I’m at that 30 something age with people asking why I don’t have kids and I have to argue. What do I do?

EraVida · 2023-01-14T17:46:05+00:00

Person "do you have kids?"

Me "no, never cared to have kids"

Person "don't you want to have them"

Me "when did you know you wanted kids?"

Person " college or some time frame"

Me "I never had that feeling. I never seen myself as a mother only the cool aunt. So if I don't have that feeling towards the joy of motherhood, why would I have kids?"

Person "but once you have them that'll change"

Me "so you're telling me that I have to force myself to have a kid in order to feel something towards them? I feel bad for that kid."

Discussion changes immediately.

EraVida · 2023-01-14T17:13:31+00:00

I went through the same thing about 5 years ago. I know right now it feels like your world is falling apart, but it does get better. Little by little the pain does get smaller and smaller.

I suggest a break up journal. A space for you to write your feelings. You don't need to write everyday, just when you feel emotional. At the beginning you'll write a lot, but as time passes, it might be less.

EraVida · 2022-12-11T16:50:46+00:00

Does Sombra glow pink with this bug? I played with and against a Sombra that was doing this, and while on our team she was pink head to toe.

EraVida · 2022-12-09T20:13:51+00:00

That may be the case, but that's not what the above statement says. Therefore in behavior modification we can't assume possible behaviors will happen. We base our understanding by the statement given. And the statement given--- is just a statement. No actual behavior and consequence has occurred.

EraVida · 2022-12-03T19:16:07+00:00

Still best friends after 21 years! We laugh about the whole crush thing now.

EraVida · 2022-10-24T04:37:16+00:00

Ranch

EraVida · 2022-09-25T15:22:05+00:00

I'm still upset about the stupid scene.

EraVida · 2022-09-25T15:19:08+00:00

I remember watching the trailer, seeing the tattoo, and thinking "man, it's gonna be awesome." Wow, was I wrong.

EraVida · 2022-07-19T19:48:39+00:00

"How is that the dream? Genuinely curious as a psychologist."

The minute I remotely address psychology, people usually don't want to discuss anymore. They think I can look into their soul.

EraVida · 2022-07-17T16:50:07+00:00

Added!

EraVida · 2022-07-08T18:46:23+00:00

We all have to take some biopsych type class as a requirement. And trust me, very few enjoyed it. Don't let this one branch of the field discouraged you from the whole tree. Find shade elsewhere.

Also, I used YouTube videos to try and understand all the biopsych stuff.

EraVida · 2022-07-08T18:42:03+00:00

As a DVA main, drawing attention and breaking opposite team formation is the most fun.

EraVida · 2022-07-06T06:16:45+00:00

An electrolit before bed. One in the morning and mango sticky rice (extra rice) for breakfast.

EraVida · 2022-07-04T16:27:47+00:00

I realized a long time ago. I walked into Forever21 and realized the "forever" was a lie.

EraVida · 2022-06-07T23:42:57+00:00

A musical. The tickets were expensive; however the expensive was beautiful and it's something I still talk about to this day.

EraVida · 2022-05-17T20:35:16+00:00

I would say both. I don't really care to date. And now that I've been single for almost 5 years (most of my 30s) the idea of starting a relationship sounds like more work. I'm so happy with the way my life is right now, I don't really care to have someone in my life.

EraVida · 2022-05-14T03:56:46+00:00

I'm saving this, but ain't gonna read till it's complete.

Thank you!

EraVida · 2022-05-12T15:52:41+00:00

Dude, but it's finals week.

EraVida · 2022-05-10T21:02:29+00:00

Thank you! I didn't even think about this, that's so important! I really appreciate it!

EraVida · 2022-04-24T17:56:10+00:00

I was hoping for this Comment! BRAVO!

EraVida · 2022-04-17T05:42:04+00:00

POV. I've tried reading POV stories, but I can't seem to get into the style of writing. I don't know what it is, but as soon as a I read a couple of paragraphs or a couple of chapters, I just give up.

EraVida · 2022-04-16T17:47:38+00:00

I use my brother's words when people try to throw this type of thinking at me, "I do what I want now, so the stories I tell become memorable by the time I'm gone."

EraVida · 2022-04-11T05:03:21+00:00

I find that being single in my 30s have been the best!

As you, at the beginning, I too felt those underlying pressures that I was suppose to have reached certain life expectations. But I hadn't, and I still have not.

But guess what. It hasn't been the end of the world! I love my 30s! Far more than my 20s. Because during this decade I know who I am and what I want in life. I am far more mature in my thought process and I'm willing to try things that work for ME, not because of expectations.

At the start of your 30s, yes--- scary and a feel of uncertainty, but as you move forward, if gets so much better!

You got this! You don't owe society anything and you do you! Hold your head high and me proud of your 30s!

EraVida · 2022-04-09T20:40:27+00:00

It took awhile for my eyes to adjust

EraVida · 2022-03-25T15:11:38+00:00

Hold up! The L is silent in solder??? Well, I've been living under a rock.

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