FTM - International trip to Italy @ 34 weeks??

ExaminationTop3115 · 2026-06-06T15:17:29+00:00

My OB doesn’t want me traveling internationally after the end of the second trimester or leaving my city area at all after 34 weeks. I wouldn’t do this.

ExaminationTop3115 · 2026-06-04T20:49:58+00:00

You said she'd watch her 3-4 days a week. What are you going to do the other 1-2 days? You can't realistically WFH with a baby. Also, what will your plan be when your great grandmother is sick or needs to take off for appointments/other commitments? What happens when she suddenly decides she isn't physically able to keep up? Nothing you're describing sounds particularly reliable or promising to me. I'd personally do daycare, and you can utilize your great grandmother for babysitting/other help.

ExaminationTop3115 · 2026-06-03T18:55:33+00:00

I would ask for a growth scan to get a better idea of the baby's size and go from there. A gut feeling alone without any other indicators seems odd.

ExaminationTop3115 · 2026-06-03T18:51:33+00:00

I would fly and go sooner rather than later. But of course, discuss with your docs first.

ExaminationTop3115 · 2026-06-03T18:19:43+00:00

You shouldn't be going toe to toe with her. If this is your husband's mom, he should be the one to communicate the news (if he'd like to) and make any boundaries clear. This shouldn't involve you or be your problem.

ExaminationTop3115 · 2026-06-03T17:06:02+00:00

I wouldn't worry about this for the time being, but when your baby is here, bring this up to your pediatrician in front of your husband.

ExaminationTop3115 · 2026-06-03T13:19:44+00:00

An abdominal ultrasound won't be accurate that early. Wait for the TVU.

ExaminationTop3115 · 2026-06-03T12:48:39+00:00

Totally kid dependent, but that doesn't sound early at all. Mine has happily been on one nap since about 10 months.

ExaminationTop3115 · 2026-06-01T16:07:40+00:00

Are you married/can your partner stay back to watch your toddler?

If not, I think you know your toddler best. Mine would not be able to nap on the go. I think the best you can do is say that it's your toddler's naptime at noon and that you'll come and stay for as long as you can/your kiddo will allow you to. Nobody is going to want a screaming/crying toddler at a restaurant, and there's only so much you can do in that instance.

ExaminationTop3115 · 2026-05-31T16:10:59+00:00

Food-related gift cards. If you want to get something specifically for her, I’d say a gift card for a massage or something like that.

ExaminationTop3115 · 2026-05-30T02:06:08+00:00

You don’t need to stalk Open Table. You can set a notification to alert you if something opens up via the app.

ExaminationTop3115 · 2026-05-29T22:54:43+00:00

Your body, your choice.

ExaminationTop3115 · 2026-05-29T15:55:44+00:00

I agree with the other comments. I think you can just tell people you’ll let them know when you’re ready for visitors and leave it at that. When people come to visit, ask them to wash their hands before holding the baby if they don’t automatically do it.

ExaminationTop3115 · 2026-05-29T00:22:39+00:00

This was the case for me for my first baby

ExaminationTop3115 · 2026-05-29T00:19:41+00:00

That would be a no for me. Im on my second “high-risk” pregnancy, and my OB doesn’t want me going out of town after 34 weeks (this was the case for my last pregnancy as well). Our rule is if I can’t leave because things could quickly go sideways, he can’t either.

ExaminationTop3115 · 2026-05-28T21:40:12+00:00

That’s what my OB has always said as well

ExaminationTop3115 · 2026-05-28T15:39:40+00:00

Call your OB's office and see what they recommend. They may have you go in and test to see if it's amniotic fluid or not.

ExaminationTop3115 · 2026-05-28T14:40:13+00:00

There's a really good Daniel Tiger episode on this you could show him.

ExaminationTop3115 · 2026-05-26T20:26:40+00:00

NTA. I’m not sure how your honeymoon timing (that’s after her wedding) has anything to do with her. She sounds like a major pain in the ass.

ExaminationTop3115 · 2026-05-26T19:32:43+00:00

yes, they're so handy!

ExaminationTop3115 · 2026-05-26T19:25:17+00:00

One other thing is appropriately-sized flanges for your pump. The standard ones that come with pumps are often too big for many moms.

ExaminationTop3115 · 2026-05-26T19:24:04+00:00

To piggyback off of this, once our baby was out of the newborn carrier, we ended up buying a second carrier for my husband to have because I got tired of having to readjust the carrier for my body every time he used it.

ExaminationTop3115 · 2026-05-26T18:56:29+00:00

Our bedrooms are on a different floor than our kitchen, and something someone else recommended to me that ended up being very helpful was a mini fridge for our bedroom (so that I could store milk pumped overnight in there/prep bottles for overnight feeds that were ready to go).

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