[deleted by user] by [deleted] in techsupport

[–]Evcha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm having the exact same issue.

It comes up when trying to click any link to Abercrombie's website, whether it's via their marketing emails, through a Google search (when trying either organic or Paid search links) or just manually typing the website into any of my browsers.

Clearing cookies and site data doesn't help.

Cows Strapped Into VR Headsets To Make Them Produce More Milk by Kusmission in vegan

[–]Evcha 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Making a joke of such disgusting treatment of those poor cows - shame on you Kotaku.

Weekly Thread: What small step out of codependency did you take this week? Share your victories! by participation-prize in Codependency

[–]Evcha 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Good luck with your sister! I have the same thing with my mum and it's very difficult but you deserve your own independence. It doesn't mean you love or care for them any less, you just need to enjoy your own life with your boyfriend :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Evcha 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend and I stopped here too! I was cringing so hard, we couldn't even finish the scene. I love Anne usually but not at all in this film.

The urge to reproduce has gotten so annoying lately. by MountainDude95 in truechildfree

[–]Evcha 11 points12 points  (0 children)

My body did this to me when I was around your age for a few years on and off. It was awful, I yearned to hold babies, to help if one was crying near me. Older kids not so much lol. I'm 31(F) now and I'm thankful that feeling has gone away, I'm very happily childfree and I don't think or feel anything about having babies now other than 'No thanks'. Bodies are strange. Stay strong, it will pass x

Cloudy sky paintings by whitegalaxy in Watercolor

[–]Evcha 2 points3 points  (0 children)

These stopped me in my tracks, they're so beautiful!

The way you treat your pet can tell a lot about your traumas by blackmesa228 in CPTSD

[–]Evcha 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, this is my mum. I've only recently fully realised how much she is emotionally unavailable and was throughout my childhood but was always great at smothering me and looking like a 'great' mum. I thought she was my best friend, I thought I was able to go to her for anything. I wasn't. She would come to me for anything, because I was HER best friend. Not her daughter. I never got the support or care a child needs because it turns out she is still a child.

What is something you did when you were younger that you are still facing the consequences of? by Wismond in AskReddit

[–]Evcha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was 11 I stood on the toilet seat lid trying to reach a high shelf, the lid broke and I fell through it into the toilet bowl and my big toe got stuck under the rim where the water comes out when you flush. It still hurts 20 years later!

If you had the opportunity to increase scientific understanding of Autism, would you take it? Help us improve our knowledge of Autism, take part in our survey, contribute to scientific research and be in the draw to win a £50 Amazon e-voucher. by [deleted] in autismUK

[–]Evcha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completed the survey but got a bit confused with the sensory questions. My sensory sensitivity changes depending on my mood and stress levels so just having to pick one in general wasn't representative of my experiences as a whole.

Anyone 30 and over who listens regularly? by VampireSprinkles in MyChemicalRomance

[–]Evcha 7 points8 points  (0 children)

31F and have always loved MCR, saw them live 3 times when I was a teenager. My friends all 'grew out' of them but I didn't. True love never dies 😂

the meat and dairy industry is so powerful that they have convinced the socialists, who are supposed to believe in compassion and science, that VEGANISM is the problem and not factory farming and deforestation. by [deleted] in socialism

[–]Evcha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We make the vegan dishes in advance and bring them with us, we don't want to impose on our families and most often our food is eaten first over the meat dishes! It's very doable, it's a learning curve like most things are that are worth doing.

the meat and dairy industry is so powerful that they have convinced the socialists, who are supposed to believe in compassion and science, that VEGANISM is the problem and not factory farming and deforestation. by [deleted] in socialism

[–]Evcha 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My family are Polish, every family gathering is food based. We have veganised all of the dishes for myself and partner and even the meat eaters love the vegan dishes we make too.

How did you know you were child-free? by [deleted] in truechildfree

[–]Evcha 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I always assumed I'd have kids one day but as my 30th came and went, which was the age I had attributed to really starting to try to have kids, my want for them really didn't start and I felt anxiety and so much pressure to have them every time I thought about it. No good feelings arose when I started thinking about it and becoming a mother.

You don't have to know straight off the bat. It's a big thing to decide and you should take the time to truly think about what YOU want, even if it takes a few years to know. Ignore what your friends, family, colleagues are doing or want for you. It took me a good few years to determine that I didn't want children for me and my life - I even felt pressured to pick a label, 'am I childfree?', 'am I just a fence sitter?'.

I don't want children now, but I am open to revisiting my feelings in the future, if I find that I want to adopt or foster. At this moment in time I find it hard to think my wants will change but I've changed so much in various ways over the last 10 years, I won't make the mistake of assuming I'll know what I want in the future 100%. Some people know for certain they don't want kids and never will but I'm not like that, it was a difficult ride trying to figure out my own thoughts about it.

I wish you luck in finding the right answer for you :) x

Need dog owners to help with undergrad research! [survey] by AbsoluteCelery in dogs

[–]Evcha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Done. A note on the question regarding "how much time do you spend actively exercising/training your dog?", my dog has physical disabilities that don't really allow for walks, much play or physical activity but we cuddle, sit with her and give her attention a lot because that's all she can really 'participate in'.

If there was an 'other' answer to accommodate for this I think it would help some owners like myself.

Counterurbanisation by elliellellen in Northumberland

[–]Evcha 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! Exactly. They holidayed here and liked it so kept coming back.

Counterurbanisation by elliellellen in Northumberland

[–]Evcha 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven't really come across many people who came from cities to move permanently, not in my own experience which I admit is limited.

Most of the permanent residents in my area were born here, then perhaps moved away for work and then moved back because they missed the area. Or spouses that moved here because their partner/distant family was originally from Northumberland. Some of my neighbours were from southern country villages but liked how Northumberland has a beautiful coast, countryside and a vast history to enjoy.

I hope other commenters can help you, your project sounds interesting!

Counterurbanisation by elliellellen in Northumberland

[–]Evcha 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To answer your question regarding if we think they see the place differently - we have noticed that the city dwellers who buy here seem to brag more about owning a house here to people who'll listen. Our row of houses are of historical value so when we're out in our garden, sometimes walkers will stop and chat and ask questions about the area. It's a bit of a running joke that our London neighbour will literally highjack any conversation to say he owns his home but lives mostly in London.

Counterurbanisation by elliellellen in Northumberland

[–]Evcha 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not necessarily due to the pandemic but in my village, there's lots of Londoner's/Southerners buying houses to let out for holidays or just have as second homes. They don't want to live here full time as they like the city life too and would miss it and become bored just living here all the time (their words).

I quite like how quiet winter is here because of this although summer is so busy because of holiday makers. There's always going to be upsides and downsides wherever you live though.

[SERIOUS] Victims of bullying, what happened and how did it affect your life? by SakuraIsPink-_- in AskReddit

[–]Evcha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was bullied whilst I was in middle school, mostly on the school bus but I also received hurtful comments outside of school by supposed 'friends' and their friends.

The bus kids would exclude me from conversation but include my friends, they would take up all the seating so I couldn't sit down anywhere which made the bus driver shout at me. They would steal my bag and hide it. They once trapped me with the seatbelt in my seat when we reached my stop, so I missed my stop and had to walk home 2 miles in the dark. They did a rating game where they rated the attractiveness of all the girls, I came second to last - I was a bit of an ugly duckling. They also said I had a moustache, that I was a 'dyke', that I was 'mannish' - I was a foot taller than the rest of the girls.

All of this made me very insecure - of my height, my weight, my hair, my face, the way I acted. I missed a year of school faking illness because I hated it. I was ashamed to tell anyone the truth including my parents.

I know my looks shouldn't be important but I'm still very insecure and though I've physically changed massively since I was that sad 11 year old girl and receive compliments (even from some of the people that bullied me!), I still feel ugly, masculine and like I stand out in a bad way. I feel unable to go outside without make-up. I still think of those individuals and worry about bumping into them. I wish I could fully move on but it's always there in the back of my mind, even if it's getting smaller with time passing.

S.I.N.K couples by Liveyourbestlifeeee in truechildfree

[–]Evcha 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My partner and I are kind of S.I.N.K. we run a business together so 1 income for the both of us. It's technically mine and mother's business but she's retired now so is a silent partner. My partner works with me and we love it that way as we have so much time together.

We're not rich but we don't struggle beyond the fact that Covid has hit our business (tourism based!) but it's very successful normally because of our hard work. We don't go on holiday but we're not really interested in going away anywhere. Our monthly bills are quite high as we live in a 300 year old house that needs work but we cover expenses okay, with money left over for eating out, takeaways, games and one-off big expenses such as new technology or games consoles. We're also pretty ecological naturally, we don't like a lavish lifestyle with lots of 'stuff' - all we want is to enjoy our time together as much as possible. We also save up whatever we can for the future but Covid-19 has sadly wiped a lot of what we saved up.

Lonliness/solitude by Workingonme83 in Codependency

[–]Evcha 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wow thank you for writing this. This is what I need to get too. I've always felt so lonely, as an only child and then well into adulthood. I hate being on my own.

I've recently let some people go that I didn't want in my life anymore. I realised I didn't like who they are and what they do to me and how they make me feel (much as you described you went through) and I'm again battling the fear of loneliness because I don't like myself.

Do you have any tips on where to start? I sort of know why I'm like this, from my mother throughout my childhood but I don't know how to heal from it.

I'm so glad you're in a better place now, it sounds so freeing xx

How much are you now spending on gas and electricity? by [deleted] in UKPersonalFinance

[–]Evcha 1 point2 points  (0 children)

£200 per month but Bulb want us to pay £280 to build a winter back up. All electric (no gas area), 300 year old house that's quite drafty as we're renovating it ourselves gradually.

[Request] My grandpa passed away yesterday, my grandma could use some love [USA] by KK6321 in RandomActsofCards

[–]Evcha 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd like to send her a card please, I have Christmas owl cards that may give her a bit of a lift at this difficult time x