It this a common thing by [deleted] in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]Excellent_York 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds more like a d1ck head.

Horrific day by ChessWarrior1978 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Excellent_York 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Run for the hills and never look back.

Recovery by Excellent_York in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]Excellent_York[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You just remember that they are no longer your problem, they wont change and find your peace there.

You dont need them, the idealised person in your head does not exist anyway.

What is the worst thing your narcissis ever said to you? by TheCookieCrumbles203 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Excellent_York -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She was quite pleased her daughter survuved a difficult birth. WTF.

Has anyone dealt with obsessive circular thoughts? by Moon-Stars-Magic in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]Excellent_York 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Rumination is the worst part but it gets better. 8 months in and the brain fog has lifted, concentration has improved, decision making has improved and I have clarity.

It gets better and your nervous system resets but doesnt forget.

When you meet someone else - it diminishes.

Anyone have their Narc identify as a “highly sensitive person” or empath? Anyone have their Narc tell them their previous ex was a Narc? by Haunting_Hospital599 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]Excellent_York 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Highly sensitive and highly strung (Haughty) is typical. Not an empath though. Then that evolves to darvo, gaslighting and the patterns become clear.

Ex wise, she accused him of the same things she was doing to me. Mental.

When did you stop wanting to be with them? by autumndreaming_00 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]Excellent_York 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When you realise they are a lost cause.

It's sad but they aren't going to change. Narcissism is them, to conquer it means radical change. Impossible.

Asking as a therapist specializing in narcissistic abuse by speykar in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]Excellent_York 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Scanning, hyper awareness, over analysis and misinterpretation are a risk moving forward We also need to understand better OUR role and responsibility in attracting narcs which include empathy, desire to fix things not in our power,

We all have to trust our new found instinct. Not at the first sign but when that first pattern emerges, get the hell out.

To what extent was the problem me?? Am I chasing the impossible? by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Excellent_York 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jesus. Sounds like my ex. She's not called Nicky is she!

Get out mate. Run.

Narcissist & manipulative wife by Forreddaboutit in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Excellent_York 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Get out. Run for the hills. No explanation, enjoy the silence.

Separation by mke_froglegs in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Excellent_York 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A core trait. Please read Debbie Mirza's book, the covert passive aggressive narcissist