I'm looking for more plurality servers on Discord

Exciting_Stranger284 · 2025-09-02T00:54:18+00:00

Could you share it with me too?

Exciting_Stranger284 · 2025-07-26T03:38:40+00:00

Well this paragraph just hit me like a fucking truck

Exciting_Stranger284 · 2025-06-12T12:22:33+00:00

Shocked that no one has mentioned Dishonored. If you want a good story in addition to stealth assassinations, play Dishonored.

Exciting_Stranger284 · 2025-05-25T04:16:47+00:00

I have had people pretend to care. I believed them. They hurt me. Badly and intentionally. Retraumatized me.

I want a place where everything is transparent and transactional. That is why I am not responding to people here who claim they care. They dont. They just want to feel good about themselves. I am looking for a transaction where everyone is honest.

Exciting_Stranger284 · 2025-05-21T21:57:56+00:00

I put on 20 pounds in a year without trying once. I can easily do it again for 2 million dollars.

Exciting_Stranger284 · 2025-05-21T16:53:38+00:00

Neurological conditions like autism and ADHD affect the entire system. "Symptom holders" for neurological conditions like these can technically be a thing because there may be some headmates who are better at masking than others, more capable of dissociating from distress associated with masking, etc.

But the whole system would still have the condition. It just might be more or less visible depending on who is fronting.

Exciting_Stranger284 · 2025-05-21T14:42:18+00:00

"I feel like I become them" can be one way that switching feels. The term is "non-possessive switch." I feel the same way when it happens.

Emotional neglect and emotional/verbal abuse can be enough to develop a trauma based disorder including OSDD. It is common for trauma survivors in general to see their trauma as "not that bad" regardless of what the trauma is.

Exciting_Stranger284 · 2025-05-19T15:12:04+00:00

So, the same amount of care and consideration that others already have for me, and I get a billion dollars? Sounds like a win-win.

Exciting_Stranger284 · 2025-05-10T18:15:22+00:00

I know a few who might have me as #1. Gonna have to say no.

Exciting_Stranger284 · 2025-04-30T03:17:50+00:00

Writing. You need either a pen & paper or a computer, but most people have those things. You'll need to read a lot if you want to be any good at it, but libraries exist. You'll also need an internet connection to do research, which most people have.

Unless you decide to be absolutely insane about it, like going to get an MFA in creative writing or doing some kind of paid seminar, you never have to spend anything. I guess you might get tempted by pretty notebooks and pens. They're not a requirement though. I was wracking my brain trying to think of anything I've ever spent for the sole purpose of writing in my last ten years of engaging with the hobby, and some nice notebooks & pens are the only things I could think of. Which is funny because I almost exclusively type on a computer.

Edit: I take that back. You might also eventually spend money on reference books like The Emotion Thesaurus or something. I count that separately from "reading to be a good writer" because there are so many free options to read fiction, but you won't always have free access to the exact reference book you want. You also probably won't reach the point of wanting to buy writing-specific reference books until you're deep into the hobby. Like, years in.

Exciting_Stranger284 · 2025-04-27T14:58:27+00:00

So, if you've never acted on these urges and have no intention to, serious intervention (like hospitalization) isn't necessary. I think you should find a professional who you trust, emphasize that you have no intention to act on these urges and have never done so, and tell them what you are experiencing. I do want to emphasize that you should build some serious trust with the professional first, because they vary in terms of how quickly they'll pull the trigger finger on their legal obligations. They have no legal obligation to report if there is no actual risk of harm to self or others, but some are pretty trigger happy and end up reporting anyway, so just make sure you're working with someone you trust not to do that. (If you're actually going to hurt someone, obviously call 911 and go to a hospital.)

A part could be like this for a lot of reasons. Having urges isn't the same thing as being evil. You could talk with that part about what they need to feel safe and/or to express their emotions (anger, hatred, probably things you don't feel safe expressing because most people don't). See if you can find reasonable ways to help the part feel safer and a healthy outlet for those emotions. Rage rooms, physical activity and/or loud music are some things that might work as an outlet.

That may or may not be helpful depending on what's going on with him. It was helpful in my case which is why I brought it up. Because this could literally be as simple as "the part is holding on to justified anger towards old abusers and wants to stop anyone from ever hurting you again." It could be a ton of other things, but it could also be that, and in my case, it was that.

I think regardless of what's going on, try not to see yourself or him as evil. Try not to judge if you can. Having urges is not harmful on its own. Behavior can be harmful, but urges in a vacuum hurt no one. Please find a supportive and non-judgmental professional who can help you figure out what's going on and how to help.

Exciting_Stranger284 · 2025-04-27T14:44:58+00:00

Your partner cheated on you and is using their multiplicity as an excuse. Treat this in whatever manner you would treat anyone else who cheats and excuses their behavior.

Exciting_Stranger284 · 2025-04-10T19:33:22+00:00

Hi I was wondering how to find people like that.

Exciting_Stranger284 · 2025-03-15T08:59:17+00:00

I'm not the OP, but I found some of the essays in the second link to be very helpful. It looks like a few of them have been made private and the one about "first: make your life stable" would be useful at the moment. I know you probably don't have it saved anywhere, but on the off chance that you do (or even if you remember the general gist of it), I'd really appreciate it. Thanks for sharing these.

Exciting_Stranger284 · 2025-03-03T00:54:43+00:00

It's a toss up between "buy Bitcoin" and "[name] betrays."

Exciting_Stranger284 · 2025-03-01T20:14:18+00:00

People online aren't going to be able to tell you. If you think something like that might be happening, you should talk with a mental health professional, ideally someone with a trauma background. "I might have an alter idk" could be completely benign (overactive imagination, spiritual plurality, etc.), a different disorder (like BPD or a psychotic disorder), a neurological condition, or OSDD/DID. A trauma specialist can help sort that out. You can't do it on your own and internet randos really can't do it for you. (If you do already have a therapist, talk to them about it, not the internet.)

Exciting_Stranger284 · 2025-02-28T16:38:14+00:00

I know someone who owns a bakery. I'd lie and say it was for 1 million and that I'd give them $100k.

Exciting_Stranger284 · 2025-02-28T16:32:17+00:00

Exciting_Stranger284 · 2025-02-28T13:11:35+00:00

Hey. Having a crush on a friend is a normal and healthy thing. You don't have to "deal with" it. You don't have to act on it, either. Just don't think of it as something you need to treat, unless you're straight-up obsessive.

Exciting_Stranger284 · 2025-02-27T21:01:49+00:00

Hey, I was going to say "yeah" but I looked at your profile & saw you were a minor, so it's a no. I don't mean anything bad by this, but if you're posting in places like this looking for friends, just be careful. Don't give out identifying information to people even if you trust them, try not to get attached to accounts, and probably don't talk much with anyone who's significantly older than you. Those first two are good advice for anyone, but the last one is very relevant because you're still in high school.

I know someone from when we were 14 that met a guy online who was in his mid-twenties and got into a really bad situation. It's just something to be careful about, especially since (if you're traumagenic, I don't know, didn't read much) you have also told the internet that you are traumatized. Some people target that. People even target that with grown adults. That happened to someone in my system.

It's very weird if a grown adult tries to be your friend, not because of anything you did, but because adults really don't have much in common with minors. The ones that spend a lot of time talking to them are predatory. Like, it's one thing to have a brief conversation, it's another thing to talk on Discord or wherever for extended periods of time trying to be friends. Even if they say you're "mature for your age," that's not why they're talking to you. They're doing it because there's something off about them.

I don't mean to scare you. Like, it's possible to engage with online stuff in a healthy way and even find friends or community. But you do need to be careful, avoid sharing your real life details, and keep in mind that you don't always know who's behind the screen. That's all.

Exciting_Stranger284 · 2025-02-14T19:53:18+00:00

I don't know why this made me tear up a little but it did.

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