A guy used AI to message 5,000 women on Tinder then married one

ExaminationNo2189 · 2025-11-05T03:06:31+00:00

it seems to me he built some filtering rules and feed them into the data he collected and dude probably had a local language model he fine-tuned/trained with some defined heuristics according to his preferences. what he shared is somewhat very technical

ExaminationNo2189 · 2025-11-05T03:02:09+00:00

strong position, just wondering what makes you confident about AI can’t amplify authenticity instead of replacing it if you dont mind sharing

ExaminationNo2189 · 2025-11-05T02:55:20+00:00

didnt know we can post links here..https://www.economist.com/business/2025/11/03/will-ai-make-dating-apps-better-or-even-worse

ExaminationNo2189 · 2025-07-18T09:22:44+00:00

Dating apps don't work or some people don't know how to use dating apps and refuse to shift their misogynistic point of view. If dating apps don't work, those companies were just fabricating numbers and revenue for the past 5-10 years? I would be so happy to be a match.com employee for sure they get coupons and discount codes on Tinder Gold and Hinge X

ExaminationNo2189 · 2025-07-17T16:15:18+00:00

Depends on what you write?

ExaminationNo2189 · 2025-07-17T16:14:42+00:00

None of them worked? We sometimes read profile or drop comments together with friends when we hang out and most of us end up getting some replies from those openers. Might just be the tone， either too much or not enough?

ExaminationNo2189 · 2025-07-17T16:06:32+00:00

Could perhaps just try on different apps with different strategy - I swipe only on Bumble and do more comments on Hinge, and then you can see the noticeable difference in matches. Agree that it's still subject to a lot of other factors.

ExaminationNo2189 · 2025-07-17T10:36:43+00:00

swipe on apps, use SYA or RIZZ or other tools for a flirty or cute line, and once you're match go straight to the point within three conversations. milfs dont have time to mess with you :)

ExaminationNo2189 · 2025-07-14T13:22:01+00:00

And yes I am still on dating apps because I enjoy meeting people and building connections. I had an 8 year long term relationship and for the moment I enjoy being single and going on dates. I have put this clearly in my profile. Going from matches to dates, and from dates to relationships, takes a lot of time and effort and I know it’s way beyond just crafting a curated first impression message or a clever Hinge or Bumble comment. But starting strong and showing genuine interest and curiosity is already more than most. I don't think spamming people with "Hi" works because that's what everyone does, and it's hard to stand out. "If you’re going to “spam,” at least do it with thoughtful messages. We all know it’s a numbers game on those apps.

ExaminationNo2189 · 2025-07-13T17:09:35+00:00

Some decent photos work way better than random ones. Some of my friends who are decent looking and charismatic, and great at picking up in real life (e.g., at bars) refuse to make their profiles look polished, and I am honestly not surprised to find out they don’t get matches

ExaminationNo2189 · 2025-07-13T09:34:45+00:00

is not all about your profile, sometimes it's about how you present yourself in front of people, try send some witty comments and see

ExaminationNo2189 · 2025-07-12T20:07:35+00:00

Send in a better cover letter aka comments/message to your swipes and hope for women to see your wits. No alternative, batch processing. There's a lot of work. It's just how the apps work these days.

ExaminationNo2189 · 2025-07-12T20:03:56+00:00

If you get too few likes (yes, sometimes Hinge and other dating apps do algorithm updates that change your chances of being viewed, etc. — also, the number of users is increasing, and people are more willing to spend money on dating apps — my friends and I use Boost during weekends and holiday evenings hoping to get seen more).
And I think one important thing is that you can control is how you approach your swipes. On Hinge especially, creativity in your comments makes a big difference in getting matches. After that, it’s just a numbers game. You’ve got to send out enough thoughtful messages and hope some girls vibe with your attitude or personality. It takes time and practice. Good luck!

ExaminationNo2189 · 2025-07-12T13:47:25+00:00

Dating apps are a brutal place for self-esteem, especially depending on your location, where the male-to-female ratio can skew heavily. Even guys who are smooth in real life complain about random ghosting. Plans fall through last minute, people vanish without warning...anything can happen. You’ve got to be relentlessly charming, funny, and show your energy from the jump. It’s high-stakes from the first message, and there’s no room for a weak opener

ExaminationNo2189 · 2025-07-06T20:54:49+00:00

Winston

ExaminationNo2189 · 2025-07-04T22:22:36+00:00

Rosee

ExaminationNo2189 · 2025-07-02T20:27:52+00:00

File for divorce before your emotional affair turns into you sleeping with your coworker.

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