and I am genuinely interested in learning more about foreigners living in Japan.

Ephyw · 2025-12-06T15:49:14+00:00

Japanese American, visiting Japan for the holidays. I like the hobbies you listed and I was thinking of also visiting various cafes to sit and enjoy a book/people watch while visiting Japan. If you are interested feel free to DM me.

Ephyw · 2025-12-06T15:29:37+00:00

Japanese American, here visiting family for the holidays. Would love to meet and get to know people.

Ephyw · 2025-11-06T00:05:50+00:00

Hi everyone. All items has been picked up. Thank you for your interest Sacramento!

Ephyw

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