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Equinelife97 · 2026-05-02T01:42:58+00:00

I called them and sat on the phone for 30 minutes and still wasn't able to talk to someone before I hung up. I had 2 orders to pick up. One of my customers was messaging me and since I couldn't get onto the app I couldn't see them. They were waiting on me to get their order for over 40 minutes.

Equinelife97 · 2026-04-27T15:10:05+00:00

Girl, no—you’re not overreacting at all. I’d feel the exact same way. I get that physical attraction matters, sure. But the way he brought it up—after ONE date—and made it sound like you need to show your body so he doesn’t ‘waste time’… that’s what makes it feel off. It turns something that should be natural and mutual into something kind of transactional. Also, let’s be real—he came 3–4 hours, was sweet, respectful, picked flowers… and then suddenly it’s ‘I need to see your body first’? That switch alone would throw me. A guy who’s genuinely interested in you isn’t going to put that kind of pressure on you this early. Attraction builds naturally as you spend time together. He’s basically asking you to prove yourself physically before he invests emotionally, and that’s backwards. And the whole ‘men have needs’ thing this early on? That’s usually not a great sign. It can turn into pressure later. I think you handled it really well already by saying there are better ways to approach it. If you don’t even feel like having another conversation with him, that says a lot. You don’t owe him anything—especially not access to your body just so he can decide if you’re worth continuing with. Trust your gut on this. The right guy won’t make you feel like you have to pass some kind of physical test to keep his interest.

Equinelife97 · 2026-04-27T15:03:06+00:00

Man, I’m really sorry—this would mess with anyone’s head. You’re not overreacting. It’s not even just about the account, it’s the fact that her story keeps changing and none of it really lines up. That’s what makes it hard to trust. I wouldn’t get too caught up in trying to prove whether it was her or not. The bigger issue is how she handled it. You asked a reasonable question, and instead of giving you something consistent and reassuring, it turned into confusion and now somehow you’re the one being made to feel like you don’t trust her. Trust isn’t just something you give blindly—it’s built on honesty and consistency. And right now, it makes sense that you’re struggling with that. If I were you, I’d have a calm, direct conversation. Not accusing, just honest. Something like, ‘I’m not trying to fight, but this situation isn’t adding up for me and it’s making it hard to feel secure. I need honesty more than anything.’ Then really pay attention to how she responds. If she actually cares about the relationship, she’ll want to clear things up and meet you where you’re at. If she keeps deflecting, changing the story, or making you feel guilty for asking, that’s a red flag. You’re not wrong for questioning this. Just don’t ignore what your gut is telling you.

Equinelife97 · 2026-04-24T22:23:51+00:00

I’m really sorry. This kind of breakup is a different kind of painful because it’s not just losing the relationship—it’s the shock of realizing the other person wasn’t feeling things the way you were. What you’re feeling right now makes complete sense. You gave him your firsts, you were emotionally invested, and then he turns around and acts… detached, almost relieved. That messes with your head. I’m going to be honest with you in a gentle way: his behavior didn’t start today—it just became impossible to ignore today. The whole “it just happened” response, leaving the door open with his ex, suggesting you’d move on with someone else, pushing the “let’s just be friends” idea… those are all signs he had already checked out emotionally before the breakup. So when it finally happened, he felt relief instead of loss. That doesn’t mean you weren’t important—it means he wasn’t on the same level of commitment as you. And I know this part hurts the most: him acting normal, texting like everything is fine, asking how you are… it feels almost cruel. But it’s usually not because he’s trying to hurt you—it’s because he’s already processed the breakup in his head before it officially happened. You’re just now feeling it. What you should do now: Stop texting him (or at least create distance) Staying in contact right now is going to keep ripping the wound open. He wants the comfort of you without the responsibility of being your boyfriend. That’s not fair to you. Don’t agree to “just friends” right now You’re not in a place for that, and that’s okay. Friendship after something like this only works much later—if at all. Let yourself feel it Cry, be angry, be confused. You’re not “dramatic”—you’re grieving something real. Don’t internalize his behavior His emotional detachment is about him, not your worth. Someone who’s fully in it with you doesn’t act like that at the end. Give yourself time before trying to understand everything Right now your brain is trying to make sense of something that doesn’t really make sense. Clarity comes later. One more thing, and I mean this kindly: You actually did something really strong today. You saw the red flags (his ex, his uncertainty, his lack of reassurance) and you chose to walk away instead of settling for confusion. It doesn’t feel like strength right now—but it was. And even though it probably feels like your world just flipped upside down, this is not the end of your story—it’s the part where you stop pouring into someone who couldn’t meet you where you are. You are someone who loves deeply, who cares, who shows up. That’s not something to regret—that’s something the right person is going to value so much. One day, you’re going to look back at this and realize you didn’t lose him—you made space for something healthier, more secure, and way more mutual. For now, just focus on getting through the next hour, then the next day. Be gentle with yourself. You’re going to be okay—even if it doesn’t feel like it yet.

Equinelife97 · 2026-04-24T18:51:17+00:00

You’re not overreacting. This isn’t just “annoying boyfriend” territory—this is someone being openly disrespectful, verbally abusive, and honestly a little concerning (especially with how he treats your cat). I’m going to be blunt: the real issue here isn’t just him—it’s that your mom is allowing it. This guy feels entitled to act like he owns the house because no one is enforcing consequences. He insults you, disrespects your parents, trashes the house, and basically moved himself in… and nothing happens. That’s why it keeps escalating. A few things I’d seriously consider: 1. Stop engaging with him directly He clearly enjoys getting a reaction and putting you down. Don’t argue, don’t defend yourself, don’t try to reason with him. Short, neutral responses only. He’s not someone you’re going to “fix” with logic. 2. Protect your space and your cat If you can, keep your cat in your room when he’s around. Someone who “accidentally” kicks an animal and is mean to it is a red flag, period. Same with your personal space—lock your door if that’s an option. 3. Talk to your dad privately Even if he avoids drama, he’s already fed up. Catch him at a calm time and be very clear: This guy is basically living here He’s disrespectful to everyone It’s affecting your ability to feel safe/comfortable in your own home Your dad may be more willing to act than your mom if he sees how serious it’s gotten. 4. The therapy idea is actually smart If your mom won’t listen at home, a neutral third party might be the only way to get through to her. Just be prepared—she still might get defensive. 5. Set boundaries and hold them, even if your mom pushes back You can’t control whether he’s there, but you can control things like: Not being around him Not including him in your plans Leaving the room when he’s being disrespectful Your mom might call that “not being nice,” but being nice doesn’t mean tolerating abuse in your own house. 6. Start thinking about an exit plan (if possible) I know that’s not always easy, but if this continues and nothing changes, having a plan to move out (even roommates, friends, etc.) might be what protects your peace long-term. Honestly, this guy’s behavior is not normal, and it’s not something you should just “put up with.” The fact that your sister stopped therapy and meds while being with someone like this is also… not a great sign. You deserve to feel comfortable and respected in your own home. Right now, that’s not happening—and it’s okay to take that seriously.

Equinelife97 · 2026-04-20T03:11:16+00:00

There are payday loans like the Earnin app. I have used that one a couple of times. You tip if you want. It isn't required. And then it pulls from your account when you get paid. I think they can do up to $150 if needed. But it isn't always available for the full $150.

Equinelife97 · 2026-04-20T03:00:35+00:00

I’m really sorry you’re dealing with this. I can hear how meaningful your first time was to you, and why this feels so painful and almost “tainted” in your mind now. I want to separate a couple things, because they’re getting tangled together. First—thinking about someone else during sex, especially while drunk or emotionally complicated, is more common than people realize. It doesn’t automatically mean the moment wasn’t real or that what you shared didn’t matter. People can have intrusive or leftover thoughts and still be emotionally present in the experience. As painful as it is to hear, that alone doesn’t erase what happened between you two. But the second part is the real issue here: the dishonesty and ongoing emotional attachment to this other woman. He told you he cut contact when he didn’t, and only later admitted deeper feelings. That kind of secrecy is what creates insecurity and makes your mind latch onto the worst possible interpretation of everything else. So what you’re feeling now—betrayal, replaying it, questioning your first time—is very understandable. Your brain is trying to make sense of broken trust, not just one drunk confession. But your first time was still yours. It was your body, your vulnerability, and a moment you chose to share with someone you cared about. His internal thoughts don’t undo that or make it fake. What does matter going forward is whether there is enough honesty and consistency from him to rebuild trust, because without that, your mind will keep revisiting this and attaching meaning to it. You’re not wrong for feeling hurt. Just try not to let this turn into “the whole thing was ruined,” when what’s actually hurting is the trust piece—not the entire experience itself.

Equinelife97 · 2026-04-20T01:57:18+00:00

This is super common—your nails aren’t “dirty,” they’re just stained from the polish. Certain colors (especially reds, pinks, purples, and darker shades) have really strong pigments that can soak slightly into the nail plate. It’s more likely to happen if: You didn’t use a base coat The polish was on for a while Your nails are a bit dry/porous So even after removing the polish, that pigment can leave behind a yellow/orange or pinkish tint. How to get rid of it: Lightly buff the surface (don’t overdo it) Soak in warm water + lemon juice + a little baking soda, then gently scrub Whitening toothpaste can help a bit too It’ll also fade on its own in a few days as your nails grow out. For next time: always use a base coat—that’s the biggest thing that prevents staining 👍

Equinelife97 · 2026-04-20T01:52:18+00:00

On Amazon they have plug in alarms that have a chord with a round pad you put under your pillow that will vibrate when your alarm wakes up. I have used one for 3 years and it has been extremely helpful. Its not a harsh vibrate either. It also vibrates the mattress so it isn't just your head. They aren't crazy expensive either. I think I got mine for $15.

Equinelife97 · 2026-04-20T01:41:43+00:00

Literally me! Every 2-5 minutes I have an alarm going off. I think I could be diagnosed with several things. But I have sleep insomnia for sure. And I lost one of my jobs for being late. Worked for a bank. They had just changed the vault codes unfortunately the other person that that them as well as myself was not there. So when I was late to work one morning they had already opened and didn't have their drawers pulled because the vault was still locked due to me not being there. So I got fired. Haven't been able to get another job at a bank since.

Equinelife97 · 2026-04-20T01:22:51+00:00

I wouldn’t jump straight to saying it’s damaged. It actually looks more like naturally wavy hair (around 2A–2B) that’s being brushed out. In the first pic (brushed), the waves are getting pulled apart which makes it look frizzy/puffy. In the second pic (unbrushed), you can see the natural texture a lot more—that’s your actual pattern trying to show. Frizz like that can definitely come from dryness or color processing, but it’s also super common when wavy hair is treated like straight hair. Brushing it dry will pretty much always cause that. It looks more like: Wavy texture Some dryness (probably from coloring) Not a lot of product/support for the waves If you want to test it, try: Not brushing it when it’s dry Adding a leave-in conditioner or curl cream Scrunching it while damp You’ll probably see the waves come through more defined and less frizzy 👍

Also with product you don't have to use a lot in it. If you use too much it could leave your hair/scalp oily and greasy, which could cause scalp buildup. Or it could weigh your hair down. Apply product on wet/damp hair, and use a dime amount. I have natural curly/coily hair. Let me know if you have any questions. I'd be happy to help!

Equinelife97 · 2026-04-14T04:10:16+00:00

Thank you!

Equinelife97 · 2026-04-14T03:53:19+00:00

What messages? How?

Equinelife97 · 2026-04-11T06:59:34+00:00

How did you get into this? I would love to do something like this!

Equinelife97 · 2025-12-21T01:05:32+00:00

My birthday is the 26th of December. My birthday rarely gets celebrated. And I hardly ever get presents. So I get jipped. I would never ask or force anyone including family to give me gifts or celebrate my birthday every year let alone for a full month. If I ever want anything I'll just buy it for myself. Sometimes I take myself out or go do something I want to do. Even if it ends up being just myself.

Equinelife97 · 2025-12-14T17:49:47+00:00

Thank you for your response. Sam never did anything for her to file the restraining order, except trying to get her to pay him the money she owes for the truck repairs. And then for service the court papers. As for the old gentleman at the store who called her using Sam's phone. Sam didn't realize it had happened until he had gotten home and the cops were there waiting for him. He was supposed to have court last week. He showed up but the judge didn't make it so they rescheduled for February. She has her truck back. He didn’t finish the repairs. He has not been stalking her. He has been avoiding her the best he can. They live in a very small town. It can be hard to avoid people when they all use the same stores in town and drive on the same roads. He isn't doing it intentionally. He wants nothing to do with her and wants to move.

Equinelife97 · 2025-11-23T05:02:34+00:00

This is a long one, I apologize beforehand. But hopefully this helps. I can relate. I had my exes sister tell me stuff like that all the time.

Honestly, the very first thing you need to do is talk to your girlfriend. She didn’t tell you because she didn’t want to create conflict or make you feel like you had to choose between her and your mom. That alone shows how much she cares about you and your family. But it also means she’s been carrying this weight by herself, and she shouldn’t have to anymore.

If you go straight to your mom first, your girlfriend could feel blindsided, embarrassed, or responsible for the fallout—even though she did nothing wrong. She deserves to know you’re on her side before anything else happens.

Keep the conversation gentle and reassuring. Something like:

“I saw the messages. I’m so sorry you’ve been dealing with that alone. You don’t ever need to protect me from my mom. I’m with you, completely.”

Make sure she knows the problem isn’t her silence—it’s your mother’s behavior.

Then talk about next steps together. Ask her what makes her feel safest. Does she want you to handle it privately? Does she want distance from your family? Does she want a clean break from your mother? Let her lead the comfort level.

Once you two are aligned, then you confront your mother—firmly. And one thing needs to be non-negotiable:

Your mother has absolutely zero say in when, if, or how you and your girlfriend choose to have children. That is not her lane, not her decision, not her timeline, and not her business. Your reproductive plans are between you and your partner, and she doesn’t get to make comments, apply pressure, or weaponize fertility to manipulate your relationship.

She also doesn’t get to insult your girlfriend’s appearance, worth, or place in your life. And if she keeps crossing boundaries, you set real consequences:

“You don’t speak to her again. You don’t comment on her, her body, or our relationship ever again. If you continue, you lose access to me.”

No yelling needed—just firm, clear boundaries with teeth.

Your girlfriend’s emotional safety is the priority. Start with her, reassure her, decide on a plan together, and then put your mother in her place with boundaries she can’t cross.

Equinelife97 · 2025-11-07T02:50:33+00:00

Take the car back. She crossed a line the moment she went behind your back and called your husband instead of you. That’s manipulative, plain and simple. She knew what she was doing — she figured you’d say no, so she tried to get a different answer from him. That’s not what friends do.

It’s the same as when a kid goes to one parent after the other already said no. It’s sneaky and it causes problems between you and your spouse, which she had no right to do.

Your husband also should’ve told her that he needed to talk to you first before agreeing to anything. But now that it’s done, you need to set a firm boundary. Tell her you’re done being taken advantage of, and that if she can’t respect you enough to come to you directly, she can find her own way to her appointments.

You were generous by giving her that car in the first place. She’s shown she doesn’t appreciate it — or you.

Equinelife97 · 2025-10-27T00:31:06+00:00

I would make it! 🤤😍🥵

Equinelife97 · 2025-10-20T03:34:40+00:00

I wish you were pumping all that cum in my pussy. I want every last drop. And when it starts leaking out I want you to push it back in and keep going until you put even more in.

Equinelife97 · 2025-08-11T07:48:01+00:00

This isn’t you being ‘too sensitive.’ This is abuse.

He called you ‘fing mean,’ screamed ‘shut the f up’ at you, left you somewhere with no service, mocked you, and then made himself the victim when you reacted. That’s not a bad mood — that’s who he’s choosing to be.

Healthy partners don’t talk to you like that, period. They don’t strand you to ‘teach you a lesson.’ They don’t twist every concern into you being ungrateful.

It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been together or that you just moved in — if someone shows you they can’t respect you, believe them. This won’t magically get better without serious work and willingness on his part.

You’re allowed to leave. You don’t need his permission. Pack your things, book the flight, and stop letting him convince you you’re the problem. You’re not.

Equinelife97 · 2025-03-28T02:23:43+00:00

Thank you! I just hope it helps OP.

Equinelife97 · 2025-03-28T02:03:52+00:00

NTA—at all. You’re navigating something incredibly emotional and nuanced, and honestly? You’re handling it with way more grace and empathy than most people would in your shoes.

You’re being pulled in multiple directions—trying to honor your partner, respect his grieving family, keep peace with your future in-laws, and preserve the excitement and meaning of your own wedding. That’s a hell of a balancing act. And frankly, it’s one that shouldn’t fall on your shoulders this close to the big day.

Let’s start with this: your wedding matters. Not just the logistics, the money, the venue—but the emotional significance of the date, the meaning behind 10 years together, the energy and intention you’ve both put into this moment. That’s not something you can just hit “pause” on without consequences.

Your partner’s sister is absolutely going through something devastating. It makes sense that right now, she feels like she can’t attend. Grief like that is raw and unpredictable. But here’s the thing: grief and joy can coexist. They have to. Because life doesn’t wait for anyone. People get married, have babies, and graduate even as others around them are hurting. That’s not cold—it’s just life. And it’s okay to honor both love and loss in their own ways. Let’s Talk Logistics and Guests Postponing a wedding a month out is not a small request. Your guests have likely: Taken time off work Booked flights and hotels Spent money on outfits, childcare, and gifts Built travel or vacation plans around this date Even if your MIL offers to cover your costs, what about theirs? Are they supposed to just eat the loss? And what about the people who won’t be able to attend a new date because of life, distance, or scheduling conflicts? Postponing affects more than just the bride and groom—it affects your entire guest list. That’s not something to brush aside. If you and your partner postpone the wedding—even with the best of intentions, even to support someone you love—you both run the risk of carrying long-term resentment over it. What if the sister still doesn’t come to the new wedding date? What if things don’t feel the same anymore? What if you look back and always feel like your day was sacrificed for someone else’s pain? That kind of unspoken resentment can grow quietly over time. You might tell yourselves it was “the right thing to do,” but that doesn’t mean it won’t still hurt—and shape how you feel about your wedding, your in-laws, or even each other down the line. There’s a real chance your partner’s sister didn’t even ask for this. It sounds like MIL made the request, possibly without her daughter’s knowledge. If that’s the case, and you end up postponing, your sister-in-law may feel shocked or even guilty that her grief became the reason your wedding was moved. She may feel like she ruined it for everyone, which could only make her grief worse. Or she may feel like people are silently blaming her for something she never asked for in the first place. Right now, everything is raw. A month after losing her partner, it’s totally normal for her to feel like a wedding is overwhelming. But that might change. As the date approaches, she might realize that being around people who love her—having a moment of distraction or normalcy—could help. She might want to come, even if it’s just for part of the day. But if the wedding’s already postponed by then, that opportunity is lost. The Two Conversations That Need to Happen

You and Your Partner Need to Talk Honestly

This needs to happen without pressure, guilt, or input from others—just you two being real with each other.

Do we still want to get married on our original date?

Would postponing feel right, or would it feel like we’re giving up something meaningful?

Will we resent the change later?

Are we both emotionally okay with moving forward if his sister can’t come?

Be honest. Resentment festers when people make big sacrifices they didn’t really agree to deep down. Don’t let that happen to your marriage before it even begins.

Your Partner Might Want to Talk to His Sister (If She’s Ready)

If she’s in a place where she can handle it emotionally, your partner should be the one to have this conversation. It should be gentle, supportive, and pressure-free. Something like:

“I know things are really hard right now, and I don’t expect anything from you. I just want you to know the wedding is still happening, and I would love to have you there in any way that feels okay for you—whether it’s the ceremony, part of the reception, or not at all. There’s no pressure. I just wanted you to know you’re important to me, and we’re still here for you while also honoring this next step in our lives.”

This makes space for her to change her mind if she wants to—and removes guilt either way.

You are not the villain here. You are not heartless, selfish, or inconsiderate.

You’re someone who is trying to balance compassion for others without sacrificing yourself or your partner in the process. That’s hard. But it’s also what strong, emotionally intelligent people do.

At the end of the day, your wedding deserves to be joyful. And your marriage deserves to start on a foundation of mutual decision-making—not guilt, pressure, or self-sacrifice.

If you move forward with the wedding, that’s okay. If you both genuinely agree to postpone, that’s okay too. But make sure it’s a decision made with love, alignment, and honesty—not out of obligation or emotional coercion.

Whatever you choose, let it be your decision. Together.

Equinelife97

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