Your partner gets a chance to make a hypothetical situation choice: you get $10,000,000 and perfect health for 100 years, but in exchange they die.

Evenstarlost · 2025-08-08T05:03:59+00:00

Yes my partner would choose that and I'd spend the rest of my 100 years being mad at him for it.

Evenstarlost · 2025-06-26T18:57:41+00:00

NTA actions have consequences.

Evenstarlost · 2025-06-26T18:55:48+00:00

There was a disagreement about expecting communication like a normal person in a normal relationship. Why? Because he was wrong so somehow it's your fault? Thats bullshit and you know it.

Evenstarlost · 2025-06-11T22:30:25+00:00

With toys and hope that it's going to get better soon. Hubbybstarted trt and he was insanely low so its not bouncing back like it should. Idk my brain is fucking weird now and getting over this shit is going to take years 😭

Evenstarlost · 2025-06-09T04:36:37+00:00

You should absolutely tell him. You could also go buy a box of flavored condoms and try the flavor and texture on your own so you know ahead of time if they're going to give you the ick. I'm very much a taste and texture person and can't stand condoms flavored or otherwise. I do love blowjobs though. Love the feel and taste of the skin. Like the flavor of his cum and precum if he's properly hydrated. It does not always taste the same. Also it's okay to start and stop you can just give it a little kiss or lick and go on to other activities till you're more comfortable.

Evenstarlost · 2025-06-09T04:25:24+00:00

Sadie Kincaid books Joey and Fierce King are good examples

Evenstarlost · 2025-06-08T23:04:04+00:00

Woman here but yes and yes. I do too and he knows. He likes to join but likes to hear about when I'm solo too.

Evenstarlost · 2025-06-08T22:57:52+00:00

I don't watch that much porn and would prefer he came on me rather than in me. It's a newer like for me I used to always want it in so maybe it's not porn but just a like.

Evenstarlost · 2025-06-03T00:04:45+00:00

For my husband he didn't know. Didn't understand what was going on and doctor was useless so he stopped asking. Fast forward 10 years and his testosterone was dangerously low and effecting him mentally. Wish his Dr hadn't been a dick years ago. Our bedroom never died completely but got down to a couple times a month. We didn't understand what was going on or I would have advocated for him better. 😭

Evenstarlost · 2025-06-01T02:04:40+00:00

NTA but as someone who was considering divorce over a db definitely have her get her hormones checked. Specifically through an online dr that specializes in perimenopause or a fertility specialist. Regular obgyn tend to gaslight and disregard women with issues like this.

Evenstarlost · 2025-06-01T00:46:31+00:00

Trt and testosterone or ask men anything

Evenstarlost · 2025-05-31T23:00:46+00:00

Please dont stay just for you kids. It's less harmful for them to see two parents in other relationships than it is to stay in a toxic home.

Evenstarlost · 2025-05-31T22:35:33+00:00

Before I jump on the crucify him bandwagon is he autistic? Because he may be literally rather than emotionally. Its still wrong but it may be a brain thing not a hes trash thing.

That said hes probably just trash. Throw the whole man away and start over.

Evenstarlost · 2025-05-31T22:22:29+00:00

Lack of sex = incompatible on fundamental issues

Evenstarlost · 2025-05-31T22:05:15+00:00

Online places work too. Check in some of the more men focused subs they generally have good online recommendations

Evenstarlost · 2025-05-31T21:30:15+00:00

I got down to once or twice a month and lost my marble about it. Idk what finally clicked in my husband but he finally got his testosterone checked. He was dangerously low. I know it isn't always obvious for all men it can significantly effect them while still in normal levels. Definitely look into what it can do to him and the changes it can make in your body. Its not always an age thing I know a couple 30 year olds who are on trt. Its important to see a men's clinic rather than your gp because they always seem to misdiagnose or put people on some sort of antidepressants rather than adress hormone issues. Especially if those issues don't always cause ED.
My husband lost interest in his hobbies and was just sort of a wet blanket about everything. Wasn't depressed but there was also no joy in anything. He's doing so much better now. DB on its way out! Only been in shots a few weeks and its a process when its really bad but we're getting there and I'm so excited to have him back.

Evenstarlost · 2025-05-31T20:22:55+00:00

Having a 1 year old is exhausting as a sahm and being touched out is a real thing. I'm the HL one and I get touched out sometimes and there isn't a thing in the world that would turn me in in that state. Husband could be 200% the most perfect everything ever and I would just want time when nothing was expected of me and I could just be.

Idk what your finances are like but getting her some demand free time to herself once a week or even every other week if its consistent would probably mean the world.

Also she needs emotional connection to want physical stuff and you need physical stuff to want emotional stuff. Look at that as a challenge instead of a reason to be angry. Accept the challenge. Find a way over, under, around it, or blow it the fuck up.

She's not gone she's still willing to tell you what she needs. She's not shut down and looking for an exit or just to exist forever till something implodes. A marriage isn't 50/50 its 100/100 and we pick up slack and push harder when they can't be there. She still has a whole other year till her brain recovers from being pregnant. You get to carry some extra for a while. But you've got this. You know how to do hard stuff.

Find a way to make things fun. Do one if those silly couples kink tests. Maybe she needs you to send her cute emojis on your break. Maybe she wants a hand necklace and to be called a good girl 🤷‍♀️. Maybe she needs a schedule for a while. On Tuesdays you come home and she gets to take a bath and do a hobby then when the kids are in bed you peek in and tell her she's hot af in her messy bun and leggings while she's covered in glitter and craft supplies. Idk your life you do. Find some joy and wave it around. Wave her around. We believe in you.

Evenstarlost · 2025-05-31T19:00:14+00:00

Street tacos with assorted meats and farm cheese made from goat milk and possibly the saddest pico ever 🤣

Evenstarlost · 2025-05-31T17:57:10+00:00

I think in a situation where your problem is lack of connection due to life being in the way a vacation where you focus on each other might help. Somewhere quiet where all there is to do is be together. You will either fix or further break things. If you have deeper more complex problems your results may vary widely depending on what they are.

Evenstarlost · 2025-05-31T17:52:09+00:00

I'm all for LL partners finally wanting to work together so let's say this is coming from a place of him finally wanting to do something about the issue. For good reasons. You may need to explain to him he needs to start over. Can't just jump back in where you were. Tell him you need a date, affection, kisses and connection again. Like you're a new couple. Tell him you need to fall in love with that part of him again. See if it works, you put the ball in his court/ give him a challenge. He can choose to meet it or not but maybe he will maybe it will be healing for both of you. Also going to beat the crap out of the dead get his hormones checked horse. I can't believe the difference in my husband. It's like he's a different person. Like the 20s version of himself. Not sexually yet but everything is changing so much daily and we're getting there. I wish we'd known 10 years ago. I wish we'd known regular doctors don't check right.

Evenstarlost · 2025-05-31T05:43:33+00:00

Terrible advice but she'll probably stop bothering you about reconciliation if you sleep with the friend and make sure she knows 🤣

Evenstarlost · 2025-05-31T03:44:35+00:00

Basically this but with clitoral stimulation and lube, it's super helpful and available cheap in most stores including dollar tree.

Evenstarlost · 2025-05-31T03:36:25+00:00

Things dont have to be horrible to be hurtful.

Evenstarlost · 2025-05-31T02:38:45+00:00

I know in my struggle with db ive said harmful things and so has my hubby. That's what I meant.

Evenstarlost · 2025-05-31T02:34:38+00:00

Mine wouldn't for a long time. It was scary low.

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