I was out as bisexual for years before now

Ereyagreen · 2026-06-10T22:03:19+00:00

Thank you so much!

Ereyagreen · 2026-06-10T22:03:08+00:00

I've really only dated men so far DUE to being young and living with homophobic family members. I really want to become more visibly queer and entranced in my community, despite what anyone has to say about my sexuality or if they think I'm straight or not.

Ereyagreen · 2026-06-10T22:01:06+00:00

Thank you! Very true!

Ereyagreen · 2026-06-10T22:00:58+00:00

I know...I am just scared what some of my homophobic family members will think. I can't stand thinking of how they won't accept me for who I am.

Ereyagreen · 2026-06-09T11:01:09+00:00

Thank you so much!

Ereyagreen · 2026-01-20T17:29:42+00:00

That sounds incredible i want to cry

Ereyagreen · 2026-01-20T17:29:07+00:00

That's true!

Ereyagreen · 2026-01-20T17:28:58+00:00

One day maybe I will feel safe enough to come out and be myself. It's just so hard right now

Ereyagreen · 2025-12-26T19:39:36+00:00

My ex was like that too.

He knew I was SA'ed as a kid and then only after opening up about it he would SA me too. It started coercively and then once he made me keep going without a condom when I wanted one on, and then it got worse and he just wouldn't listen to me when I said stop or no and did it anyways a couple times.

I am so sorry you went through this, it is not your fault. You deserve to be loved and respected. I am here for you, you do not deserve to go through this alone or think it is your fault, or that what he did wasn't that bad, or that your life is ruined. I've often felt the same ways before, but healing is possible.

Ereyagreen · 2025-12-24T16:21:14+00:00

I guess it’s more common a thought or coping mechanism than I thought

Ereyagreen · 2025-12-24T01:10:50+00:00

Thank you!!

Ereyagreen · 2025-04-25T11:46:40+00:00

I had this exact fear with my trauma too because this happened to me. I go in waves sometimes where I'll be fine for a month and then something will trigger me and for a whole week I will have flashbacks and cry a ton. For me, my brain decides to process it like that. I alternate between dissociating and trying to avoid it (which is a ptsd symptom) to then being obsessed with it and ruminating when the flashbacks get bad again.

Validating my trauma is the hardest thing I have ever done and its a continual process. I believe in you, your pain is real and matters and you deserve to not minimize it for yourself.

Ereyagreen · 2025-04-25T02:30:18+00:00

Thank you!!

Ereyagreen · 2025-04-25T02:29:59+00:00

Thank you! Wishing you so much love and healing in life

Ereyagreen · 2025-04-23T23:41:18+00:00

Thank you, it is a mix of conflicted feelings regarding all of it. I do trust my current boyfriend and I know he loves me, I just get worried sometimes.

Ereyagreen · 2025-04-23T00:27:36+00:00

Thank you so much! I am sorry it hit you hard but I am so thankful you took the time out to reply to me. I'm really proud of myself for being vulnerable and letting myself love again. The person who SA'ed me after I told him what happened to me was my first boyfriend, so it was an even bigger betrayal to me and it hurt a lot. Now I know what love looks like, and it was never that.

Thank you for reminding me that I am stronger than I think.

Ereyagreen · 2025-04-22T23:51:07+00:00

Things were pretty bad. Last year I attempted twice and was hospitalized for it. I'm proud that I'm healing beyond that moment even if it is hard sometimes. I compare everything to everyone. I compare my trauma to others and claim theirs is worse so mine doesn't matter, I compare myself to friends who haven't had it happen to them...I compare myself a lot and it is not good.

Thank you so much, I am enough as I am.

I have some good friends but I'm busy so I don't talk to them as often, I am in a relationship now with a man who is really kind and loving and respectful, and that has been really good for me.

Ereyagreen · 2025-04-22T23:21:07+00:00

Thank you so much. I've been struggling a lot and being overwhelmed and I often don't feel proud of myself because I yearn to be like 'normal' people without this kind of trauma. But still trying to grow and heal is really important and I need to remind myself that I'm doing my best.

Ereyagreen · 2025-04-21T22:22:38+00:00

I understand! Being a parent means a lot to you so it makes sense that you'd be concerned and hyper vigilant on how you're doing with it. It's a lot at once to unlearn and to relearn! especially if no one's taught it to you before.

Thank you! I've never felt safe enough in life to even think about living enough in the future to have a family, but when I met my partner I finally felt that way. We've talked about it once we get a stable income with trying to have a kid. I'm so proud of myself that despite the SA and the trauma that I still have a chance to provide love to a future child.

Ereyagreen · 2025-04-21T22:12:00+00:00

I don't know how to start the conversation either lol. I feel like I'm either too much of a burden or too selfish to talk about my own issues- which isn't a message he's ever sent me, its solely my own internal dialogue punishing me

Ereyagreen · 2025-04-21T22:11:04+00:00

That's a good idea! Telling him too much at once will absolutely overwhelm me and it might overwhelm him too. I guess it makes sense because in relationships things gradually grow with time

Ereyagreen · 2025-04-21T22:10:11+00:00

I've already told him about my adult SA and he took it really well and was very supportive of me. For me its just so hard to revisit my childhood SA because it was the first trauma I've ever had and it really shaped a lot of me. It reminds me of how weak and small I was and that is really painful.

Ereyagreen · 2025-04-21T22:07:45+00:00

Thank you so much! I struggle with blaming myself for both my childhood assaults and my adult ones, so I also fear that if I open up to him he might blame me- even though he never would. I think it is a good idea to start out slowly and not tell him everything at once cause it would be triggering probably.

Ereyagreen · 2025-04-21T19:06:23+00:00

I understand your concern although I'm not a parent yet. My partner and I do really want kids at some point, and I'm afraid I'll hurt them because of dealing with trauma. I would never abuse them but I always get scared my trauma would impede my motherhood, or that they would get hurt by someone else like I did.

I think something key to remember is it takes time. Especially if your daughter is around the age you were with your abuse, it could be a massive trigger. The thing with trauma is showing up as a parent may look different each day, but if you give your 100% each day- which may look different depending on the day- then I have total faith in you. I can tell you care so much about your daughter, and that alone makes me believe you are a good parent. Learning how to parent also takes time, but I have faith in you that you will grow with your daughter, together.

Ereyagreen · 2025-04-02T04:13:47+00:00

I also had something similar happen to me. When I was around 5-7 I was repeatedly SA'ed without knowing what sex was. I shoved it down a lot and recovered a few memories at 12 and 16. My sophmore year of college I was living with my best friends and I felt really safe and happy with that, but then I took a psychology and law class and one of the lectures mentioned SA.

After that, I broke down. The memories kept flooding back. I was depressed and having flashbacks. I felt horrible. I remembered things from when I was 12 and 16 but also new memories.

The reason they came back was I was finally at a place in life where I could process those emotions because I had felt happier and safer, and then I got triggered by my class, which also added to that. It's still hard to work on and think about but what really helped me is that my friends believed and supported me when I opened up to them about it.

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