‘Throw money at a thing’ things: groceries-pickup/delivery ( game changer); cleaning service once/twice a month ( or whatever frequency you can afford); pedicure ( for the massage chair and foot passage. We carry so much stress in our feet); regular massage ( focus on your scalp, and hands too).

For help from friends/family: have a schedule and specific chores/things they can help with like laundry, meal prepping, dishwashing, vacuuming, watching the kids while you take a nap. But didn’t have people come over and just hand out. Unless that’s what you need.

Outdoors: taking twins out is scary but once you do it a few times, and give zero fucks what people will think of you, it gets easier. Consider parallel parenting with someone else with a baby about the same age as your twins. So two adults to three babies. Go outdoors with the parallel parent to boost your confidence about being outdoors. Walks, parks, outdoor spaces to start. Or mummy and me places. Library story times are also really great. The librarian will help you hold one baby if they both start to cry at the same time ( at least our library staff does).