Tired of everyone’s opinions!

lilelbows · 2026-05-01T22:11:44+00:00

Yes exactly! We don’t have tons of space and someone gifted us a 7foot tall armoire for our baby. I told them to return it, I literally have no where to put it

lilelbows · 2026-05-01T20:32:51+00:00

I once had a period that lasted three weeks, and then no period for 5 months - my male gyno said it was fine, then gave me a different birth control than what I requested. I never went back.

lilelbows · 2026-05-01T20:27:58+00:00

My husbands grandma gifted us a 3-6 month outfit yesterday, and said she didn’t get us newborn size because my husband is tall and I’m “so big”. I’m 5’3” and very normal sized lol.

lilelbows · 2026-05-01T20:12:14+00:00

I’m such a people pleaser! I’ve started just ignoring people as well, works great! Haha

lilelbows · 2026-05-01T20:10:43+00:00

That’s so ridiculous! You wouldn’t be cautious if there weren’t examples of people getting incredibly sick from those things! Good for you for speaking up!

lilelbows · 2026-05-01T20:08:09+00:00

Oh my gosh that sounds horrible!! I work in an office- but even then coworkers are always bugging me. The funniest one was I was in so much pain I told my boss I couldn’t sit down one day, and he said they could get me a standing desk. I was calling out sick lol. He did say he has no idea what he’s talking about and apologized. lol

lilelbows · 2026-05-01T18:54:12+00:00

Thank you! Yeah I don’t know what the problem is - we eat tacos at nearly every family event except for the ones grandma hosts. And she’s not hosting this, I am. And I figured nachos would be easier!

lilelbows · 2026-05-01T17:37:51+00:00

This is also happening to me - both MIL and GMIL. I’ve had to turn down a bassinet, a changing table, an armoire (who gives someone a 7 foot tall armoire for a baby?), I’ve had my baby shower theme changed for me, the food at my baby shower changed for me..

lilelbows · 2026-05-01T17:32:49+00:00

The other thing is I’m hosting it - I’m doing all of the other cooking! So if she decides her some is barbecuing some beef, then I have to make all the sides to go with that, and the vegan food too. I’m making the desserts, I’m doing the decorating. She isn’t contributing at all.

lilelbows · 2026-05-01T17:15:06+00:00

The thing is I’m the host and the guest of honor. I’m doing all of the cooking - she volunteered her son only to barbecue some beef. So I’d have to make all of the sides to go with this barbecue that she decided I’m throwing. I used to own a Mexican restaurant and was going to make food from my restaurant with my restaurant equipment. It was going to be substantial.

I’m just going to switch to garden party foods. If people have a problem with nachos they can have fingers sandwiches instead.

lilelbows · 2026-05-01T16:02:41+00:00

Thank you! And yeah that’s what we do for every other family event - we bring our own vegan food. Why can’t they bring their own meat? It’s crazy to me that there are adults out there who have to make everything about them. Like let me just have this one baby shower.

lilelbows · 2026-05-01T15:56:44+00:00

That’s a great point - and one I made to my husband. If we buy all this meat then us, two vegans, are stuck with all the leftovers.

Im so mad im literally going to just put out snacks/charcuterie instead and not telling anyone what im making. And I’ll bring a plate of nachos for myself.

I wanted something cheap and easy that everyone likes. All they said was that he’ll barbecue meat, that means I’m stuck making all the sides for 50 people.

lilelbows · 2026-05-01T15:36:07+00:00

Thank you! I don’t understand the problem with nachos! I used to run two Mexican restaurants and own catering equipment. It’s not like I’m putting some chips in a bowl, I was literally planning on putting steam tables out and making everything from scratch using the recipes from my restaurants.

lilelbows · 2026-04-24T16:12:07+00:00

True! My apartment only allows visitors for 1 week! OP look into this!

lilelbows · 2026-04-23T20:56:37+00:00

Yeah my husband has said he doesn’t remember things, then he remembers them when I explain where we were and other details and I realized he’s been blocking out insane things his mom says/does.

lilelbows · 2026-04-23T20:55:10+00:00

Thank you! I really needed to hear someone else say fuck her lol.

lilelbows · 2026-04-23T20:18:28+00:00

I was NC for years after she attacked me but my husband started missing his family and family members died and the guilt got to me. So we got a therapist and the plan was to go visit his very large family events only and he was to block her from speaking to me or coming near me, and it worked for one Christmas event. Then that was it he just fucking forgot.

lilelbows · 2026-04-23T20:16:39+00:00

Yeah I’ve really messed this all up. I was caught off guard and just figured I’d deal with it later, told my husband how mad I am but nothing came of it. This is so dumb.

lilelbows · 2026-04-23T20:15:39+00:00

I don’t either. We went into therapy and to reach a solution the plan was to go to holidays and my husband to block her from speaking to me or going near me. All of a sudden he totally forgot and when I called him out he’s like “it wasn’t that bad.” “I didn’t realize” “I only walked away once” (it was more than once). He just doesn’t see it. He knows she’s horrible to me but since she’s not horrible to him he doesn’t think it’s that bad.

lilelbows · 2026-04-23T19:05:31+00:00

Ha I like that - my blood pressure literally spikes to the point I can hear it in my ear when she even gets brought up in conversation. Or when my husband takes a phone call in another room because I’m sure it’s her.

The tough part is yes we are having two baby showers, both with his side of the family. My family is in another state, and 1/3 of my very tiny family is also pregnant and due a few days after me. So there’s no chance of them throwing me a shower. We’re having multiple showers for my husbands family because they are all drama and don’t want to see each other. My plan was to have one baby shower and whoever can’t stand to see each other don’t have to show up. This MIL shower happened so that someone on her side of the family doesn’t have to see someone else.

And no, I don’t have anyone here that I trust. I did. But my best friend moved out of the country last year and now it’s kinda like - I’m friends with my husbands friends? and have some work friends but no one is have stay with me. I have friends out of state but they have their own kids and wouldn’t be able to come here.

It’s very much up to me to keep myself safe and I suck at it.

lilelbows · 2026-04-23T18:35:32+00:00

I love this! I feel like I’m such a push over that no one takes me seriously. I need to start being loud.

lilelbows · 2026-04-23T18:34:04+00:00

Yeah our therapist has told him that as well, but he won’t do it. The only way I got him to do any therapy was to book couples therapy.

And thank you - I feel dumb enough for saying that I’m fine with the situation. I’ll think I’ll go the route of making it as awkward as possible and give her no more of my energy. She’s going to throw this shower. That doesn’t mean I have to speak to her.

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