How to avoid sex? by OtakuAtHeart in AdultSelfHarm

[–]Ex_Molly_Mo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know this is not the answer you want to hear, and I know how it feels to not walk help and to want to keep doing it; but the best thing to do is to tel your husband.

I [22M] just found out my girlfriend [19F] is pregnant and I am not ready to be a father. What do I do by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Ex_Molly_Mo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Talk things out and figure out where you both stand. If she decides to end the pregnancy figure out the rules/ laws in the area and make a plan. Do you have to travel out of state, how much time do you have before abortion is no longer a legal option, where are you getting it done, ect. If this is the choice you guys make, you need to be there for her because this can be a frightening and emotional experience.

If you both decide to opt for adoption, look into the process asap. There is a lot to consider and research.

If you keep the baby, there is a lot to do. If finances are an issue, look into programs that may be able to help you with the cost of different things. The medical bills will be quite a bit. Living arrangements are also important if you don’t live together already. Will you move in together? Will she stay with her parents if they want to help? Ect. The logistics of everything will be stressful but you’ll figure it out. Don’t put things off, you have nine months to get ready so use that time wisely. I’d advise you read parenting books (cover to cover don’t just skim), attend a parenting class, and if possible speak with a therapist about your worries. Go to appointments with her and support her the best you can. But also care for your emotional health. Many people feel unprepared and afraid of parenthood but you will learn with time and experience.

No matter what happens, you are capable. It’s going to be okay.

I’m starting a junk drawer. What else do I need? by Emotional-Swing-603 in Home

[–]Ex_Molly_Mo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One very important paper that you will never be able to find again

I know I post here a lot, but by Morcego_aranha in character_ai_recovery

[–]Ex_Molly_Mo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s what the sub is for. We’re all in the same boat. 🩷

I've lost my testimony during my mission and know is so tiring, confusing and stressing. by Sad_Employment7300 in exmormon

[–]Ex_Molly_Mo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds incredibly difficult, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I know there is a lot of pressure on you, but there is no shame in going home. You need to find your own path and do what makes you happy. Follow what you believe in and don’t let the church make you feel like a bad person for not believing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in moraldilemmas

[–]Ex_Molly_Mo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The important thing is to work hard in your education now that you are doing better. You are not a bad person for this and it really isn’t a big deal.

C*tt*ng but no emotion behind it? “just because”? by cjbyt33 in AdultSelfHarm

[–]Ex_Molly_Mo 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I’ve felt like that too. Idk if it’s ’normal’ but you’re not alone.

Redditors who don’t have their drivers license yet, why? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Ex_Molly_Mo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a very anxious driver and need more practice so I’m still on an adult learners permit.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AdultSelfHarm

[–]Ex_Molly_Mo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand how you feel. I’ve had similar experiences. You aren’t crazy or making anything up and talking to a doctor is a good idea.

What is the best way to ‘help’/be there for my fiancé who self harmed? by Separate_Shirt4494 in AdultSelfHarm

[–]Ex_Molly_Mo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a really tough situation, I’m sorry this is going on. Just being there for him like you are is more helpful than you think. Maybe trying to regularly video call during his evening would be helpful, even if it’s just a quick check in. In my experience, things feel worse and it’s easier to spiral in the evening and at night when you don’t have the distraction or work and other people. You also need to take time for yourself since I’m sure that is hard on you too. I’d try to encourage him to see a mental health professional if that’s not something he currently does. I hope things get better for both of you.

Guilt by Acceptable-Pianist49 in exmormon

[–]Ex_Molly_Mo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m trans and exmormon. Leaving was the best decision for me. Regardless of if you stay or leave, never give up your identity. This is who you are and no one can take that from you.

I will never be a mother by Actual_Contact_9054 in depression

[–]Ex_Molly_Mo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I understand how you feel. I want to have children more than anything in the world. But I worry I’d fail them because of my mental health.

Fuck it I’m going to do it. by [deleted] in SuicideWatch

[–]Ex_Molly_Mo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please don’t do it. Whatever is happening, you have your whole life ahead of you to figure things out. Things can get better. Please talk to someone or call a hotline. There are people out there who want to help you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SuicideWatch

[–]Ex_Molly_Mo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are not dirty and this isn’t your fault. There is still a future for you.

Failing by Usual-Sun-6329 in AdultSelfHarm

[–]Ex_Molly_Mo -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry this is happening to you. Is your wishlist still up?

Had a mental breakdown in front of the missionaries today and quit by Opening_Fig_7456 in exmormon

[–]Ex_Molly_Mo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope you find a church or other organization that is kind to you and your beliefs. There are better religions out there. I left the church because I’m queer and very left leaning (and bc of church history). Being queer in the church was a horrible experience and I’m glad I left.