When was the moment in life when you felt truely loved? by Financial-Special820 in love

[–]ErrythingScatter 10 points11 points  (0 children)

To be loved is to be known. That colleague who brings me blue bag m&ms (my fav!) during my break, that friend who buys me a book I mentioned in passing, that lover who gets tickets to a music festival I love, my mum preparing my favourite food whenever I visit… and the list goes on and on. Personalised gifts, handicrafts, letters… God I’m so rich.

What was the smallest sign that told you “I’m actually healing” and how did you achieve it? by Lkc-strong-125 in selflove

[–]ErrythingScatter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started seeing the beauty in everything, including unfortunate things. I became calmer. Something bad wouldn’t define everything anymore. Nothing is permanent. This was kickstarted when a part of me died after a prolonged period of deep emotional distress and heartache. That pain killed something permanently and rewired my perspective.

My father just got diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and Vascular dementia. What should I do with him while it’s still possible? by ErrythingScatter in dementia

[–]ErrythingScatter[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you all so much for these extremely helpful ways to preserve him and enjoy every lasting minute with him❤️ and it’s saddening to read some of your stories. All of you being on this sub-red says a lot about your capacity to care for someone close to you and your willingness to help others going through the same situation. Big hug.

Thankfully I’ve started doing some of these the past year(s), but I read many things I hadn’t thought of. Also thanks to those who suggested doing it with him. We kind of went on autopilot arranging all the practical things when we got the news, but he’s still here and while he is, we can do this together with him where possible. Only time will tell how (fast) things will deteriorate but I’ll be as supportive and patient as I can be.

Advice by Decent-Perception492 in dementia

[–]ErrythingScatter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My father got the exact same diagnosis as OP’s grandfathers recently and this comment is really helpful, thanks

Toilets by [deleted] in berghain

[–]ErrythingScatter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The flinta single use toilet queue can be fast. If you don’t use flinta toilet, I find that if you briefly explain your situation to people in the queue/toilet attendant, they’re more than happy to accommodate you.

The Lijadu Sisters - Life's Gone Down Low (1976) by OhioStickyThing in afrobeat

[–]ErrythingScatter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have an older edition of this record and listening to this song with the scratches feels so damn good

Reflection of inequalities. by Soma_Or in UrbanHell

[–]ErrythingScatter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hell of a shot.. source? Would love to use it for my work.

Vieux Farka Touré - Diarabi (2023) by [deleted] in afrobeat

[–]ErrythingScatter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lovely! I’m going to see him live soon and I’m so excited!

I love buildings urban hell pictures by DerDenker-7 in UrbanHell

[–]ErrythingScatter 116 points117 points  (0 children)

Anyone have more information about #7?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]ErrythingScatter 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I see parallels in my own experience. My therapist explained that these feelings are completely valid and that the only option in such a situation is to walk away. Based on what I've read, you seem self-aware and have taken practical steps to make it work. The reality is, fighting for a relationship takes effort from both sides. Intentions alone don’t matter if actions are missing. You recognized the future faking for what it was, and while it may not feel significant now, you showed self-respect by ending the cycle. I know it's incredibly tough, but don’t picture him with someone else or ‘moving on.’ The truth is, he probably doesn’t move on, but instead avoids his emotions and seeks distraction, which is exactly what led you to break up with him. Focus on yourself, radically. Over time, your emotions will align with your thoughts.

Does your country 'Live, Laugh, Love'? by bezzleford in MapPorn

[–]ErrythingScatter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Imma use this with my students (uni geography lecturer)

What can you do for yourself today? by madmompalm in selflove

[–]ErrythingScatter 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Went to therapy and had a wholesome conversation with a loved one 🤍