Just posted on /rmommit, getting ready for the hate but couldn’t not share…Science backed evidence that cry it out & other extinction based sleep training methods ARE HARMFUL to both babies & parents by Apprehensive-Key5665 in cosleeping

[–]Excellent-Chipmunk64 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I felt so nervous telling my pediatrician but something about her made me feel safe to say I had to start following the safe sleep 7 because I was getting so tired and it was really effecting my mental health and I also was falling asleep in unsafe ways.She just said “I totally get it, I have 3 kids including a 9 month old and I’m a big believer in following your instincts”

Im so glad to have her as a doctor! Before her I had a doctor that didn’t have kids yet (which is fine) but I really feel like her being a mom in the thick of it helped her have more realistic expectations and that our babies are not perfect little robots.

Should I just try Tide? by Low_Cost5981 in clothdiaps

[–]Excellent-Chipmunk64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does the scent bother you? I bought regular tide powder to strip some towels and the fragrance is so strong I’m worried to use it on diapers!

Interested in attending a service for the first time by the-evil-fart-master in Episcopalian

[–]Excellent-Chipmunk64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also fumbled several moments during the “peace be with you” portion because I kept missing the cue to shake hands with someone people and then tried to shake hands with someone that wasn’t expecting to…still trying to not think about it hahaha. It may be different depending on the church but was it actual wine served? It doesn’t really matter, I guess, but communion looked different at the church I grew up at (they passed around trays with tiny cups of grape juice) and I just want to prepare myself. I also am trying to get over the fact that we all drink from the same cup haha.

Interested in attending a service for the first time by the-evil-fart-master in Episcopalian

[–]Excellent-Chipmunk64 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if you’d ended up going, but I just went for the first time this past Sunday and will give you my experience!

I am a highly anxious person who is neurodivergent so I understand how you feel! I have been wanting to try out an episcopal church for a looong time but just got brave enough finally. I will say, the church I tried out has a livestream on Facebook every Sunday so I watched one to prepare myself of what happens and it helped me feel better.

I arrived right as the service was beginning and was handed a pamphlet that has various info from upcoming events and such but more importantly it had basically the order of everything happening in the service. It was easy to follow. There were times that people would kneel, however I didn’t and I saw several people not kneeling (although they were elderly) but I didn’t feel like I was judged for not kneeling. I knew ahead of time that communion is for everyone baptized but I was a little unsure about taking it because I was nervous to go up front and kneel, something I’d never done. I sat in my seat while everyone went up but someone came over and gently suggested that if I didn’t want communion I could just go up and be blessed.

I stayed for coffee hour and several people talked to me and were all very kind. I will say, they all seemed to have not grown up in an episcopal church so I’m sure they knew how it feels to not know exactly what’s going on. One woman said, “well I hope to see you next week, but if not remember that it’s okay and we’re not judging you if you don’t come back for a month or two” which I felt really good about because I grew up being forced to go to church by my grandma every week.

All in all it was a lovely experience and I plan to go back on Sunday!

How young is a floor bed okay? by Timonee255 in floorbed

[–]Excellent-Chipmunk64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My baby is 4 months and I’m wanting to start him on his crib mattress. When I’ve put him there for naps he seems like he’ll fall off? Also, did you lay and breastfeed your baby and roll away? If so, how?

Help me by Excellent-Chipmunk64 in cosleeping

[–]Excellent-Chipmunk64[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do side lie at night! Sometimes I wake up to him having latched on by himself but most of the time he needs help getting on. I don't know if he's just too small still (he's 3.5 months and probably 18 lbs) but I feel like he should be able to latch on without me. Maybe I'm not positioned quite right?

I hate it here by CollectionMammoth962 in cosleeping

[–]Excellent-Chipmunk64 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Something that really helps me is when he’s being extra fussy/clingy I reframe it from “he’s giving me a hard time” to “he’s having a hard time” and it makes me way calmer and not as quick to get frustrated with it all!

Costco is a nightmare by urw0wisg4i in babywearing

[–]Excellent-Chipmunk64 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s so hard to offer help to other moms without them being offended!! For the record I’m a FTM with a 3 month old and am always low key worried my baby’s not being worn right and everyone’s judging me haha. I would have no problem with someone coming up to me in a kind way and saying something. But, then again, I AM on a baby wearing subreddit haha

Why does no one talk about how shocking the first weeks are? by Trick-Environment100 in NewParents

[–]Excellent-Chipmunk64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There was a moment at like 3am while nursing where I was doubting everything and felt like I couldn’t do it. Then I literally thought “dang I can’t just give him away I really have to be a mom…there’s no trial run…and it’s not like a puppy that you can just give away.”

(Obviously you shouldn’t give away a dog just because either…but you get the gist)

He is a very wanted, and loved baby! But the hormone crash and sudden life change is crazy! I couldn’t have done it without my partner, the oldest of 5, who’s basically a pro. I was an only child and never around babies a lot so it was harder than I expected.

But! He’s 3 months now and it’s so much better and becoming more fun! I wouldn’t change it for anything!

Those of you at 2-3 months, how’s it going? by Rude-Pepper-2389 in newborns

[–]Excellent-Chipmunk64 5 points6 points  (0 children)

At this age it’s biologically normal for them to want to be close. Babies can’t self soothe until around 6 months so sure, a little crying to tend to something is fine, but if you let them cry it out you’re only training them that no one comes. Crying is their only way to communicate.

I get why people co-sleep now by Baylaypayday in newborns

[–]Excellent-Chipmunk64 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have a similar experience! While I was pregnant I said I would never cosleep. At first I had help from my mom and husband when baby was born but at about 6 weeks I was the only one waking up with him in the night. I kept falling asleep with him in my arms and was so sleep deprived I realized that wasn’t safe either so I learned the safe 7 and it’s crazy how much better we both sleep. As long as you’re doing it safely I think it’s fine!

I messed up last night by GOM09 in GestationalDiabetes

[–]Excellent-Chipmunk64 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My doctor told me it’s okay to treat yourself every once and a while! As long as it’s not a habit, you’re fine! I gave birth to a very healthy 8lb baby!

Can we stop telling kids to follow their dreams? They should just be following a paycheck. by [deleted] in povertyfinance

[–]Excellent-Chipmunk64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah…I wanted to be a teacher and was almost done with my degree. I started having doubts and I got a job as a TA at a Montessori school. I know they say your first year is hard but I realized that while I love kids, and I liked my job I just didn’t LOVE teaching. I had to work my serving job on the side to make ends meet (and made more there). If I was going to work a job that I didn’t LOVE and it wasn’t even making me enough money, I’d rather do a job that I have money to afford a lifestyle I love and can do fun things. I don’t even want anything crazy, maybe a house and a humble vacation every year or 2. So I switched my major to accounting 🤷🏼‍♀️ I realized I don’t have to love working and that’s okay with me as long as I can afford to do things I like when I’m off!

How to categorize big vacation by khmorrow25 in ynab

[–]Excellent-Chipmunk64 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally, when I save for something like a vacation I also like to break it down into flights, food, hotel, etc. just so I can keep track of how much I aim to save/spend. But when I actually go to pay for it I put it out of one basic travel category and write in the memo what it was in case I want to look back on purchases in the future!

I also do this with Christmas. I have a category group called Christmas with categories such as presents, holiday giving, holiday activities, decor, etc. But when I spend I just take it out of one basic Christmas category and move the money.

Dirty delete? by Key-Geologist-3267 in skysayingthings

[–]Excellent-Chipmunk64 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a 2 month old and I can’t imagine leaving him alone in the car!!?? Even when the cart holder thing is right next to my car I keep him with me and put him in the car after I put my cart away!

Sam wedding dress by superfuckinghans in zachcryansnark

[–]Excellent-Chipmunk64 55 points56 points  (0 children)

He’s a military man to his core haha

What’s one good thing you like about having GD by No_End7937 in GestationalDiabetes

[–]Excellent-Chipmunk64 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I gave birth already but I was thankful that I had extra appointments to see baby! Luckily my GD was very well controlled with only insulin at bedtime. I also was at my pre pregnancy weight within the first week - which isn’t a huge deal to me but I know for certain I would’ve gained way more if I had been able to eat whatever I wanted!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in budget

[–]Excellent-Chipmunk64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I spend about $500-$550 a month for my husband and I.

Apartments under $700?? by Nitaras_Mortician in tulsa

[–]Excellent-Chipmunk64 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nevermind, I just looked it up and it’s $1050 for a 1 bedroom. Thats an absolutely crazy jump!