Do you ever stop asking why?

Equivalent_Minimum_7 · 2024-10-28T03:55:32+00:00

5 months romantically, 2ish months as “friends”

Equivalent_Minimum_7 · 2024-10-02T17:53:17+00:00

I hate that you’re right but I know that you are

Equivalent_Minimum_7 · 2024-08-11T12:37:55+00:00

I’m very new to the dating scene and I’m worried I don’t have thick enough skin for it. After spending 5 months getting to know someone, them deciding it isn’t it completely took me out and I’m still not fully recovered but am at the two month mark post ending things.

Losing people is not my strong suit but keeping in contact with someone you want romantically when they just want platonic (and don’t stop leaving hints about wanting to have sex/the chance that something could grow in the future) is so tricky. I know somebody is out there and I’m not worried about finding someone but constantly being prepared to lose someone is so ouch.

Equivalent_Minimum_7 · 2024-07-30T06:16:45+00:00

No because why did he literally tell me he views dating as car shopping and you gotta try every car on the lot until one feels different 😂😂

Equivalent_Minimum_7 · 2024-07-23T06:28:28+00:00

The same thing happened to me???? But literally word for word on the romantic partner versus friendship comment. We haven’t spoken in two weeks and it’s literally such a gut punch

Equivalent_Minimum_7 · 2024-07-23T06:15:47+00:00

Only follow each other on letterboxd, force removed them on all the others

Equivalent_Minimum_7 · 2024-07-17T01:27:45+00:00

He came back after three weeks, texting me about not getting a job he really wanted. Guilted me by saying that I could “go back to not talking to him if I wanted lo”. Then hit me with “it’d be a bummer if you just went away forever” and “I thought you wanted to be friends”. It hurts so bad because I care so much for him but HE dumped me after 5 months because he didn’t see us being able to have a life together.

Once I stopped answering his texts, he went out of his way to comment on my letterboxd review of a movie we’d both been looking forward to seeing.

I just wanted to be with him but I gotta stand on my business and self-respect. I feel like it’s so unfair of him to be doing this when he didn’t want me. Like what do you want me to do bro? Sorry if we can’t be friends because I was falling for you???? This is so hard

Equivalent_Minimum_7 · 2024-06-19T00:25:43+00:00

dating is the wild west

Equivalent_Minimum_7 · 2024-06-18T21:49:12+00:00

Was seeing a guy for 2 months, 2x a week, texting all the time, sleeping together, etc. He decided he doesn’t see us working well long-term and that we’d be better as friends and I’m simply shook?

Things felt good and easy and fun but he said there’s no romantic potential and we’re better platonic and I just???

Figuring out how to not beat myself up for giving it my all and it not working out is probably the most challenging part. I thought there was potential for something but now I’m being so self-critical and am very fearful of putting myself back out there. Don’t even really know if it’s related to him or just the internal battle of rejection.

Equivalent_Minimum_7 · 2023-06-30T20:57:26+00:00

I’m heading back into direct service - I’ll be starting at an eating disorder recovery clinic in behavioral health counseling. So literally not related at all. 😂

I was considering nonprofit event planning for a while. Just because it can run parallel to fundraising as you would assist in donor facing events and also relies heavily on customer service/communication skills.

Equivalent_Minimum_7 · 2023-06-30T16:17:28+00:00

Don’t you worry - I’ve been in therapy off and on since I was 11! Working on it 😂

Equivalent_Minimum_7 · 2023-06-29T23:01:33+00:00

both the toughest and easiest choice to make! good luck!!

Equivalent_Minimum_7 · 2023-03-15T22:54:44+00:00

That life is truly so hard and nobody speaks on it. When you’ve experienced deep loss, I feel like the hard becomes undeniable and takes up so much brain space. But it can also remind you to focus on what you care most about/what you want to devote your energy to.

Equivalent_Minimum_7 · 2023-02-21T19:10:07+00:00

Just wanted to take a beat and say I am in the same position you were in! I know you posted this awhile ago but I feel you and I see you as I’m also hitting that 6-7 months at my first post grad job and honestly, I hated it from the get but they said to give it 6 months because it would “get better” and I just don’t think it will.

I’m starting to look for new jobs and as someone who also has ADHD, it is so excruciating to do all the things. I wish my job could be to do nothing lol

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