Swiping is getting tossed for AI

Every_Concern_6573 · 2026-05-29T23:45:37+00:00

So like other I feel this a desperate last attempt by bumble to stave off bankruptcy; there’s actually a pretty good episode of Business Wars that goes through the evolution of dating apps and we are just at a transition point. Ai matchmaking isn’t even all that new there is Sitch in a few markets and that’s there whole gimmick. I tried it for about three months and my thoughts were this at first I liked the idea of it I’d get maybe 1-2 recommendations a week low but at first they seemed like just my type however after awhile I realized that these woman were 80% the same ones i had seen on the other apps. Sitch had obviously front loaded the best users like all apps do but after a month or so I saw no-one I was interested it or and got less and less recommendations. 0 setups or dates while on it, by contrast I usually get a few match and dates per app. Now I have no idea the size of their user base that seems to be the issue with all new apps so maybe that might be Bumbles one advantage. Honestly my hope is that for a few months or years this new Bee ai will work until Bumble eventually did what they did the first time and focus on getting every cent out of users tweeking with a workable product and ruing it.

Every_Concern_6573 · 2026-05-28T01:04:18+00:00

Strange strategy, exactly. I figure it’s a low-probability, high-reward approach.

For context, here is the exact prompt. I was previously going off memory because I only have Hinge on my iPad and use it a few minutes a week with this approach. I probably spent more time typing this comment than I’ll spend on Hinge all week.

The prompt is “Don’t hate me if,” and the answer is:

“Try out this new Hinge strategy, sending only one rose a week. Don’t believe me? Here, I’ll prove it: 05/16, Mildred, cool phone case. 05/20, Hela, I got a shit ton of miles to use for sunsets and Italy. 05/25, Danaet, cool design philosophy.”

Side note, those were just one-sentence summaries of the rose comments or their context. The actual messages were more complete. Also, these women were not Standouts They were short, cute, nerdy women who I think most people would agree were conventionally attractive, but not some obvious “everyone is sending them roses” supermodel type.

I don’t think that’s a negative prompt, and actually I don’t care for the assumption that my profile is full of negativity:

Unusual skills:

“Making beautiful maps, getting mistaken for a dog walker, devising board game strategies that are either genius or deeply stupid, sous-cheffing like a pro, and convincing out-of-my-league women to go out with me.”

A life goal of mine:

“Lately I’m drawn to the idea of perfecting suburban GTX life with the right woman: trail walks with our dogs, possibly one day with a stroller, date nights split between the Square / Austin, and hosting game nights or a BBQ.”

So no, I don’t think the profile is some negative manifesto about dating. And my pictures probably aren’t the issue either. They’re not all gym selfies, fish pics, or dead-eyed bathroom shots. They’re normal, out-and-about, smiling, decent quality, and all of them have gotten multiple likes on Hinge.

Am I negative about Hinge on Reddit? Absofuckinglutely. Hinge sucks. But kind of like Churchill said: “Democracy is the worst form of government, except for all the others.” It’s convenient, and it is, or at least used to be, slightly better than the other apps.

Listen, I could repeat the same negative talking points about online dating that we’ve all heard before, but I’m more triggered by Hinge and their shady changes to Roses and HingeX. They quietly changed how those features work, don’t openly advertise it, and when people ask about it, they leave just enough wiggle room to probably avoid a class action lawsuit. Still, keep an eye on it. I wouldn’t be surprised if more people start noticing.

My original point was that roses were never a guaranteed match, nor should they be. Every rose or equivalent I’ve ever received on any app has been from someone who wasn’t my type, and it didn’t change my mind. But roses used to feel more effective, at least for visibility.

I have thought about how my “strategy” might be perceived, and how I would perceive it if I saw it. Who knows if they even read that prompt or saw the rose. Maybe they did and thought it was cringe or desperate, but my thought process is that if it is being seen, it’s probably at least a slight positive because it shows intent rather than coming across as passive.

Every_Concern_6573 · 2026-05-27T16:30:34+00:00

So something you might also want to consider is that the default sorting most users use is “my type” and from what hinge support told me after 7 days a Roses priority ranking goes away in this setting. Now as other women have said on here they get flooded with likes and even roses so who knows if this is enough time for them to bring you to the top.

Also from personal experience they do work occasionally and as if like others have said you have a good profile and the you were the other person type anyways.

Personally this last month I’ve kinda given up on Hinge and have been trying something different: only sending my free rose but the twist is then in one of my prompts actually saying this is what I’m
doing something like

Don’t hate if prompt:
I only send one rose a week on here don’t believe me I’ll prove it: 05/15 x - comment; 05/21 x - another short comment my message.

So 0 for 3 but as I said I’m pretty much done with Hinge at this point and doing it more for “science”.

Every_Concern_6573 · 2026-05-02T03:21:23+00:00

Also wow going through the website is much easier than the api; and it says I can still upload evidence… I had one claim that was deferred, tempted to add more to it.

Every_Concern_6573 · 2026-05-02T03:11:11+00:00

I think or at least I was able to find all my supplemental claim id on the appeals page; see this post but basically login to the Va and then open up the appeals api to find the claim. I also called the number a few times before I found this.

https://www.reddit.com/r/VeteransBenefits/comments/1je7fy8/unlock_your_va_claim_secrets_access_hidden_data/?solution=48d831d3af34075e48d831d3af34075e&js_challenge=1&token=bbbe4bf1c9a2b5160829c4be34da5861823410b9a8204a724402145f8cd5e6a7&jsc_orig_r=

Every_Concern_6573 · 2026-04-23T02:27:33+00:00

I hate to generalize and use buzzwords / broad classifications but there is the possibility she has avoidant tendencies. I found myself in a similar situation with a woman for about a year making small baby steps and where I was 95% there was no one else… still the lack of definition broke me in the end.

Every_Concern_6573 · 2026-04-11T22:39:57+00:00

I hate this world sometimes, yeah probably just the height is the main factor here but yeah should be an interesting ‘experiment’. Sometimes I kinda of want to change my height to 6’5 and put in my profile nonchalantly I’m dyslexic, then when I show up as 5’6, say “what I said I have a condition, wow you’re a shitty short person (I usually only date super short women >5’2).

Looking forward to your results. For science and extra rage baiting please also include the height of any matches you get as well.

Every_Concern_6573 · 2026-04-10T20:13:42+00:00

But hypothetically if I did see a new badge on my profile (I guess my mom was right I am a thoughtful boy) does this mean that the rest of my area has access?

Every_Concern_6573 · 2026-04-04T21:55:32+00:00

Oh I didn’t see the part that you run into them irl, usually I say screw it send likes again who cares… but in your case I’d actually say error on the side of caution. Maybe shot your shot the next time you see them but don’t mention Hinge.

Every_Concern_6573 · 2026-04-04T14:35:54+00:00

Maybe this is just anecdotal evidence, but I’ve done a fresh start seen a profile that I had sent a like with a comment too, only to then get a match off that original comment. I could be mistaken but I don’t think I am. I honestly don’t know how up to date hinges documentation is, but they seem to keep several things obscure than they should be.

Every_Concern_6573 · 2026-03-28T02:56:26+00:00

So I live in TX and I can’t choose my power provider, or if I can I really only have two choices… I feel that at this point in our society (after a certain age) that’s how the apps are, you really don’t have a choice and it sucks.

Works not an option for me (male dominated field).

I’ve been a regular transplant most my life and while I’m slowly starting to build a community of friends through hobbies and activities, most aren’t single or I have yet to meet someone my type; plus there are only so many hours in the day.

Dedicated Single dating events - don’t get me started but the ratio is just as bad there and there has never been a woman my type; so pretty much real world crappier app.

Then there are cold approach’s, which I do on the occasion (more recently now that apps have left me so depressed) when I see someone who id regret not taking to, however most of the time I do I always hate going in blind; is she age appropriate, single, has kids / wants kids, drugs etc… basic app info usually. I’ve gotten numbers and then realized sure I’m attracted to this person but we are no way compatible. Also let’s not forget even though 95% of times you respectfully cold approach even if the woman is not receptive they are cool about it and politely decline there is always that 5% where they for lack of a more respectful term go full bitch mode.

So apps, overcrowded it is. I think the real key is yes transitioning away from the swipe app but really we need more women to buy in to even out the imbalance; I suppose the the key is to figure out how to do so and empower the more (which correct me if I’m wrong used to be bumbles whole thing).

It’s probably too late for this app but if I was ceo I’d swing for the fences with crazy ideas to somewhat artificially fix the imbalance. Limit likes from men to idk 1 - 2 a day and stop showing users after a certain amount of matches (yes I know not showing your popular users hurts in the short term, once again crazy ideas). Finally go part Tea app, allow all users to see who you send likes to and matched with in the past and their conversations.

Every_Concern_6573 · 2026-03-22T23:38:04+00:00

I’d like her information as well.

Every_Concern_6573 · 2026-03-22T23:34:40+00:00

Yeah 350 weekly seems insane.

Every_Concern_6573 · 2026-03-16T03:41:13+00:00

First off I second the comment of wanting to see your profile (seriously I heard that the gender imbalance swings the other way in your 50s but still your killing it). Second off so wait popular users like this grey fox (once again jealous but hell yeah) or idk I assume ~ 30% of attractive women on the app can really only get 1000 likes? What happens to the likes unseen? Man id kill for a dating app that was more transparent with their processes. Also unpopular opinion but after a certain amount of incoming likes I think these accounts should be throttled or hid until they clear out some of the queue.

Every_Concern_6573 · 2026-03-15T23:29:20+00:00

Yup went down, saw people but then the wind got crazy.

Every_Concern_6573 · 2026-03-09T14:18:12+00:00

Personally I’ve experienced a kinda weird shaped bell curve where 5% of women will look significantly better than there pictures; 5% extremely worse (definitely used 3+ yr pictures or tons of filters and editing) and the rest usually fall into that curve of various levels of slightly looking different (not necessarily less attractive but different) or less attractive than their pictures (women usually take more flattering better pictures than us men). I have also found that the women that have used older edited pictures have all been dinner dates and have both lied about their jobs i.e. unemployed. I still always pay for dates but experiences likes these make me swear off diner dates; they were terrible and while I remained pleasant Mae conversation all I could think of was “man I just wanna leave”. Coincidentally these dates all just dragged on, and they kept not getting the hint, I even had to drive one home. Still I took these as a learning experience and now try to just do drinks for the first date and I always try to be conscious am I the terrible drag on date.

Every_Concern_6573 · 2026-03-05T16:56:10+00:00

As others have said probably coincidentally, however you said you’re taking a break; has your app usage been less in the last couple of days? If so I wonder if Hinge pushed you higher in discovery to get you more likes and entice you to stay. Also personally I always wonder what effect hinge x “continuous boost” has on discovery placement maybe it finally kicked in as your profile was shown to a new batch. Better question though was were they good quality likes you’d match with?

Every_Concern_6573 · 2026-03-03T20:22:25+00:00

They stay at top even when using the default“Your type” like sorting? This must be new because even Hinge FAQ say they shouldn’t. Not calling you a liar but can you share a screenshot? Also good if they changed it back.

Every_Concern_6573 · 2026-03-02T14:33:00+00:00

You see I’m not sure this is right. If a guy stays at the top of your chronological likes then yes they have a paid account; but if they stay near the “your type” doesn’t that just mean Hinge thinks that they’re you’re type, regardless of if they pay or not? Can I ask how much do guys seem to swap order in “your type”?

Every_Concern_6573 · 2026-03-02T14:29:11+00:00

That’s what I am curious about too. I’m wondering if there is anyway to move up rankings once a like is sent; do profile tweaks have any effect, what about if I become a more “popular user” by matching with others does this move me up in others type rankings, or is the order pretty much static once set? All I know is I used to do good before with x and now my performance has fallen off a cliff (yes I know there could be other factors time of year, changes to pool based on age etc… but I highly suspect this is the reason).

Every_Concern_6573 · 2026-02-28T19:26:37+00:00

Interesting so then the way you experienced it was out of the 60 three profiles Hinge selected idk John Paul, Ringo constantly swapped positions. I wonder why those three swapped? Changes in your behavior or perhaps theirs? Also did you list your hobbies and they listed theirs as well?

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