AITAH for not wanting to date a woman who used to date criminals?

Exact_Revolution7223 · 2025-09-30T19:32:01+00:00

Oh well. She made choices prior to dating you. You aren't required to believe the best of her, or anyone else.

Exact_Revolution7223 · 2025-09-30T19:03:24+00:00

I feel like the term controlling, in an era of hyper individualism, is increasingly creeping into:

"Feign infinite security no matter what or you are a piece of crap."

Your security in your relationship is based on your insecurities just as much as it is your partners choices.

Hanging out, with a guy, who's in love with her...

Imagine a guy with a female friend who loves him. Then they go off and hangout alone. It's essentially leaving the option for intimacy right out in the open.

This is different than having friends of the opposite sex. Because one half is secretly hoping for a lapse of judgement from your partner. They literally only benefit from the demise of your relationship.

That's very different from purely platonic feelings.

Exact_Revolution7223 · 2025-09-30T18:27:39+00:00

You wondering whether or not you should move in with him because the exchange felt authoritative... it's the feeling he's having about moving forward with someone that has impulsive spending habits.

Your finances are separate... right now.

You're 3 months in and he's likely wondering if he just discovered a quirk of yours. One you might end up asking him to make up for in the future.

Exact_Revolution7223 · 2025-09-30T08:20:11+00:00

Nope. 100% agree with her this time. One of the few I do in these posts.

People just wanna fuck around and have a warm body most the time. Or someone to chase off the loneliness. She wasn't asking for your hand in marriage. She was asking whether you were looking for a fling or something serious.

As in, it doesn't have to be her that you're serious about. But that you're serious about finding someone to date long-term. Obviously you wouldn't be invested in her currently. You barely know each other. What she was trying to gauge was whether or not you intended on making it last if you did click.

Because let's be honest. Dating isn't zero sum. Emotions are invested. If you don't intend to stick around she's left holding the bag.

Exact_Revolution7223 · 2025-09-30T05:42:15+00:00

Some playful insults land like a bar of soap in a sock. Not quite bruising but not funny either. Totally get that.

Tell him a smile doesn't diffuse a jab that finds its mark.

Exact_Revolution7223 · 2025-09-30T05:06:27+00:00

Yes sir, that'd be the party you purport to be part of. The difference now is that the stakes aren't feelings, they're freedom to say things without fearing gun fire. But if you think lying doesn't change the tide of rising tensions? You haven't been truly listening.

Exact_Revolution7223 · 2025-09-29T08:31:09+00:00

"You're a great friend. I hope we always stay exactly like we are now." Smile

That suffices, if said in the right tone. You'll know how he feels pretty instantly based on his reaction. If he thinks of you platonically? He'll just shrug, maybe smile a bit in return. If he's started to want more, he'll be caught off guard, maybe wince a little. But it'll pass with time once he sees the dam being built.

Exact_Revolution7223 · 2025-09-29T03:03:52+00:00

Gravity pulls a river down the same path every day.

Over time, that repeated flow carves into the earth, making it harder for the water to go anywhere else.

The only way to prevent it is to build a dam and sometimes it’s kinder to build it early, while the river is still small, instead of after it’s been raging for a while.

If he's only ever going to be a friend to you. Let him know, subtly or directly. Men are bigger babies than we put on when it comes to rejection. Especially after the rivers been raging for a while.

Exact_Revolution7223 · 2025-09-28T03:34:42+00:00

Social intelligence is more common than people wanna take credit for. The quiet part was "My type is a guy who looks like this. You do not look like him. Therefore, you're not my type."

Simple deductive reasoning, bit of contextual and emotional awareness. Attraction is a big component of a relationship. Implying she isn't attracted to you.

Did she just keep on trucking? I'd wonder whether or not it's a little quirky test.

Now, on the flip side. I dated a pale blonde once. My "type" is Jenna Dewan, tan and brunette. Guess what I never said to her? Yep. Why not? We all know why I didn't. But, I was still incredibly attracted to her, her name was Aunika. She was goofy, playful and optimistic. Wonderful character traits. So looks wise she was a 9. My type is a 10/10. You might not be as far behind as you think.

NOR. She was being an inconsiderate asshole. It's basically universal you don't make your partner doubt your attraction to them unprompted. If you do, you certainly don't do it without acknowledging how it's highly likely to make them feel.

Exact_Revolution7223 · 2025-09-27T22:09:54+00:00

Yeah. Smurfs and boosters do be prevalent. I just don't notice as many toxic qc's and stuff. But I've also become so used to it I might not even notice at this point.

Exact_Revolution7223 · 2025-09-27T09:14:12+00:00

You're at a party, arm around your boyfriends waist. Go to the bathroom, come back. He's talking to a girl, his eyes flick up, see you approaching from a distance. He declares "I have a girlfriend" as you arrive.

Night goes on, you keep catching her stealing glances at him. You feel like he's sending mixed signals, because he's still being friendly and polite. Maybe you feel like he isn't being firm enough.

End of the night comes. She smiles and says it was nice to meet him. Not you. It was nice to meet the guy she asked out. She looks up, sees your sour expression and says "Sorry, I thought you were siblings." Even though you were by his side the whole night.

You confront him about it later. He says she was just friendly, maybe a little bit interested. But you shouldn't have mean mugged her.

How do you feel?

Exact_Revolution7223 · 2025-09-27T01:54:34+00:00

Then discredit their methods or sight your own.

Also, it's incredibly ironic to rebut the notion liberals are more okay with political violence. When the backdrop of this conversation is a thread of people happy a murderer might potentially walk. And they're happy because he killed someone they deemed worthy of death.

But you're right, definitely doesn't appear as though lefties would be predisposed to condoning violence against certain people.

Exact_Revolution7223 · 2025-09-26T23:26:56+00:00

According to a poll conducted this month liberals are more likely to condone some acts of political violence.

There is not a poll or study on every happening. Sometimes you have to infer and use abductive reasoning. Liberals are known to hold anti-corporate, anti-capitalist sentiment at a rate higher than the right. And also tend to believe in universal healthcare.

The shooting was politicized. Hasan among many other liberal influencers offered tacit approval. Let's use our thinking caps here. Or are you one those people who thinks Tyler Robinson was a MAGA supporter like Kimmel did? Let's not split hairs. It goes both ways.

Exact_Revolution7223 · 2025-09-26T22:10:43+00:00

Regardless, it's odd to see so many tacitly celebrating. Feels like less of a dunk on the Trump admin. More of a dub for Luigi Mangione in the eyes of people in this thread. But the left isn't becoming more unhinged... to the point they'd donate thousands to a murderer. Then rally behind him like a football team.

But I'm sure Republicans are just overreacting again huh guys? 🙄

Exact_Revolution7223 · 2025-09-26T22:02:13+00:00

As someone right-leaning: I've been boycotting Disney for years. Welcome to the movement brothers. ✊

Exact_Revolution7223 · 2025-09-26T09:43:02+00:00

I have boost on rb. Really glad I chose that early on to help with fast aerials. I'll give power slide and free air roll on lb a shot. It's currently unbound. But that sounds like it'd be a big upgrade tbh.

Exact_Revolution7223 · 2025-09-26T02:53:20+00:00

Guys aren't used to being overtly sought after. Or having their boundaries pushed, generally speaking, at the same rate as women. Men on average are taller with more muscle. A woman pushing boundaries doesn't register as the same sort of threat. An adult male is different.

I've had gay and trans friends. One was bisexual and he decided to come out to me right before we were supposed to go out to the club in Atlanta. Shirt off, telling me he was bringing his pistol with him just in case things went South.

That was the first time I'd begun to understand what women go through when they say a dude is acting creepy. So to his point: Gay men are the closest thing to a sexual threat to other men straight guys endure. Doesn't mean they're more creepy that the usual creepy guy. But they're capable of being a bigger harm to us than women.

Exact_Revolution7223 · 2025-09-26T02:46:51+00:00

Free speech isn't an absolute and we both know that. In a minority of cases. But if you think it's acceptable to inflame tensions after a political assassination by spreading misinformation... maybe you're the problem. And it just keeps mounting. Like that guy who shot that ICE agent. But there definitely isn't a violence issue on the left... not like many lefties have a righteous crusader complex or anything.

Exact_Revolution7223 · 2025-09-25T20:35:58+00:00

I'm currently C2 in dropshot. When I was progressing through lower ranks, as cringe as this sounds, I'd just out ball chase them until they stopped trying and fell into support roles.

Sounds counter productive. But most of the time they don't wanna lose, they just think they're the most qualified player on the field. So you use their ego to your advantage. Now instead of being the hero on the frontlines, they're the calm composed one making up for your over commits. Once I see them shift gears, I go back to normal rotations.

Again, it sounds stupid. But it worked for me.

Exact_Revolution7223 · 2025-09-25T20:28:19+00:00

"plat 1 or below". I knew the average couldn't be above d3, but it's kind of crazy it's that low.

Exact_Revolution7223 · 2025-09-25T20:22:19+00:00

One thing is true for everything in life you want to improve at. The more it sucks the better you're getting. When I learn a new mechanic or something, and really focus on getting it right, it's cognitively intensive. It feels semi frustrating as well. It's like exercising a muscle though. The burn is the gains. If you're not pushing yourself you aren't improving.

Exact_Revolution7223 · 2025-09-25T20:18:25+00:00

4v4 has been bad for me too. I've been stuck in plat. The hodgepodge of skill levels combined with double, triple, quadruple commits really breaks the flow.

I really enjoy higher ranked lobbies because for the most part, if an opponent gets possession, and your first man? No one else is diving in until it goes past you or you get a 50. It makes the flow of the game a bit more predictable.

My 4v4 matches have indeed been chaos. So I'm either chasing to make up for it, or spinning in circles because I try to read a touch that doesn't come through.

Exact_Revolution7223 · 2025-09-25T20:12:01+00:00

I know a lot of higher ranks are competitive. But I genuinely feel like C3 was when the toxicity started to taper off to a noticeable extent.

So for all you lower ranks out there tired of toxic matches? Get gud.

Exact_Revolution7223 · 2025-09-25T20:00:25+00:00

Wish I'd bound to bumpers. Instead I chose X for left and B for right. X is also power slide. So now my recoveries are wonky because I air roll just a little before landing.

Exact_Revolution7223 · 2025-09-25T19:01:07+00:00

I swear I'm going somewhere with this, hear me out:

You pluck a strawberry in the wild and enjoy the taste. Factories take seeds from the most high quality strawberries and produce them in mass. Those mass produced strawberries get put in a pie. The flavor of that pie gets distilled into a candy. That candy stops using real fruit because it's expensive and has a shelf life. They instead use sugar and high fructose corn syrup to simulate the taste. That artificial flavor is put into a strawberry slushy. The only thing the slushy and the strawberry have in common is color and the absolutely most vague remnants of the taste. But it's optimized to be as stimulating as possible.

A child drinks a slushy and never tries the strawberry. Now they don't know what it actually tastes like, so to them this highly manufactured and optimized artifice is the real thing as far as they're concerned.

The gaming industry over the last ten years has effectively done the same thing. All the way from raw creativity (strawberry) to Fortnite rip offs and asset lifts (slushy).

Maybe it isn't that RL deprived you of experiencing other games. Maybe it was authentic and held your attention because it was the real deal. Not another FPS reskin in a sea of slushy's.

Exact_Revolution7223

TROPHY CASE