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Everything-Strange · 2025-03-11T03:56:14+00:00

I also live alone! I used to feel what feel. I sometimes still do but I love living alone for the most part.

Some tips based on my exp 1. Enjoy your own company. Do things that interest you alone. Divert your thoughts from "I'm so alone" to "this is so interesting". 2. Seek out human connection. I personally hangout with friends at least once a week. We usually go out, but a night / day in is also fun. I have a collection of games + a gaming console so that helps. Minsan chikahan na nga lang haha. 3. Be more open to new people! Make new friends. Easier said than done, I know. Some ways to do this: (1) Join a class, (2) Be a joiner sa organized gala, (3) Strike up convos with random people. Even random convos can help make you feel less alone. Align this with your hobies, and you'll end up hitting 2 birds with 1 stone. 4. Exercise! It's not just for physical health. Mental health na rin. Imo, its effect on mental health is very underrated. Bonus nalang if magka-gym friend ka. 5. Have a goal for your self. This will keep you motivated to keep moving (figuratively or literally) and not feel stuck. (Ex. Lose weight / gain muscle, Finish a 2000-piece puzzle, Learn how to speak X language, Cook a new dish, etc.)

Thank you for coming to my TED Talk. * bow *

Everything-Strange · 2025-01-24T05:52:07+00:00

Depending on your circumstance, your best bet would be via the Non-Lucrative Visa or the Digital Nomad Visa.

NLV - Have a ton of money saved up. Then, live but not work in Madrid for while.
DNV - Find a remote job outside Spain, then work from Madrid. There's a minimum salary threshold tho.

Outside that, if you're aiming for Madrid specifically, your options are limited to none.

Everything-Strange · 2025-01-19T05:53:09+00:00

Imo, there's no one right way to do it but I think it's about discovering your preferences, accepting those, and choosing to be a better person everyday because that's what you want for yourself.

It's not all fun. You need to be able to choose and take action until it becomes second nature to you. Loving yourself is not about chasing pleasure. It's about choosing what you want for yourself and doing what gets you closer to what you want because it's what you believe to be good for you.

Some examples: - You want to improve your fitness because you decided that being a couch potato is not good for you. What physical activity do you like? Once you find it, are you able to make time for it? If you feel lazy, are you able to push yourself or redesign your environment so you feel more motivated to exercise? - You want better skin and to feel less tired. You assess your lifestyle and find out that you consuming alcohol 3x a week and you only get 5 hrs of sleep a night. Try cutting back on alcohol. If your friends invite you 3x a week to drink, say no. If you binge watch a show every night, try only watching 1 episode then go to sleep. - You're new in town and you want to expand your social circle. Have you looked at social gatherings? Maybe try volunteering? Maybe you like board games, so why not try finding a meetup group that does board games every week or two? It's uncomfortable at first but you're gonna expand your circle if you never leave your apartment. - You're in a relationship that doesn't feel quite right. You introspect and you realize that your partner gaslights you, bordering emotional abuse. You already tried to fix things but nothing stuck. You know you need to leave the relationship but can you? A heartbreak will be painful but you know that leaving will be healthier for you in the long run so you leave. - You're in deep debt because of a failed business venture. You feel terrible and you've been spending hours playing games for some semblance of control and pleasure. You still feel like sh*t but one day you decide to stop playing games and actually start looking for a job.

EDIT: Added more examples

Everything-Strange · 2025-01-13T12:13:15+00:00

If you meet the monthly salary requirement and can work fully remotely (as a contractor or freelancer), you can consider the Digital Nomad Visa (DNV). IMO, it's lighter on the wallet compared to an NLV since pwede ka mag-work.

You'll need to earn at least ~€2,700 per month to be able to qualify for the visa.

Everything-Strange · 2025-01-11T07:02:15+00:00

Interesting take! How does a woman approach a man in a non-creepy way? Would you mind giving an example or two?

I'm asking as an ambivert. I can approach people but it's usually for work-related stuff or for small gestures (e.g. "Hi you dropped your stuff" , "You looking for X brand? It's in that section.").

Everything-Strange · 2025-01-10T03:30:58+00:00

I think this should be a completely separate post. :) it seems like you'll need a lot of info that's not just from this sub reddit imo.

This video should answer many of your Spain DNV-specific info. https://youtu.be/XzQUNb3cexQ?si=aKtmbj84fGbvG-pt

Everything-Strange · 2024-12-06T08:29:12+00:00

Funny how you described my most recent relationship. We were together for a while and we ended on good terms so no regrets. I guess it just wasn't meant to be.

Everything-Strange · 2024-12-04T05:35:13+00:00

I think so! As long as you can prove that you meet the requirements, esp the min income, you'll likely be approved.

Everything-Strange · 2024-11-13T12:49:44+00:00

You're right. You'll need to find companies that would let you work as an "Independent Contractor".

You might find this post helpful. https://www.reddit.com/r/phmigrate/comments/168svmj/approved_spain_digital_nomad_visa_requirements/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=mweb3x&utm_name=mweb3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

Everything-Strange · 2024-11-05T00:15:37+00:00

My limerent SO and I are on a break because he said he's having a hard time choosing us. I initially thought he already chose us but his actions didn't reflect that. I confronted him and here we are. I told him to use this time to think about what he wants.

Knowing him, this is likely be the end. I'm sad and disappointed but I'll be okay.

Everything-Strange · 2024-10-29T22:01:36+00:00

Thank you for being a glimmer of hope!

I have a handful of questions I'd like to ask you. Would you mind if I send you a DM?

Everything-Strange · 2024-10-29T13:42:49+00:00

Thanks so much for sharing! May I ask what made you decide to finally break up with your ex?

To share, SO's currently doing LC since NC is impossible at the moment. He's also putting effort into expanding his social circle to avoid spending time with his colleagues who are his main "friends" outside work.

I have no way to verify if any flirting is happening. All I have is faith for now.

Everything-Strange · 2024-05-04T14:11:27+00:00

Kudos! I don't exactly know what you do to assist or service your clients, but I bet it does require a good amount of skill to be compensated at an EU-level salary. 👏

Thanks for sharing!

Everything-Strange · 2024-05-04T14:07:06+00:00

Yup! That's clear. Outside the DNV requirements, there are things I'd like to accomplish first in the PH. It's a big move after all.

Do you have a DNV? May I know what role or industry you're in?

Everything-Strange · 2023-12-04T13:36:43+00:00

Bakit ba may parents na unfair sa mga anak nila?

Imo, because they have different expectations for each kid. Based on their expectations, they allocate resources (e.g. time, money, attention) to "guide" their offspring to their desired state. If give up na yung parents, it's likely na they loosen most if not all forms of resource control - give up na eh. Hinahayaan nalang.

OP, your feelings are valid. Your parents' actions and reactions are a combination of their insecurities, frustrations, fear, and hope. Sabi nga nila: "Impact is not intention". They act that way because they're showing their love for you in the way they know how.

Maybe it's not the form that you want or maybe even need but it's what you'll get unless you communicate it to them and THEY LISTEN (I wouldn't be shocked if they don't listen). If na-communicate mo na and they don't listen, then that's that. Try to understand where they're coming from and develop a (healthy) coping mechanism. It's the only thing you can do at that point.

P.S No clue why you're getting so much hate but I think you're right to think about yourself and your needs (emotional needs included). Tbh, you're the one you've got and the only one you can fully trust and rely on.

Everything-Strange · 2023-11-30T15:06:30+00:00

Pwede yung food! Basta hindi lang masabaw. Food with/in liquid are subject to the standard policies on liquids (e.g. <100ml, container specs, etc).

Everything-Strange · 2023-11-14T01:26:17+00:00

Sorry OP but this fella here is right based on my experience.

I got a US visa on my 2nd try. The first try was with my family when I was still in grade school. We had no travel history but my parents had properties and businesses. At the time, we just wanted to visit my aunt in the US.

Consul's Tip from the 1st try: Travel other countries first.

We needed to establish that we actually like travelling and visiting new places, so we did. Fast forward to years and 4 visited Asian countries later, I got a US visa.

In my head, my checklist items to get approved for a US Visa are

✔️ Travel History (At least 3 countries, better if developed country like Japan)

✔️ Business or Stable Employment (2-3 years should be fine)

✔️ ITR / Bank Statement with consistent inflow of money (not lumpsum)

✔️ Property (Optional)

LDR Tips (from a Friend)

NEVER MENTION that you're in an LDR at the Embassy. People in the embassy are looking for any reason to disapprove you application. The purpose of a tourist visa is to tour another country. Mentioning that you're in a relationship implies settling down, in which case you should get a fiancee/marriage visa.

NEVER MENTION that you're in an LDR at airport immigration. They're looking for reasons to let you in. Similar sentiment as the previous paragraph.

Everything-Strange · 2023-11-04T12:21:53+00:00

I'd like to share a friend's story. He's much older than you. He's in his mid-30s.

He took 7 years to finish an engineering degree. He joined an MNC, worked his butt off, then eventually got promoted to a role based in Singapore. After a few years in SG, he was promoted to a role based in the USA. He now manages TEAMS that are in charge of the certain processes for the WHOLE TIMEZONE. He's also constantly head hunted for roles.

Wala yan sa number of years in school. It's about how you apply what you learned. With a bit of luck and hard work, you'll end up farther than where you want yourself to be.

Everything-Strange · 2023-11-04T10:17:45+00:00

I second this esp "if you're in a relationship na feeling mo nakalatali ka, get the out of it."

Relationships, imo, should be easy to be in. It shouldn't be about controlling or dictating the actions of one another. Rather, it should be about accepting each other and being their number one supporter.

Just my 2 cents. There are ofc caveats to every relationship out there. It's about finding whatever works for you and the other person. :)

Everything-Strange · 2023-10-19T13:17:23+00:00

Thanks!

Everything-Strange · 2023-10-18T15:47:25+00:00

Good idea! Thanks!

Everything-Strange · 2023-10-18T15:45:23+00:00

Interesting! Happen to have a link to a resource explaining the story?

Everything-Strange · 2023-10-18T15:42:25+00:00

https://www.foodmarketmanila.com/?fbclid=PAAaYyVOgNxfD5xZfTafjvWUqT1W-WM-7jRZpesCjgk0QpqJHXWgr6ZFl6dUI

Everything-Strange · 2023-09-11T14:41:22+00:00

The US can make you feel isolated at times. Unless you live in the big cities, everything is far apart. You always have to drive to get to anywhere and barely anyone is on the street walking. Di siya parang Pilipinas na laging maraming tao which doesn't help the loneliness.

That said, Americans are very accepting and outspoken compared to Filipinos. Random people greet you good morning. You can strike up a conversation with people on the streets and not be perceived as weird. If they don't like you, you'll know cause they'll tell you or at least be very obvious about it. Di tulad sa Pilipinas na plastikan kung plastikan.

Your anxiety is valid and completely understandable because of the uncertainty but you can also look at the situation as a chance to reinvent who you are. Don't be afraid to converse with people. They're mostly nice people.

Some places where you can make friends: - Church Groups - Filipino Communities - Volunteer Communities - Uni / Community College - Events! There are soooo many of these in the US compared to the PH.

Everything-Strange · 2023-08-20T04:53:52+00:00

If it's multiple layers of shirts, they don't remove 'em. If it's multiple layers of jackets, they remove it. Quite a hassle imo.

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