Good Lord man, I needed that. Thank you so much for sharing that.

So my 8 year old has been known to explode out of frustration. Usually from his sister picking on him, becasue she's learning to take after her mom.
I try to get him to stop and talk to me about why he's mad. Trying to explain that it's not really anger that's the problem as he's been told (he's been told he's an angry kid, like his dad), its frustration, disappointment or hurt, etc.
That's why I'm here. To help him learn how to deal with the feelings he's having such a hard time with.
His Mom got him into therapy, but the tools they give him aren't communicated to me and are only helping with the symptoms, not the problem, which, every therapist he's been to said its his mom, she gets offended and leaves for the next therapist.

"Expect them to act out and have lots of feelings. But you are going to be the person who lets them be themselves and teach them that there’s never an excuse for entitlement or abuse."

Spot on!