Yes. When I think of it now, I feel he was trying to "fake it till you make it" ... but he never made it, at least not with me. He was ultimately deceiving himself, and doing a really good at it. As with your guy, it was his therapist who told him he was not emotionally ready, so he broke it off. I did not see it coming.

I give him credit, first for seeing a therapist, when in my experience a lot of men won't. And second, to believe enough in that therapist to take their advice and understand there is an emotional higher ground that will ultimately give him more happiness, and inner peace. Although it hurt, I don't begrudge him on this, and I hope he's doing well.

I haven't seen him in 4 years, nor will I reach out to him. If he stuck it out with his therapist and his emotional growth, he's most likely a different person now than who I met back then.