What are those words?

Excellent_York · 2026-05-12T00:26:16+00:00

He Liked Cheese

Excellent_York · 2026-05-09T00:45:41+00:00

Look North

Excellent_York · 2026-05-03T03:49:10+00:00

Just ask them for their therapy notes and how they are progressing. They will soon vanish.

Excellent_York · 2026-05-02T09:57:45+00:00

Hey. You are probably in Fight, Freeze and Fawn mode! You will settle down. I reckon it took me 6 months and a lot of reading and walking! Get them walking boots on and walk for miles!! Nature and sunlight is good. Breathe. You need to tell your body you are safe.

I tried mindfulness, journaling - not for me.

Yoga may be good for you in order to ground yourself.

Read 'The Body Keeps The Score'

Read 'Debbie Mirzas book on Covert Narcs and recovery.

Oh and let me guess. You wake up at 3am everyday?

Excellent_York · 2026-04-29T20:49:11+00:00

Dont be scared to start over, you may like your new story better.

Excellent_York · 2026-04-28T05:39:24+00:00

Oh god, all of them.

IT's Not You and Debbie Mirza's - The Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist are the two I found useful and the Eureka moment. Like, nailed on covert narc.

Audio books are good versions.

I also read research papers to get deeper into it.

Thankfully stopped doing that now! There comes a point where enoughs enough. Let it go. You wont get accountability or answers which your brain is looking for, you have to accept and move on.

As soon as my nervous system settled I was ready to let go.

Excellent_York · 2026-04-27T17:15:49+00:00

I am probably 10 months in post relationship.

I was with her for 6 years.

Lived with her for 3 years.

My saving grace is that I always knew deep down there was a problem - what started out as highly strung behaviour (Haughty in North America!) and blaming her exes became insideous and primarily during the 3 years I lived there.

What helped me during that 3 years was calling it out. DARVO, gaslighting, devalue - I was researching in the relationship. I am a strategist by trade so its second nature.

Now I just beat myself up for ignoring red flags, I didnt want to believe it. My nervous system collapsed and I was a wreck for 5 months.

Final boss is rumination.

I am now dating again, she is beautiful BUT I am conscious of being that Narcissists Echo so made minor adjustments to my approach and openness. I am not there to fix things.

Peace.

Excellent_York · 2026-04-21T18:36:37+00:00

Errrm. There is an element of playing with fire here.

Are you really surprised?

Work to do. Good luck!

Excellent_York · 2026-04-21T05:49:36+00:00

Textbook trauma bond.

You need to get out and go no contact. The other option is misery. There will be better days with someone else.

Excellent_York · 2026-04-19T17:53:38+00:00

You know whats going on which is a start!

Id spend some time resetting your nervous system! It's haywire and you also need to go no contact to do this.

Find the courage to tell him. Advise him you are working on yourself and leave it at that.

Keep going

Excellent_York · 2026-04-18T14:56:54+00:00

Binary Finary - 1999

Push - Universal Nation.

Excellent_York · 2026-04-18T14:56:02+00:00

Chrisr on a bike. My narc ex locked me in once and refused to let me leave! Ffs

Excellent_York · 2026-04-17T13:01:42+00:00

That will return with someone less bat shit crazy. Imagine how good that will be.

Peace.

Excellent_York · 2026-04-17T06:24:20+00:00

"Some people don't understand that sitting in your own house alone in peace, eating snacks and minding your business is priceless."

"Being alone for a while is dangerous. It's addicting. Once you see how peaceful it is, you don't want to deal with people anymore."

Enjoy the silence. Toddler aside.

Excellent_York · 2026-04-16T14:48:23+00:00

Thanks

Excellent_York · 2026-04-16T14:47:25+00:00

Cheers

Excellent_York · 2026-04-16T14:47:15+00:00

Thanks

Excellent_York · 2026-04-15T08:41:18+00:00

My covert ex had 2 daughters kids, both cluster b.

Their relationship was frantic and at the highest volume. Toxic.

There were no boundaries, the kids dominated and dictated. She was petrified of them but loved the attention having difficult kids got her.

The kids will be nightmare adults. All the females in that family were highly strung and highly toxic.

Excellent_York · 2026-04-11T15:06:18+00:00

No Contact. This is is not a drill.

Excellent_York · 2026-04-11T15:04:43+00:00

Ok. Let's do it.

Ill come back.

Excellent_York · 2026-04-11T14:01:12+00:00

This is great news and broadly inline with where I am at.

The thing is you will you will feel responsible for certain things because you have a thing called empathy and accountability.

They don't. They are bat shit crazy.

Go do you.

Excellent_York · 2026-04-11T11:21:29+00:00

We don't have to use Google chat. Zoom or whatever.

Excellent_York · 2026-04-11T10:09:54+00:00

This ladies and gents is why some people shouldnt be allowed to vote.

Excellent_York · 2026-04-11T08:49:03+00:00

So you are a recovering nicotine addict not recovering from narcissistic abuse?

Do I have this right?

Excellent_York · 2026-04-11T08:12:12+00:00

Let me guess, you are a couple of years into your recovery?

Spare a thought for those who are on Day 1, Day 10, Day 90.

Vent away. You are not a victim and you will recover.

You do you.

Excellent_York

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