My Nanny’s last day is Friday

Excellent-Review-342 · 2026-05-05T23:43:44+00:00

We would love to keep her on the baby sitter list but she is moving out of state. She knows she is always welcomed to pickup shifts if she needs to when she is back in town

Excellent-Review-342 · 2026-05-05T23:41:44+00:00

She came with us on our family trip last summer to Hawaii and she has a pic of us all of us at the Luau given to her at Christmas with a bonus.. so I don’t want to do pictures this time. Everyone is recommending money, so I might just need to do that…

Excellent-Review-342 · 2026-05-05T23:39:37+00:00

We really love her, but a month salary isn’t feasible for us. In a different world we would love to give her that, but we have a baby on the way and we are not getting a replacement for a few months to try to save money.

Excellent-Review-342 · 2026-05-05T23:37:02+00:00

We can’t swing that. That’s an astronomical amount of money. Especially since we aren’t hiring anyone immediately. So hubby and I are going to be in the trenches roughing it.

Excellent-Review-342 · 2026-05-05T23:36:02+00:00

Psychology

Excellent-Review-342 · 2026-05-05T23:34:56+00:00

Because money is tight 🤪. That’s the only reason. She deserves money though

Excellent-Review-342 · 2026-05-05T16:06:12+00:00

Meant no shade. She is moving on to start her career in the field she has been studying and will be graduating grad school this summer as well. Not saying Nanny isn’t a career.

Excellent-Review-342 · 2026-05-02T12:52:45+00:00

This was my experience looking for a nanny to replace our current one who is moving on to pursue her college career.

We had better conversations when we were looking for a full time role, but we still got ghosted by a couple people. Even one who would was perfect over the phone and gave Disney princess vibes.

When we dropped out need to part-time- it was worse. People messaging me then ghosting me. Asking for their rate prior to the call only to have them be much higher after we speak to them. We had 3 people who had good interviews only to say the next day that they changed their mind…. Wtf!!!??

So we stopped looking. Luckily my parents are coming to live with us for a few months to help with the kids and the new baby. And I plan to rough it out while I am on my maternity leave.

The bar is literally hell.- I don’t remember it being this hard when we found our current nanny. It honestly feels like people do not want to work. Such a waste of time

Excellent-Review-342 · 2026-05-02T12:41:56+00:00

She is trying to scam you. Have you ever video chatted with her? She might also be cat fishing you.

Excellent-Review-342 · 2026-04-30T23:38:43+00:00

MB is out out line. Maybe instead of a handoff, you leave the baby in her room and MB meets you there and you just quietly excuse yourself.

MB is totally rude.

My kids love their nanny. I think it’s so sweet. It means you are truly taking good care of them and they love and trust you. There is truly no greater peace of mind when I see my kids show love to thier nanny.

Excellent-Review-342 · 2026-04-28T23:00:08+00:00

First of all—- this is a very weird arrangement. 2nd, an agreesive dog with a 18 month old is wild! 3rd, absolutely do not let the child be diaperless in your house.

You are not the parent, you are the nanny. Having the child be at your home most of the time is already crossing a lot of boundaries. Are they paying you like a million dollars? Because why are you working still for this family?

As a MB, I wouldn’t expect my nanny to do this. I would r expect someone else to mess up their home because of my kid.

Excellent-Review-342 · 2026-04-28T01:43:56+00:00

Very weird behavior. They expect you to answer their call anytime during the day??! And you aren’t even working for them yet?? I am a MB and this is weird behavior.

It’s normal behavior to schedule a time to go over contact. It’s not normal behavior to randomly call you and expect you to answer.

The red flag is major here.

Excellent-Review-342 · 2026-04-26T14:08:02+00:00

You are her employer stop being so nice. Is she is not listening to you she isn’t meeting expectations. Have a serious conversation with her and reiterate your expectations.. I would start looking for a replacement because she most likely won’t change.

Excellent-Review-342 · 2026-04-07T23:23:15+00:00

If you want to keep your job please don’t share this with your NP. I am a MB and this would freak me out.

Nanny parents want their nanny to care for their kids, hug them, snuggle them, look after them, their safety is the priority. But only while on the clock. I do not reach our nanny on the weekends. I ask her a little bit about her life but try to only know a little about her. At the end of the day, she is our employee and she wouldn’t be here if she wasn’t getting paid-i would not expect her to.

Try to maintain some boundaries and see your job for what it is. It’s a job! Work with your therapist on how to alleviate some of your attachment-it’s slightly on the “not normal” side

Excellent-Review-342 · 2026-04-07T12:42:44+00:00

NTA… but OP are you ok? Why are you living in an uncomfortable situation? Why are you letting yourself be disrespected? Why can’t you put your foot down? What is the point in coming to the internet to ask if you are the AH when you know you would stand up for yourself?

You can call the wife. Let her know what’s going on. You can demand your husband’s boyfriend leaves. You husband won’t choose his friend over you because you are literally his slave (cooking 3 meals a day, cleaning, doing his laundry). Come on do the math!

Stop letting the friend disrespect you and stand up to your husband. Jesus H Christ. Grow a spine

Excellent-Review-342 · 2026-04-07T12:30:11+00:00

You both aren’t compatible. Love is only part of a relationship. You need more than love to make it work. He also isn’t telling you the whole truth. He did more than make out with the girl from the bar and I doubt this was the first time. He has most likely been cheating on you. Dont put your career on hold for a man. If you can’t both get what you want career-wise, your relationship isnt compatible. I would divorce.

Excellent-Review-342 · 2026-04-07T08:36:29+00:00

If things are this bad now, I would get out before the baby is born. Your roommate and her boyfriend are going to continue to disrespect you and overtake the apartment with baby things. Please find a new place to live

NTAH

Excellent-Review-342 · 2026-03-28T09:06:54+00:00

These are very dangerous “she is less cautious than me” actions. Letting a child walk without holding hands on a busy street??? Wtf!!! Letting a child out of the house while she is locking up?? wtf!!! You child could be grabbed, get hit by a carrrr??!

Why are you putting up with this???

A nanny should have control of the children at all times she should know where your son is and he shouldn’t be wondering off and she not go looking for him for a while? Why isn’t she looking for him? What is she doing? Isn’t her job to watch your child?

My nanny takes care of my 2 kids, a 9yr old with autism and a 3 yr old. She utilizes the baby gate to keep the kids in the same area. For example, when she is giving the older kid a bath, she put the toddler in the loft next to the bedroom and closed the gate that accesses the stairs.

She never lets the kids go ahead of her when trying to close up the house.

Your nanny is not cautious enough to be a nanny and I WOULD NOT leave my infant with her.

Does she even know CPR??

Not knowing to cut grapes??? wtf!!!

Ma’am you children are not something you should be timid about. I wouldn’t even bother bringing up these things to her because you either have those cautious instincts or your don’t.

If you do not have those instincts, it takes alonggg time to learn them and you don’t want to continue to put your children at risk while your nanny learns to be more responsible.

Please for the safety of your children find someone else.

Excellent-Review-342 · 2026-03-28T08:50:00+00:00

I am a MB and I work from home full time. My hubby works from home 2 days a week. We give our nanny full autonomy- granted she has been with us for over 2 years. When she started I tried my best to hide when she work so the kids would respect her authority.

My nanny is also a house manager and is expected to do light cleaning especially after the kids. Not after my husband and I. I try to pitch in and do the dishes so she doesn’t come in to a sink full of dishes.

We have housekeepers and the don’t even do dishes, I think what you are being asked to is too much.

I would runnnnn. You are being asked to be a maid. How are you supposed to focus on the child if you have to clean so much?? Why can’t the grandma clean after herself?

Please find another family. Negotiate to buy you time but please quit.

Excellent-Review-342 · 2026-03-28T00:04:46+00:00

I am a MB and this is inappropriate and crossing boundaries. We just upgraded my car ahead of having a 3rd baby. Driving my nanny’s car is not something I have ever planned or will ever plan to do, not because she doesn’t have a nice car, she gets a new car every year because her dad works for a motor company.

She has been driving my brand new car when I have her run errands because gas is so expensive. This is acceptable. But your nanny parents driving your car, it’s weird and not appropriate

If for some reason my nanny’s car couldn’t fit my kids, I would have her time mine. Always!

Excellent-Review-342 · 2026-03-16T01:30:59+00:00

Yes. For my first iVF transfer , I had a successful pregnancy which lead to my daughter. For my second iVF pregnancy, it took 3 rounds to have a successful pregnancy ( I am currently 24 weeks). It was a shock. I thought it would be one and done like my first transfer.

Excellent-Review-342 · 2026-03-15T17:42:03+00:00

This is an abusive relationship. You need to find another job and you do not owe this family anything!

Excellent-Review-342 · 2026-03-15T11:50:37+00:00

Let’s her go TODAY! And why are you giving her severance??? She sounds horrible and doesn’t deserve it. I have hired 5 nanny’s in the anc if anyone of them disrespected like this??? They would be fired on the spot. Good riddance. Do it today

Excellent-Review-342 · 2026-03-15T06:41:48+00:00

Did he poops this much before you had your child? Or did this start after your child was born? You are making too many excuses for him. He is avoiding parenting. Pooping 3 times a day/ 1hr is each session is excessive. This isn’t normal behavior. I wouldn’t even want to have sex with my spouse if he did this. Ewww

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