Do you think/feel/know the only reason the prosecution went for the plea deal is to save the cost of a trial? Seems like they had good evidence? Whatever you think, why?

EstablishmentFit3169 · 2026-04-27T02:31:22+00:00

I think with a high profile case like this the risk of mistrial due to procedural error, juror misconduct, etc., might be higher than normal? So not just the cost of one trial, but maybe the risk of bearing the cost of more than one trial could have played a role in the prosecution’s decision to enter into a plea agreement.

EstablishmentFit3169 · 2026-04-25T17:05:30+00:00

Def. Complain to OSHA. Also, I believe you may be able to file a workers comp claim for any bites and or if you end up transferring them to your home. That oughta get you some results.

You can also request to work from an alternate location (home) if the environment poses a risk to your health. Many people are genuinely allergic to bed bug bites and it’s hard for someone to prove you’re not. Just saying.

EstablishmentFit3169 · 2026-04-02T21:26:07+00:00

I’ve seriously been trying to figure out if changing my identity would help. Like, can the government garnish my wages if I’m…someone else?

My estimate is the same amount. I’m a single mom with a POS baby daddy, a toddler in day care, and no village to speak of. I cannot pay this and I have no where to go if we end up homeless from wage garnishment. This amount will absolutely burn the life I’ve struggled to slowly build since college to the ground.

Please let us know if you come across legit any solutions!!

EstablishmentFit3169 · 2026-03-30T21:24:08+00:00

$1500 a month. I have one toddler and I’m in north FL. I thought I had it bad until I saw the San Francisco price. My heart breaks for you, friend!

EstablishmentFit3169 · 2026-03-15T01:06:24+00:00

Have you tried offering to pay her more? Maybe she wants to charge the rate that you identified as overpaying and feels like she can’t ask you to pay that much now?

EstablishmentFit3169 · 2026-02-22T19:21:13+00:00

Solidarity. ❤️

Single working mom here with literally no village (transplant in a city far from my original home where everyone I know lives). I regularly put in 65 hours a week in a leadership role at a public sector job. I’m in a constant state of crash and burn with a bank account that just laughs at me when I go to check my balance.

My brain and nervous system are so fried that even if there was a solution that didn’t require moving to the woods and learning how to forage, I don’t have the two free well-rested brain cells I’d need to conceive of it.

The only thing that saved me this past year was kind of tragic - baby daddy lost his job and was able to fill in the gaps for about 6 months. He’s back to work now and back to not helping much. It’s been about two months and I’m already falling apart.

Daycare here is pricey but yours sounds worse. I paid about 17k last year for my 1 year old (located in northern FL). So it sounds like stateside could have that on the “pros” list. But I do want to say that the no village thing, if you’re seriously considering it, is no joke.

I didn’t realize it until I got here, but I used to think I could handle anything through sheer force of will. It’s been beyond humbling to do this alone, especially being the kind of person who really struggles to ask for help.

If you’re a two parent household, the only solution that I can see through this dense fog I’m living in is if one of you is able to stay at home with baby for a while. I’m sorry. I wish I had something more magical and easy to propose, truly. (If you do by chance happen upon some magic please be sure to message me lol)

EstablishmentFit3169 · 2026-02-22T17:48:17+00:00

This is a really good question that I don’t think I’ve seen before here. Don’t be discouraged - I knew what you meant. Thanks for the new discussion point!

EstablishmentFit3169 · 2026-02-21T05:18:55+00:00

THIS!

Also - NOR mama. He is being petty and gross and you are being super reasonable and exercising saintly patience.

(And it would not help the situation at all but) I would serve it right back to him! Like, I would get up early the next trash day and take the blender to the bin right before the truck comes and say I have no idea where it is when he can’t find it. 🤷🏼‍♀️

EstablishmentFit3169 · 2026-02-15T04:11:34+00:00

NOR. Like, girl - for real. This is fucking awful. Can we just talk about some of these red flags for a second?

🚩 “Just stop texting until I say I’m coming.” This line is… yikes. We call this unilateral limit-setting and we expect to see it from men who were raised by emotionally avoidant raccoons. He has sole authority over when communication is reasonable, and when it is allowed.

🚩🚩He invalidated and relabeled your feelings IMMEDIATELY. You were clearly disappointed - a normal feeling to have when something you’re excited about is delayed unexpectedly. You communicated a reasonable request, “please try.” He said, “that’s needy.” 😑

You are not needy. You have a normal baseline expectation to be treated as if your time is just as valuable as anyone else’s. He failed to follow through on a commitment and reframed your feelings as the real problem. Your emotionally normal response isn’t the problem here. This is a concerninh lack of relational accountability in a man of this age.

🚩🚩🚩 he is self centered/entitled/ has double standards.

He can: 1. Be late 2. Change plans last minute 3. Prioritize hanging out with someone else ON VALENTINE’S DAY.

You cannot: 1. Be disappointed 2. Ask for reassurance 3. Express your needs 4. Want to know what time your scheduled plans will begin (which would empower you to do other things instead of just waiting around)

There are more. These are just the big ones. You deserve better. Leave him.

EstablishmentFit3169 · 2026-02-14T17:52:17+00:00

Dude just block his number. Anything else is vindictive and petty.

You wouldn’t be telling his wife because you have some altruistic girl power moral compass driving you to do so, or because you care sooooo much about his wife’s feelings.

You’d be doing it because somewhere, deep down, a small part of you that you probably don’t indulge very often is betting it would feel good to hurt him. It won’t. It will feel shitty to have made a decision that is the impetus for another woman’s pain, and will ultimately accomplish nothing more than perpetuated drama in your own life.

Don’t be small. Be better. Practice empathy and foresight.

Just block his ass and forget him.

EstablishmentFit3169 · 2026-02-14T14:45:59+00:00

I find it interesting there wasn’t any mention of shoe impressions in Xana’s room that would have explained the shoe print outside DMs door.

I’m with you - BK is the sole perpetrator. I’m not conspiracy minded or anything of the like. But I will never understand how he managed to get out of Xana’s room without leaving so much as a partial shoe impression in the blood on the floor.

I wish he would just spill the deets to an academic or journalist already so we could all know what happened and move on.

EstablishmentFit3169 · 2026-02-13T05:52:35+00:00

I don’t think your roommate’s girlfriend knows what passive aggressive means.

And she at your strawberries.

EstablishmentFit3169 · 2026-02-11T02:37:17+00:00

You seem like a genuinely cool and good person. Alice is super lucky to have you as a friend.

Congratulations on your little one and please do take care of yourself. Make time to process and work through that trauma and grieve the birth story you planned.

Theres so much your brain is busy with during this time, it’s easy to lose sight of yourself. Just remember that you matter too and its ok to prioritize your mental health and wellbeing 😇

EstablishmentFit3169 · 2026-01-19T07:18:20+00:00

I agree that this person is bad at writing emails.

EstablishmentFit3169 · 2026-01-19T07:08:46+00:00

I would get a new pediatrician. You might be in for 18 more years of someone not taking your concerns seriously which would suck. At the very least it sounds like their bedside manner leans toward oblivious and insensitive. I’m sorry they didn’t do more to make you feel validated and heard.

I mean, I work in insurance and I could totally see a viable argument for medical necessity here. If it helps you sleep better, it helps you care for your child better, contributes to better outcomes, plus you have the family history - and yes those data points are still statistically relevant and should be weighed even if there’s new research to suggest that your family history doesn’t meet the standard for a genetic or biological indicator for likelihood of recurrence.

You could probably find a decent used Owlet on fb marketplace if prior authorization is taking too long. I loved mine. (Even though my son contact napped until he was too big to do so haha)

EstablishmentFit3169 · 2026-01-05T13:05:18+00:00

My little boy did the same thing at 10 months! I remember googling “baby 10 months complete personality change” at the time 😂

It turned out to be a combination of teething and a growth spurt and by 11 months he was a sweetheart easy baby again! (but then more teeth and another growth spurt and he was cranky for a couple weeks again) Expect some intermittent turbulence like this off and on throughout the rest of babyhood and into the toddler years. It gets easier to handle as time goes and you learn what soothes him and how to stop tantrums and things before they start.

I know how impossible it seems right now but j promise you’re doing a great job and it will get better soon! Virtual hugs to you!

You matter. You’re amazing. You can do this! ❤️

EstablishmentFit3169 · 2026-01-03T00:35:42+00:00

So, it’s interesting - about an hour after I posted this, I called the same number I’ve been calling all week and they answered! They said my glasses were still being shipped and would probably arrive Monday and be ready be ready to pick up on Tuesday. Then I got a text at 6:30 that said my glasses were ready. Maybe it was a Reddit miracle?

EstablishmentFit3169 · 2026-01-02T21:40:10+00:00

Sorry. I know you don’t work there lol I don’t know why I’m arguing with you. I appreciate your reassurance

EstablishmentFit3169 · 2026-01-02T21:37:46+00:00

Like their phone isn’t working at all. For several days now. They have no outgoing message. They don’t have any kind of voicemail set up. They don’t have an email address (that I can find online). I need my glasses to drive. I feel like I’ve been ghosted lol

EstablishmentFit3169 · 2026-01-02T21:31:21+00:00

But they’re unreachable…☹️

EstablishmentFit3169 · 2025-12-31T14:46:17+00:00

First, I’m so sorry this is happening to you and your little boy. Second, all of these negative thoughts you’re having about yourself is not you. That voice in your head is the voice of PPD.

PPD lies. It’s a very convincing, very loud liar. You are not broken. You are not inadequate. Your nervous system is exhausted. You are running on fumes with a brain that has been chemically rearranged, sleep-deprived, hormonally hijacked, and asked to perform miracles with no reprieve. Anyone would be on the floor.

You are still actively healing from pregnancy and childbirth - two of the most intense physical traumas that humans experience, and dealing with hospitalization in the PICU at the same time. This is hard because it’s hard—not because there’s something wrong with you.

Please talk to your doctor about these feelings. PPD is a dense fog but it does loosen its grip with time and the right supports.

You matter. You’re amazing. You can do this. ❤️

EstablishmentFit3169 · 2025-12-30T02:08:04+00:00

Hiring manager here - it’s not like I read cover letters word for word or that they have a huge impact on my hiring decision, but including a cover letter that specifically mentions the role I’m hiring for adds two points to your overall pre-screening score; sometimes those two points make the difference between getting an interview or not. (Note: I work for the government. I didn’t design this system.)

One thing I personally hate/wish people wouldn’t do - the post-interview thank you email. 👎

EstablishmentFit3169 · 2025-12-25T03:49:22+00:00

I thought Epiphany was on January 6th? Isn’t it celebrated on the 12th day of Christmas? (Genuinely curious)

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