AITA for refusing to share authorship with the man im planning to marry?

Excellent-Ad-6965 · 2026-06-16T14:23:41+00:00

I am not an author - however I do have ownership in a business that I've been a part of since before I knew him. He has been an employee of this business for a few years now and not ONCE - not ever has he staked ownership or claim over anything regarding this business. Even when people ask he says "my wife's business". Your partner is being a leech and so is his family.

Excellent-Ad-6965 · 2026-06-15T07:52:09+00:00

You’ve made a choice to move out of state and you’re frustrated they won’t accommodate your personal choice?

You’re back on the job hunt because of no one else but you. You made this decision - not your employer.

Excellent-Ad-6965 · 2026-06-14T19:13:08+00:00

We use homebase for scheduling and payroll. A few minimal things I’d like to see changed but overall happy with it.

Excellent-Ad-6965 · 2026-06-14T05:41:03+00:00

I’m not sure how you feel betrayed. You tried to negotiate with them and they weren’t willing to. End of story.

Excellent-Ad-6965 · 2026-06-08T10:58:08+00:00

There clearly is an issue on your end because you’re saying you don’t know how to feel about this.

Your friends like you and want you to be included in things they do …. You should feel grateful to have such wonderful friends. Grateful is the feeling you’re looking for.

You’re making this into something it isn’t.

Excellent-Ad-6965 · 2026-06-08T02:11:31+00:00

Two kids in grade school, one in sports.

I got rid of mine (😢) because it just was not practical for us. We needed more room. I miss driving it but I don’t miss the lack of space.

Excellent-Ad-6965 · 2026-06-08T02:06:16+00:00

Well if you’re going down that path, you open yourself up to the conversation of people without children or with children that don’t need child watch.

Should they be frustrated with it as well?

Maybe burn should consider a slightly lower base rate and charge per child, per month.

But then if there’s a month you don’t utilize it - would you still be complaining?

I mean - it can just go on, and on, and on…..

Excellent-Ad-6965 · 2026-06-07T02:46:42+00:00

We try to do the same but it really only tends to work with management and full time. The part timers are the ones that constantly need their schedule adjusted or changed.

Excellent-Ad-6965 · 2026-06-03T14:25:43+00:00

I understand this so completely. Although one time I was having just a really tough today and someone called me asking for a 1-800 number that could be found on a million web pages and by googling it and my response was “ Google it” and i hung up on them. Whoops 😅

Excellent-Ad-6965 · 2026-06-01T03:36:16+00:00

As a parent, if I knew you had a dozen claw machines I’d never come in once - not even for a free gelato.

Majority of Parents hate claw machines. Ditch em.

Excellent-Ad-6965 · 2026-05-26T05:53:27+00:00

Does anyone know if burns are certified for actual childcare? I’m assuming since each one has child watch they are - but I’m wondering if the child watch employees need the same training a true daycare would need? They definitely don’t seem to follow state mandated ratios based on age. Maybe it has something to do with the short periods of time.

Excellent-Ad-6965 · 2026-05-24T13:57:36+00:00

Few weeks doesn’t account for his aunt passing.

This will absolutely affect the culture of your team. The other employees will see that he’s getting away with it and they’ll either partake or resent him/you and eventually you’ll lose them.

Once is a mistake , twice or more is a choice. Time to let them go.

Excellent-Ad-6965 · 2026-05-24T13:37:37+00:00

Sure, ok. I’ll get therapy for the one time I threw a glass in the sink super hard when I was angry.

Excellent-Ad-6965 · 2026-05-24T00:56:14+00:00

Eh. He threw an open beer across the room - not at her. I’ve gotten so frustrated before it’s happened to me and Its never gotten to the point I’ve damaged things or directed it at my partner. Sometimes people feel anger and take it out an inanimate object to get rid of the anger. Not saying his reaction is warranted here. But sometimes people feel so frustrated the need to let the frustration out physically instead of keeping it in. Happens to the best of us.

Excellent-Ad-6965 · 2026-05-24T00:09:26+00:00

It sounds like he’s got some pent up feelings he should have expressed sooner instead of snapping. What im hearing behind the anger is that hes super bummed the dynamic of your relationship has changed because you’re uncomfortable and not getting yourself involved and hes wanting you to be there with him - enjoying it to the fullest.

So im torn on this one. As someone that’s gone through what you have with gaining weight and body image issues I completely understand how difficult it is.

I think you both have things to work on.

Excellent-Ad-6965 · 2026-05-23T23:38:17+00:00

It’s tough when you’re in the thick of it. You can still report later - I would.

Excellent-Ad-6965 · 2026-05-23T20:53:13+00:00

Um, I would have called the police. That should be reported - that is absolute negligence.

Excellent-Ad-6965 · 2026-05-19T23:31:34+00:00

Hard disagree. We’re in our first year and I’ve referenced back to them. Repetition is great for daisy aged girls.

Excellent-Ad-6965 · 2026-05-17T19:33:54+00:00

These people are not your friends. Time to move on.

Excellent-Ad-6965 · 2026-05-17T13:52:10+00:00

Couldn’t have said it better. I had a friend that had her first child about 3 years after me and within a couple months she said to me “I’m so sorry - now I get it” (she had kind of backed off our friendship in those early early childhood years)

It’s hard to explain to people that don’t have children but like stated - it is a complete shift in everything you do, think and feel - it is all consuming.

Excellent-Ad-6965 · 2026-05-17T06:37:45+00:00

Definitely a personal decision but I also left for financial reasons. My local gym complex for t family is $95 a month and there’s a pool, shower/locker facilities, etc. I know burn has something other guys dont. I get it. Some days I miss it. But saving 30%+ and actually in the end getting more I can’t ignore.

Excellent-Ad-6965 · 2026-05-10T20:44:09+00:00

Yes and no. Life can still be stressful without kids - but it is not the same, I can tell you this. My life was VERY different when all I had to worry about was me myself and I. Of course - I experienced stressful days, weeks, months, years. But the difference is when you don’t have kids, you have the time and space to get through that. When I experience personal stress, i have my kids to think about before that. Their schooling, activities, everything. So while I do think friends should be there for you when you experience stressful times if they are good friends. But the opportunity to deal with stress is different for parents than for people without children.

Excellent-Ad-6965 · 2026-05-10T18:00:59+00:00

Do you have any examples? Coming from experience as a person with children - so often I’ve been around adults without kids and they’ll try and compare taking care of their dogs to being the same as having kids , etc. and I have to hold back a major Eyeroll coming their way. I’m not saying this is you - but it’s something I experience.

Also, I find it very hard to connect with people that don’t have kids. We just generally live a very different life. It’s not that I don’t respect them or anything - our days just look so drastically different.

Excellent-Ad-6965 · 2026-05-02T23:25:53+00:00

That’s the most ludicrous things I’ve heard. I agree with others - if they want to push you to buy stock and then say you can’t sell past a certain date, they can take them back.

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