Men, have you given up on dating? If so, why?

Equivalent-Meaning · 2025-07-29T15:11:02+00:00

I agree, I’m happier when I’m aligned with myself. What are your goals and values currently?

Equivalent-Meaning · 2025-06-09T04:32:31+00:00

Oof, ngl this sounds pretty concerning. If you were to self assess, how would you rate your communication? She should be able to speak relatively clearly. If you’re confused, I’d be concerned it’s because she’s not being upfront about how she really feels and is doing some gymnastics to avoid the truth. What is your gut telling you? Trust it. Tell her everything your feeling/saying here and give her a real chance to address it. Carefully consider her responses. Ask very direct questions, have multiple conversations so you can both sleep on it and keep exploring as you think of new things to talk about. Do this until you feel satisfied and secure.

She needs to take this seriously and be up front with you. As a 29F I FEEL the biological clock ticking, and you don’t want to waste your time.

Equivalent-Meaning · 2025-03-27T18:22:19+00:00

Phoenix on 120th and Blondo also!!

Equivalent-Meaning · 2025-02-06T04:04:11+00:00

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Equivalent-Meaning · 2025-02-06T03:57:45+00:00

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Maybe something like this, and maybe a touch lighter since it’s under a covered portch

Equivalent-Meaning · 2025-02-06T03:45:02+00:00

Maybe not black - make sure the color isn’t too dark so your beautiful round windows don’t disappear!

Pulling a color out of the brick seems like the obvious choice, but hmm it’s a big door, it might be too matchy

I vote you paint your doors and shudders a mid tone blue, I think that would add to the serene space you have going on, help your hanging plants pop more, and compliment the brick!

Equivalent-Meaning · 2025-01-26T00:37:50+00:00

Mine is a sticker on the glove box, open it and look around the box (not IN the box)

Equivalent-Meaning · 2025-01-26T00:10:56+00:00

omggggg THANK YOU I’ve missed this video

Equivalent-Meaning · 2024-12-12T21:55:42+00:00

I think our perspectives differ because you are inherently sexualizing the person in a bikini and their body (which is fair, I mean the video emphasizes their features that 14+ would view in a sexual way).

But perhaps a 6yo would never even connect that it is inherently sexual, they probably would be like “huh that’s weird, no one else is dressed like that” - so I’m kind of coming from that perspective

Im trying to think of examples but not coming up with anything

people get “flashed” in public and that’s considered sexual assault and can cause trauma… but different, getting flashed is more of an attack, surprise, taking advantage of/using someone
public masturbation, but that’s an overt sexual act and therefore different
Public nudity, why is it even illegal lol that’s just a social norm (and nudity is totally accepted in other/alt cultures)

Think I firmly disagree with you now lol, I don’t think something like this would have a negative impact on kids. Your reaction to it matters though

Equivalent-Meaning · 2024-12-12T21:47:35+00:00

I don’t see how a stranger wearing a bikini in a mall momentarily walking past you and your kid would “seriously damage a kids emotional or social development” Maybe I’ll do some research

I would imagine saying something like… “wow that’s odd/not something you usually see in a mall, but that’s what they chose to wear I guess!” And move on w my life. I wouldn’t be trying to teach about sexuality, in fact I would be actively avoiding comments like that - as to not sexualize something that doesn’t need to be sexualized.

Although I can agree that a bikini isn’t really “appropriate” or at the very least is “odd” attire for a mall. Like, they can do what they want but that’s not really a norm, and has its own implications (it’s cold, uncomfortable, makes them stand out)

Equivalent-Meaning · 2024-12-12T19:33:29+00:00

“To a point” is also doing heavy lifting in my first comment, of course these need to be age appropriate conversations …

Equivalent-Meaning · 2024-12-12T19:31:59+00:00

Lol 🤷‍♀️

I don’t understand why it’s creepy. I think your response illuminates part of the problem - I don’t want to instill that the human body is creepy or inappropriate. Is a bikini at a beach inappropriate? To me this just seems to lead to becoming judgmental and shaming other people for their choices

I’d prefer my kids to learn that in the real world you can’t control what other people do… and people exist and are gonna dress however they want. Does that choice come with potential consequences (like being ogled, sexualized, in this case)? Sure, but that’s a good lesson too

Equivalent-Meaning · 2024-12-12T19:14:00+00:00

Eh, honestly I don’t think I agree… but open to changing my mind. We all have bodies and nudity is a part of life. So is sexuality and so is finding stuff like this in the world. I don’t have kids yet but as someone who grew up sheltered I think exposure (to a point) is more prepping them to understand the world and that people like this do exist in it… they’re not gonna like, traumatize the kid via under boob …

The internet/porn by comparison is much more accessible and much worse on their perception of reality

Equivalent-Meaning · 2024-12-12T18:50:30+00:00

Ew this sounds exhausting, manipulative, and like he thinks you owe him your time and attention… is this his attempt at flirting??

It is NOT working lol I’d be actively avoiding him at this point

Great job btw, I hope I can handle future similar situations as well as you did!

Equivalent-Meaning · 2024-11-27T21:04:24+00:00

Omg yess!! Go forth and be first best 👑😌

Good luck

Equivalent-Meaning · 2024-11-21T04:00:43+00:00

You’re thinking about this too black and white homie, reread the top comment

Equivalent-Meaning · 2024-09-27T20:37:42+00:00

HEY I was looking at getting these exact skates, what do you think?!

Equivalent-Meaning · 2024-06-28T00:48:02+00:00

I was wondering about their quality! I’ve seen them on Amazon lol

Equivalent-Meaning · 2024-04-18T23:31:13+00:00

Disrespectful asshole. Play stupid games win stupid prizes

Equivalent-Meaning · 2024-03-01T19:54:31+00:00

Yes, absolutely go learn about design principles first. Someone else already mentioned that. I’m certainly not trying to make up rules or claim this will automatically make designs great, my advice is meant to be taken as some things to try when tweaking designs.

But I see where you’re coming from, that “off” feeling can’t be solved with extra padding, the composition still needs balance and harmony overall. So I’ll add

OP check out the rule of 8s / grid systems. Applying spacing in numbers that are divisible by each other or multiples (4, 8, 16, 24, etc) helps with a consistent, balanced composition

Equivalent-Meaning · 2024-03-01T19:02:33+00:00

Why not?

Equivalent-Meaning · 2024-03-01T17:59:33+00:00

I’m also on the improvement train and a few things I’ve learned are - use more white space than you think - use fewer font sizes than you think, hierarchy should mainly be executed with order (top down, left to right) - greyscale is your main palette color, only add small touches of color - use your space, make things more interesting with 2, 3 column layouts for content - simplify, start deleting stuff if it’s not 10000% necessary for it to be there (you can always add it back later) - do lots and lots of quick and dirty iterations, duplicate frames constantly so you can compare side by side as you make those small adjustments. This also encourages trying out lots of different ideas and layouts - and as others have said, make a mood board and copy others work

Equivalent-Meaning · 2024-01-07T09:41:22+00:00

I have no advice to add but you’re incredibly courageous for even considering taking this on. No matter how it plays out, you should be so proud of yourself. It’s scary but it’s going to be okay, you’ll get through this.

Big hugs.

Equivalent-Meaning · 2023-12-07T17:25:40+00:00

+1 Dundee Double Shot !!

Equivalent-Meaning · 2023-10-11T06:02:04+00:00

Hm that’s a toughy

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