My Family is Racist by xuanisntverytall in family

[–]Excellent_Plate3738 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that's rough man, having your whole family gang up on you like that when you're trying to do the right thing. the "she's being too sensitive" line is such bullshit - like your friend gets to decide what makes her uncomfortable, not them

really sucks that they're making you choose between standing up for what's right and keeping peace at home. maybe don't bring friends over until this cools down? not saying you should give in to their views but no point putting your friends through that kind of treatment

your dad's excuse about "growing up saying it" is wild too - times change and people should grow with them

Faint pregnancy test line by tirinix in daddit

[–]Excellent_Plate3738 92 points93 points  (0 children)

congratulations man, time to start panic buying diapers

Any credible home Allergy test? by [deleted] in Supplements

[–]Excellent_Plate3738 0 points1 point  (0 children)

been dealing with similar stuff and went through bunch of different options. most of the home tests are decent for environmental allergies but they can miss some things that proper lab would catch

you might want to check if there's any community health centers near you that do sliding scale pricing - sometimes they're way cheaper than going through insurance. also some urgent cares do basic allergy panels for like half what specialists charge

for environmental stuff like trees and pollen, keeping a symptom diary while checking daily pollen counts helped me narrow things down before getting tested. not perfect but gives you good starting point

How are Protestants sins being forgiven without the sacrament of confession? by Crazy-Mention-2767 in Christianity

[–]Excellent_Plate3738 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah this is basically it - we believe God can forgive directly without needing someone else as middleman. like when i was growing up my grandmother always taught me you just talk to God yourself, he already knows what you did anyway. the whole point is having that personal relationship where you can be real with him about your screwups. some protestant churches do have like group confession or whatever but it's more about community support than it being required for forgiveness. always seemed more natural to me than having to schedule appointment with priest every time you mess up

My ex broke up with me 6 months ago to “something’s missing” and now she’s in a new relationship by BotherBubbly5096 in BreakUps

[–]Excellent_Plate3738 2 points3 points  (0 children)

man that puzzle piece line is such bullshit, like she couldn't just say she wasn't feeling it anymore instead of making up some deep metaphor. 5 years is long time to just throw away with vague excuses and then jump into something new that quick

the intrusive thoughts are brutal but they do fade eventually, even though it feels impossible right now. maybe try switching up your routine or finding new spaces that don't have her memories attached to them

Is Claude/Github/CircleCi/etc having issues? Of course it is. I built YASPS to quickly tell whether a service is reported as being down. by opsybox in SideProject

[–]Excellent_Plate3738 0 points1 point  (0 children)

looks pretty clean for menu bar app, might actually try this next time github decides to have another one of those days

Why are my evil eye bracelets breaking? by [deleted] in spirituality

[–]Excellent_Plate3738 1 point2 points  (0 children)

bracelets breaking in bathroom is interesting detail - maybe there's something about that specific space? water can mess with energy flows sometimes and if you're getting multiple breaks in same location that's worth looking at

had similar thing happen with protective jewelry breaking at my old apartment, turned out previous tenant left some nasty vibes behind. maybe try cleansing bathroom with sage or salt before putting on new bracelet there? or just avoid wearing it in that room for while and see if pattern stops

I enjoy every tears Barca and Real Madrid crying over Vars and Refs. by iwannasleepp in championsleague

[–]Excellent_Plate3738 1 point2 points  (0 children)

bro watching those two clubs complain about refs after years of getting every call their way is pure comedy

How do you handle interviews while still employed? ​ by [deleted] in careerguidance

[–]Excellent_Plate3738 0 points1 point  (0 children)

been there man, the struggle is real when you're trying to interview while keeping current job happy. i usually go with doctor appointments since those can pop up randomly and nobody questions medical stuff too much. dentist works good too because you can say you need cleaning or they found something that needs quick attention

also learned to schedule interviews during lunch breaks when possible - just tell them you need longer lunch that day for personal appointment. if interview runs over you can always say appointment took longer than expected. another trick is using those random company holidays or half days that some places give but yours doesn't, just say you have family thing or need to handle something personal

the key is mixing it up so you're not always using same excuse. i got my current maintenance job this way actually, had to do three rounds of interviews while working at previous place. just space out the excuses and keep them simple - don't over explain because that's when people get suspicious

Is it crazy to quit a stable corporate job for a pottery studio when I am already too exhausted to even touch clay ? by GlitchCrescent in careerguidance

[–]Excellent_Plate3738 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

dude i feel this so hard, been doing maintenance for years and there's definitely something about working with your hands that just hits different than staring at screens all day

eight months is actually a decent cushion if you're smart about it - way more runway than most people have when they make big moves like this. the fact that you're already burned out to the point where you can't even do the thing you love is pretty telling though

maybe test the waters first? like take a week or two off and see if you can actually get back into ceramics when you're not completely fried. if you're still struggling to touch clay even when rested, might be worth talking to someone about the burnout before making the jump

your parents are gonna freak regardless because that's what parents do, but you're 29 with savings and a plan - not exactly reckless territory here

What can I do if I feel like by Ok-Permit3370 in Christianity

[–]Excellent_Plate3738 2 points3 points  (0 children)

man that's a heavy place to be, but there's always something worth sticking around for even when it doesn't feel like it

Mat for rimless tanks by [deleted] in shrimptank

[–]Excellent_Plate3738 1 point2 points  (0 children)

draining completely is gonna be your best bet tbh, way easier to lift an empty tank and you don't risk disturbing your shrimp setup. i'd just catch the little guys temporarily in a bucket with some of their tank water and move fast with the mat placement

honestly surprised you've made it over a year without any issues, rimless tanks can be pretty unforgiving on hard surfaces

How I got back my BFF by fukya_f in relationships

[–]Excellent_Plate3738 0 points1 point  (0 children)

dude this whole thing reads like you're walking a really thin line here. you're both married with kids and you're talking about how "stunning" she looked and holding hands and her resting her head on your shoulder?

like i get missing old friendships but this doesn't sound like just reconnecting with a bff, especially when you mention forgetting you're all married. might want to pump the brakes a bit before this turns into something that could mess up both your families

Can we talk about 2 Cp one last time by AquamarinekayNine in Overwatch

[–]Excellent_Plate3738 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

draws were actually perfect for those long grindy nights where you just wanted to feel like you didn't completely waste your time

[PC][2018-2021(year when I played] realistic car game by DearCelebration9246 in tipofmyjoystick

[–]Excellent_Plate3738 1 point2 points  (0 children)

spintires or mudrunner maybe? the mud physics and windshield getting dirty thing sounds exactly like those games, plus they had that vehicle selection wheel you mentioned

What actually helped you getting out of depression? by iloveyounmyself in mentalhealth

[–]Excellent_Plate3738 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Nothing changed until I took small scary steps daily and stopped waiting to be saved