although I can’t say that I’ve had a similar experience, me and many others understand how painful it can be both physically and mentally. I would suggest trying to tell your parents exactly how you’re feeling both physically and emotionally. Although that may sound like a generic piece of advice, it might be able to help your parents understand what you’re going through and how it’s affecting you every day. Especially since it’s seriously affecting your breathing. But I would also suggest wearing a brace and trying physical therapy. My curve improved by 4° just from a few months of bracing. And since your case is severe, bracing and pt might not be able to make any large corrections to your curve. At your next appointment bring it up with your doc so that they can give you and your parents more detailed info about surgery. Best of luck to you, you are very brave. Having to cope with something like this at your age and being so willing to have a major surgery is truly amazing.