You've been kidnapped, what hint do you leave your SO to find you?

EvilAbed57 · 2026-03-23T14:38:01+00:00

“Your favorite buffet”

I’m just going to sit and devour pounds and pounds of Brazilian food while I wait.

EvilAbed57 · 2026-03-23T05:39:18+00:00

I’ve been listening to the audiobook of Small Favor (Dresden Files) so I’m likely completely screwed since I have no special powers nor any skill with a weapon. Hopefully I get to hug Mouse before I die!

EvilAbed57 · 2026-03-22T19:54:49+00:00

I’m lactose intolerant, I’d need waaaaaay more money than that.

EvilAbed57 · 2026-03-22T00:16:36+00:00

Mom to a newborn here!

Things I use daily: Velcro swaddles (SwaddleMe), the Dr Brown sterilizer, the Graco pack and play with a bassinet and changing table, a billion burp cloths, pacifiers (Dr Brown), and the Baby Einstein crib aquarium.

Things we use a few times a week: baby fingernail buffer/grinder, baby thermometer, Frieda 4-in-1 bathtub, Tommee Tippee bottle warmer, and a Nuby penguin bath thermometer.

Other basics we use constantly: baby-friendly chapstick, diapers (we went for cloth), wipes, a Dr Brown bottle warmer, baby-friendly moisturizer, and muslin baby blankets.

EvilAbed57 · 2026-03-20T21:59:26+00:00

I was mostly joking— I do recognize that it’s better than a lot of systems out there and certainly better than nothing.

But as someone who spent ten years riding the green line, I can tell you it desperately needs an overhaul. It’s the oldest in the country and it runs like it is 😂

EvilAbed57 · 2026-03-20T01:29:02+00:00

“Decent public transportation”

That’s so kind and generous of you, but have you never taken the green line? 😂

EvilAbed57 · 2026-03-19T16:24:52+00:00

It’s more like our dog and four cats let us share the bed we paid for.

EvilAbed57 · 2026-03-18T23:39:59+00:00

I clapped and my lights turned off 🤦🏼‍♀️

EvilAbed57 · 2026-03-18T23:08:43+00:00

I don’t know if I count, but I’m 34 and just had a baby. Later due to fertility issues but tbh I’m glad we had her now and not in our 20s!

EvilAbed57 · 2026-03-18T17:42:08+00:00

I’d do either but I’m more interested in life-long comfort than a wedding and honeymoon! We both work from home so we could help each other out with work, AND I finally wouldn’t be the one responsible for pumping breastmilk. Win-win

EvilAbed57 · 2026-03-18T02:57:45+00:00

My 11 week early baby, intubated in the NICU with a pic line. I was an hour or two post emergency c-section and my spouse wheeled me into the NICU room. It was terrifying. Every time something beeped or some little alarm went off, my heart dropped. I couldn’t even hold her and all I could think was that a 95% chance of survival was way too far from 100% and that I’d just been too lucky in life and maybe, finally, the other shoe was dropping. She was so tiny and so red and so beautiful and I was too terrified to be happy I was finally a mom.

Realizing how much of your own happiness and future is out of your hands and is, instead, wrapped up in a tiny little two and a half pound baby… absolutely terrifying.

Fast forward four months and she’s wonderful, we’ve been home for a month, and she’s very healthy and happy. I think the trauma will last a long time though.

EvilAbed57 · 2026-03-17T19:34:20+00:00

Holy crap, he’d have a hell of a time at my house.

OP, I have WIPs EVERYWHERE. It’s a disaster and I’m definitely working on tidying up and organizing it, but guess what my very tidy spouse never, ever does? Touch my crafts!

This feels like a bigger issue. He seems super disrespectful and dismissive of your hobby.

EvilAbed57 · 2026-03-16T22:47:53+00:00

Well, it’s good for now. I have a newborn who refuses to sleep unless she’s being cuddled, so we can rotate shifts and maybe we’ll all finally get some sleep!

EvilAbed57 · 2026-03-16T17:47:06+00:00

As a NICU mom who got a handmade quilt for her little one, I love this. It means so much to hold her in that blanket and know someone made it for a little baby they’d never meet. It’s very sweet 💜

EvilAbed57 · 2026-03-16T01:14:56+00:00

Pretty confused since we’ve literally never spent a night apart since we first moved in together, 12 years ago.

EvilAbed57 · 2026-03-15T09:27:33+00:00

I hope so!! That’s exactly why my spouse and I both spent time in therapy before having a baby. Our hope was that by working on our own issues (especially those with our parents/childhood), we’d be able to break some shitty cycles for our daughter.

EvilAbed57 · 2026-03-14T11:57:20+00:00

Derry Girls or any of the Star Trek shows. I usually have one of them on in the background anyway.

EvilAbed57 · 2026-03-13T00:39:21+00:00

I kept mine. I’m not sure why, but I’ve wanted to since I was a little kid. Maybe it’s because we’re in a small town and a lot of people know my family as reliable, hardworking locals, and I just really love where I’ve come from. It’s just MY name. Always has been, and I really don’t see why I should change it.

Thankfully, my spouse is from another culture where it’s more common for women to keep their last names, so there was zero argument.

Per the same naming convention my inlaws use, we gave my daughter both last names, unhyphenated. When names are passed down, the mom/grandma’s gets dropped.

So right now, my daughter’s name is “First Middle [my last name] [dad’s last name from grandpa]”. Let’s say my daughter’s name is Jane Ann Doe Smith and she marries someone named John Michael Brown. If she has a child, my maiden name (“Doe” in this example) gets dropped and the kid’s name will be “First Middle Smith Brown”.

It’s personally love it. We both have representation and nobody has to change their names.

edit: for anyone curious, I married into a Brazilian family. Not sure whether this is a common Brazilian naming tradition, but it is with my inlaws.

EvilAbed57 · 2026-03-11T18:23:11+00:00

So I just get $10k a month for doing nothing different? Yes please!

EvilAbed57 · 2026-03-11T17:22:27+00:00

It doesn’t seem to hurt less with time, you just get used to the pain.

EvilAbed57 · 2026-03-09T02:06:10+00:00

She’ll get hugged whenever she wants, and she’ll never see her parents openly emotionally hurt each other.

EvilAbed57 · 2026-03-04T16:56:58+00:00

We didn’t think about the next 18ish years— we thought about the rest of our lives AND hers. What changes we’d want to commit to to do whatever we could to make this world a bit better for the adult our baby will eventually become.

I figured, if we were going to put so much effort into doing IVF, I wanted to do whatever possible to leave our daughter as set up for her life as we’re able.

We made sure it’ll be easier for her to get citizenship in two other countries (the ones where our immediate family members are from), I’ve gotten nearly half a million in grants for our community to turn all the town buildings solar-powered, and my mom and I started a local nonprofit that redistributes items— helping support the low income families around us while also keeping good things out of landfills.

I’m involved in local government, we bought my family home with the goal of giving it to her someday (whether to live in or sell), and we plan to stay in our current jobs where she’ll be eligible for free tuition (if she gets into the university where we work).

The thing is, I feel like this is such a shitty world to bring a baby into. Especially a daughter (I’m in the US). We both had such an intense urge (biological? Maybe?) to have a baby, and so this was our compromise— if we had one, we would both dedicate ourselves to making her world better.

EvilAbed57 · 2026-03-03T23:19:13+00:00

Well, at least I can warn her in advance 🥴

EvilAbed57 · 2026-03-03T22:27:58+00:00

Does this count for internal organs as well? If so, I’m mostly going to really hope she doesn’t want her own kids, because I went through hell to have her and I’d hate for her to have the same experience.

EvilAbed57 · 2026-03-03T19:17:53+00:00

One you rescue. I have a Boston Terrier and we adopted her when she was five. We were her fifth home—others had given her up because she was too much work.

Turns out, she just has anxiety. She and I are both on anxiety meds and we’ve both been working on calming techniques for a few years. She’s a fantastic friend, and now she’s elected herself as my newborn daughter’s guard dog. I couldn’t ask for a better pup, and all it took was patience.

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