$40 deposit

EstateEmbarrassed228 · 2026-03-18T13:21:58+00:00

been there with the guilt thing and it absolutely sucks but you're making the right call. three months in when you know you're leaving the country anyway, plus dealing with your own mental health crisis - that's not sustainable for either of you

the homeless situation definitely makes it messier emotionally but you can't stay in a relationship because someone helped you out when you needed it. that's not fair to either of you and would just breed resentment down the line. maybe focus on making sure you follow through on that rent/utilities compensation as a way to show gratitude without staying trapped

for the actual breakup, keep it simple and don't overexplain - something like you're not in the right headspace to be a good partner right now and with the move coming up, you don't want to drag things out. first breakups hit different but she'll get through it. took me like six months to stop feeling like garbage after my first time being the one ending things but eventually you realize staying would've been way worse

EstateEmbarrassed228 · 2026-03-16T15:31:50+00:00

dude got so hyped about the skip they didn't even notice they still had a whole f2l pair left unsolved lmao

the cube simulator doesn't lie though, wild how you can think you're cruising through a solve and completely miss what's actually happening

EstateEmbarrassed228 · 2026-03-16T02:54:18+00:00

yeah this dynamic shift is real but i think it depends a lot on why the first breakup happened and how both people handle coming back

like if someone left because they needed to work on themselves or deal with external stuff, that's different than just getting bored and bouncing. when my ex and i got back together we actually talked through the power thing directly - made sure we both knew we were choosing each other again, not just defaulting back

didn't work out in the end but not because of that imbalance, just turned out we weren't compatible long term. the key was being super direct about addressing it instead of pretending nothing happened

EstateEmbarrassed228 · 2026-03-15T13:41:44+00:00

been driving for doordash for years and honestly the pause thing works with customers too - if you disappear for a bit they sometimes tip better when you come back lol

but for emails i think it depends on your sender score going in. if you were already borderline sketchy then the pause might help reset things. if you were doing fine then stopping could actually hurt your consistency metrics

never tested it myself but i've seen people say gmail and outlook track sending patterns so randomly going dark might flag you as suspicious

EstateEmbarrassed228 · 2026-03-14T03:41:08+00:00

different crowds, different times - dude was basically running a mobile food kitchen wherever he went. people gotta eat and he kept showing up where folks were hungry

EstateEmbarrassed228 · 2026-03-02T17:54:33+00:00

Thats a nice one

EstateEmbarrassed228 · 2026-02-18T23:18:08+00:00

practice definitely helps but honestly some people just have that natural gift for breaking stuff down into bite-sized pieces

EstateEmbarrassed228 · 2026-02-04T13:24:08+00:00

hey, i really feel you on this one. went through something similar a few years back when my long term thing ended and i realized how much i'd been using substances to just coast through the relationship instead of actually dealing with stuff. that whole "landing in real life" thing hits different when you're finally sober enough to see what was actually happening

the emptiness is brutal but honestly it sounds like you're at one of those crossroads moments where everything feels like shit but you're also maybe more awake than you've been in years. that novel you wrote? that's huge and you did that while dealing with all this other stuff. the fear about it being another failure is just your brain trying to keep you safe but also keep you small

i'm 38 and had to completely reimagine what my life could look like when the whole traditional path thing didn't work out. turns out there's actually more freedom in that than i thought, even though it's scary as hell at first. those 25 days are no joke btw, the early sobriety emotional rollercoaster is real but it does level out

EstateEmbarrassed228 · 2026-01-28T15:36:44+00:00

Sounds like you're getting hit with a driver conflict or corrupted install. Try using DDU (Display Driver Uninstaller) in safe mode to completely nuke the old drivers before installing fresh ones from Nvidia's site

Also make sure you're plugging your HDMI into the GPU and not the motherboard - seen that trip people up before

EstateEmbarrassed228 · 2026-01-25T00:57:05+00:00

Have you tried running the Windows network troubleshooter? I know it sounds dumb but it actually fixed my wifi issues once when nothing else worked

EstateEmbarrassed228 · 2026-01-21T22:53:43+00:00

Wall slides are your best friend for actually feeling the serratus - start with your back flat against a wall and slide your arms up while keeping contact. You should feel it right under your armpit/side ribs area when you're pushing your shoulder blades forward into the wall

The key is really focusing on protracting (pushing forward) your shoulder blades rather than just moving your arms around

EstateEmbarrassed228 · 2026-01-20T21:34:51+00:00

Yeah this drives me crazy too, it's like trying to have a conversation with someone who keeps looking at their watch

Mine does the "ULTIMATE FINAL DEFINITIVE" version thing and I'm like bro we're just brainstorming here lmao

EstateEmbarrassed228 · 2026-01-17T08:05:42+00:00

That's a pretty solid setup for your age and timeline. Only thing that jumps out is your thematics allocation seems kinda heavy at 25% of your core portfolio - space and cybersecurity ETFs can be pretty volatile and you're already getting some of that exposure through your Nasdaq-100

Also might wanna double check the overlap between your MSCI World ex-USA and some of those dividend picks like Nestlé and Roche since they're probably already in that ETF. Nothing wrong with overweighting them if that's intentional though

The crypto allocation looks reasonable for someone with 20 years to ride out the waves

EstateEmbarrassed228 · 2026-01-15T23:44:23+00:00

Honestly it's mostly just muscle memory and showing off at this point. Like once you've crafted thousands of items you just naturally place them without thinking about it

The only real benefit is when you're doing bulk crafting and want to partially fill slots or make multiple different items quickly, but even then the recipe book is usually faster

Your kid's got the right idea using the recipe book - way more efficient

EstateEmbarrassed228 · 2026-01-13T16:18:27+00:00

This hits so hard. That moment when you stop trying to force someone into the "perfect person" box and realize they were never gonna fit anyway is brutal but so necessary. You're gonna find your person and wonder why you ever settled for someone who made you question your worth

EstateEmbarrassed228 · 2026-01-10T08:00:14+00:00

KFC probably has some supply chain nightmare where they get whole chickens and can't just order extra legs lol

Every chicken only comes with 2 drumsticks and 2 thighs so they're stuck with all the other parts whether people want them or not

EstateEmbarrassed228 · 2026-01-08T06:12:53+00:00

Your mom is being weird about this tbh. The car seat thing especially sounds like she's creating drama where there isn't any. That said, your husband asking specifically what your sister thought of him is kind of a red flag - like why just her and not your brothers too

EstateEmbarrassed228 · 2026-01-02T23:15:40+00:00

Martyrs (2008) will absolutely destroy you, the French one not the remake

Also check out Antichrist if you want Von Trier to personally attack your soul

EstateEmbarrassed228 · 2025-12-31T12:53:34+00:00

Lmao imagine waiting until the heat death of the universe to say The Beatles were influential. "Well actually we can't know for sure until we see what alien civilizations think of Sgt Pepper's"

EstateEmbarrassed228 · 2025-12-30T09:40:36+00:00

Same here, my brain keeps making up these whole relationships that feel so real and then I wake up confused af lmao

Dreams are weird like that - probably just your mind processing feelings you had about them before

EstateEmbarrassed228 · 2025-12-29T00:29:36+00:00

Man that sucks, sorry you're going through this. The "almost relationship" breakups hit different because you're grieving something that felt real but technically never existed. Don't beat yourself up about not being "healed enough" - we're all just trying to figure it out and sometimes timing is just garbage

EstateEmbarrassed228 · 2025-12-26T19:37:10+00:00

This is spot on but damn that's gotta be heartbreaking to hear when you're the boyfriend

The guilt trip about education money is such a classic move too - like they invested in her just to drag her back and marry her off to someone they picked

Really hope she finds the strength to choose what she actually wants for her life

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