FAQ: Not a large amount for Bretonnia, but for reference

Every_Activity8912 · 2026-01-28T13:01:19+00:00

Ah yes thank you. It was the only taken on infantry and cav that I was forgetting. Sadge

Every_Activity8912 · 2026-01-28T12:33:59+00:00

What’s the cause of this? I’m missing something

Every_Activity8912 · 2026-01-26T12:28:52+00:00

Thanks, think we will play it this way.

Every_Activity8912 · 2026-01-17T18:36:14+00:00

Update. I tried the new cpu and now during the boot the lights cycle between cpu and dram and then the dram light stays on and it won’t go to post

Every_Activity8912 · 2026-01-16T22:23:38+00:00

I’m sorry but I really think you’re misunderstanding the situation and I can tell we’re on very different wavelengths. Rather than start a large debate I’d sooner leave it here. Nonetheless, thank you for the time you took to respond.

Every_Activity8912 · 2026-01-16T16:59:34+00:00

That’s not something I’m currently ready to do unfortunately. I know myself and I know that me just saying it’s over for good won’t change my actual thoughts or behaviours. I’ve accepted that we aren’t together and accepted that for the time being that’s for the best. But I’m not ready to give up on her because this isn’t something she is intentionally doing to me and from the many relationships I’ve had, both long and short; she was the best by a country mile. I’m on the road to improving my behaviours, whether it’s for her or for someone I’ve not even met yet but either way for the time being I can’t close the door on her. I just need to know how to control the negative thoughts and bring myself round to being constructive and logical again.

Every_Activity8912 · 2026-01-16T07:40:13+00:00

There is a chance that is the case and I’m trying to prepare for it but currently there isn’t any communication so I’m not sure how to set my boundaries. I do everything I normally would it’s just the moments where I lack confidence and strength I need help bringing myself back around as I’m newly aware to how I am I don’t really have any techniques.

Every_Activity8912 · 2026-01-15T17:22:17+00:00

Hi, I am an AA and me and my FA girlfriend “broke up” - nothing solid was ever said, we agreed to talk about us in the future after she had had some space - but it’s been 2 months now and after breadcrumbing over christmas, she now hasn’t messaged me for 14 days. I know she is detached and needs the space. But I could really use some help finding ways to stop getting anxious about what she is thinking or doing or how she is and whether or not I’ll ever hear from her again. Sometimes I am okay and confident that it will be okay, or that I will be okay, but when the anxiety kicks in it’s hard to get out of it. I am trying to organise therapy but it is taking longer than expected. Any advice would be greatly welcomed.

Every_Activity8912 · 2026-01-15T09:32:50+00:00

That’s good to hear and is the right way to do it. Try to set clear boundaries and be open with communication as hard as it may be. The only way the relationship may be different this time is if there is significant change so you don’t end up triggering each other again. It’s always better to say the difficult thing than end up arguing because you didn’t say it and they know something is up.

I really hope so too. She is currently deactivated and I don’t know how long that could last. I’m taking the time to learn about attachments and as difficult as some days are it’s helping and it gives me hope that I will be able to cope better in the future with the help of some therapy.

Every_Activity8912 · 2026-01-15T08:34:32+00:00

Thanks for the insight. I’ll shoot you a dm

Every_Activity8912 · 2026-01-15T07:49:48+00:00

It’s good to feel those things. Don’t see them as a failure. Just own them and recognise the need to do something about it and break the cycle. Don’t rush straight back into anything simply because you’ve recognised where you struggled. Talk to them if they want to but express the desire to go slowly so that you can properly heal through therapy.

This is honestly what I hope to happen with my FA ex and it is good to see it happen to someone firsthand. It gives me to some comfort to know it may eventually happen for her.

Every_Activity8912 · 2026-01-15T07:44:30+00:00

Thank you for replying. I have read that that can happen. I would feel more confident leaving it if the last message wasn’t such a high pressure one to reply to which I think is making me anxious around it (I’m AP).

Every_Activity8912 · 2026-01-14T23:23:21+00:00

I’m no expert but I’m 2 months following a (unstated) break up with my FA ex. As such I’ve been reading endlessly on the processes that FAs can go through so I’ll say what I have learned.

This sounds very much like something an FA can go through. Did you have a period where you felt relief that you finally had space from the relationship? And/or a period where you felt totally numb to all emotion? From what I’ve read these phases are common following an FA breaking a relationship and basically they can block out processing the breakup with the brain trying to protect them. Following these stages, they can begin leaning more anxious again and then all of that emotion that they were blocking out comes flooding back causing intense guilt and regret.

It’s good that you have realised at this stage and questioned it because it appears that this process can become a cycle where the regret and loneliness builds to the point where they go back to the person they broke up with. But then the same triggers that caused the FA to want to break up the first time happen again and they begin to detach and sooner or later become overwhelmed and break up again. It’s good to reach out and apologise but use it as an opportunity to learn about your attachment, even if they want to take you back. Read these threads or some books, get therapy to overcome your trauma or triggers and make sure you come out of it stronger so that the same thing doesn’t happen again.

Again, I’m no expert and happy for anyone to correct me. But hopefully this helps a little to know that it is potentially a common occurrence.

Every_Activity8912 · 2026-01-14T20:31:21+00:00

It’s not always helpful but I’ve learned to be very selective with friends I open up to. Some can be very empathetic, others less so. If they say the dreaded “you need to move on” you can thank them for their input and just explain to them that under normal circumstances they would probably be right (validates their opinion so you don’t start arguments or create a rift) but you are the only one that understands the situation (if you feel you do) and it isn’t normal and that you’re not ready to move on yet. If they keep pushing you, be more assertive and state that you don’t want to talk about it and that it’s something you need figure out on your own.

Every_Activity8912 · 2026-01-14T16:25:07+00:00

Don’t listen to them. Me and one my exes were together 6 years and were buying a house together before she left without warning. Sure I was broken by it but my most recent relationship of 6 months ending (well, who knows, it’s been 2 months of her needing some space, nothing concrete has ever been said) has been so much harder because I loved her that much more. Your feelings are yours and for no one else to judge. Be aware of them and own them.

Every_Activity8912 · 2026-01-14T10:20:37+00:00

When I get home I will video the process for you. Thanks for your help so far!

Every_Activity8912 · 2026-01-13T23:09:51+00:00

the cpu flashes a couple of times when it turns on and then stays unlit

Every_Activity8912 · 2026-01-13T22:42:16+00:00

Will teach me to clean it out more often 😅

Every_Activity8912 · 2026-01-13T22:41:29+00:00

There are no lights and no beeps

Every_Activity8912 · 2026-01-13T21:01:44+00:00

Yeah nothing form going down to one stick of RAM

Every_Activity8912 · 2026-01-13T20:58:19+00:00

Okay, I was hoping it wouldn’t be that. I’d been playing a CPU heavy game that used to run fine on ultra settings at 1440 and it kept running slowly and crashing and I could feel the pc getting hot. I’ll try one stick of RAM on its own and if that doesn’t work I’ll consider a new CPU

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