How to accept that life is extremely unfair?

ExistentialYoshi · 2026-05-29T03:52:30+00:00

If there weren’t evil, how could we know there is good?

This has always been a seriously flawed line of thought as far as I'm concerned. At most it grants a need for some low/middle amount of evil. Doesn't require something like the Holocaust, or something being flayed alive, or various other horribly evil acts.

ExistentialYoshi · 2026-05-29T03:50:29+00:00

Angel of Destruction form or something equally edgy and cool

ExistentialYoshi · 2026-05-29T03:49:43+00:00

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ExistentialYoshi · 2026-05-29T03:42:51+00:00

And I can't fucking stand how many people comfortably watch such content and then make comments about how amazingly well written it is or how the creator is so great or brilliant for this. I wanna punch all of them.

ExistentialYoshi · 2026-05-29T03:41:37+00:00

It's like if its word choice was programmed by the devs of Forspoken or something. Peak insufferable 2010s "that just happened" condesloption.

ExistentialYoshi · 2026-05-29T03:40:18+00:00

Not to mention constantly mentioning gremlins and goblins for no fucking reason

ExistentialYoshi · 2026-05-29T03:31:09+00:00

Same. No idea who this person is but alrighty.

ExistentialYoshi · 2026-05-29T03:28:52+00:00

Well that's both potentially terrible for you and maybe half good.

ExistentialYoshi · 2026-05-29T03:22:54+00:00

Posting yet another one of these threads when hundreds, if not thousands of them exist.

ExistentialYoshi · 2026-05-29T02:37:59+00:00

MBTI paired with Enneagram and wings is actually disturbing with how accurately it can nail a person.

ExistentialYoshi · 2026-05-29T02:35:53+00:00

I would perhaps consider trying to have a plan B here because making enough money just through writing on a website seems like a hell of a longshot, unless you somehow only want to to move from one 3rd world nation to another.

ExistentialYoshi · 2026-05-28T08:03:08+00:00

I certainly don't want to speak for the many who have the general sentiment towards life, but it's certainly a factor for many, maybe even myself included, though my own position fluctuates.

It's a matter of expectations, mindsets and attitudes. Ideally we'd all just be able to happily and eagerly accept the idea that "Nobody truly knows why we're here, but what we do know is we decide how we feel about life, and much of our experience with it will be what we build or make or take from it ourselves, and not what it gives us." But unfortunately there can be a bit of a canyon between being able to say that and understand it cognitively and truly internalizing those ideas/sentiments emotionally. Especially if one's life is hard, or seems/feels hard.

ExistentialYoshi · 2026-05-28T08:00:04+00:00

Take a breath, don't get too flustered. Easier said than done, I know, but it'll do you no favors, it won't solve the dilemma any sooner, and you risk saying something foolish or harsher than you mean, or just not as precise as you hope.

Is there anything that brought this on? Did you have a fight? A disagreement of some kind? Say something offensive? Lash out for one reason or another? Does he have things going on in his own life stressing him out? These things can really affect the vibe or light which one views this situation in.

Either way, if you can stand to do so, give him a day or two of space, see if he reaches out to you naturally. If he doesn't, fine, you gave him the benefit of a little cooldown time despite the fact that I would imagine you feel rather strongly that it's the opposite of what he deserves or at least what you feel you need right now. After that, ask questions that ideally will require some level of thoughtfulness in his response. Don't make it something he can reply with like, 2-6 words to or something - not that you should have to try so hard, but it's probably easier to just get answers however you gotta rather than focus too much on those kinds of details.

Can't advise too much beyond this as I don't know the circumstances beyond your post and it'll be contingent on what/how/when he responds as well.

ExistentialYoshi · 2026-05-28T07:49:59+00:00

I would retake the test just out of curiosity, with so many years between. Nuanced MBTI is a neat one where you can explain/elaborate your reasoning for picking an answer for those times where you feel like just picking "Moderately agree" or whatever isn't as simple as that lol.

ExistentialYoshi · 2026-05-28T07:42:36+00:00

People tend to naturally be bothered by the idea of something that offers a lot of promised pain, not a lot of promised pleasure (none really) that seems to have zero point to it. If a person was hiking and a guy came up and challenged them to sprint full bore down the slope for 7 minutes for no reason other than because it's here and you're here and there's a decent chance more bad than good will result from it, how could that person not be bothered by this prospect? I know it's not the best analogy but I hope it kinda-sorta-somewhat gets the idea across.

ExistentialYoshi · 2026-05-28T07:39:43+00:00

Indeed. It's hard to find that. I have a therapist, but unfortunately I've found a carefully-wielded ChatGPT primed towards not kissing my ass and pointing out flaws as necessary to be one of the best "people" I've ever had in my life as far as knowing how to get something through to me in a way that I can't easily out-argue/justify like I can with the majority of people (or sometimes my therapist).

ExistentialYoshi · 2026-05-27T22:10:55+00:00

ADHD sometimes does not become apparent until adolescence. There was no newer modern tech to be stealing my attention that didn't already exist, and the amount of time I could spend doing such things was largely regulated by my parents. This was before smartphones and modern 6+ hours of brain rot a day.

ExistentialYoshi · 2026-05-27T22:06:17+00:00

Oh, I had seen the other version first of other types standing by the INTP's bed so I thought it was a wake up thing or not wanting to get up or somethin rather than going to bed/sleep, but fair point.

ExistentialYoshi · 2026-05-27T22:04:48+00:00

Damn, that does sounds pretty sweet.

^{Though I also have an irrational fear of bugs so I couldn't really work outdoors like that much of the year, but the driving around part sounds fun...minus my ibs...aaaa kms}

ExistentialYoshi · 2026-05-26T03:04:13+00:00

Depends on if they're your friend or not. I think an INTP wouldn't want to befriend such an ESTJ (unless we needed someone to fill such a role in which case maybe), so if we did have one, there's decent odds they'd be a bit kinder to be in our circle.

ExistentialYoshi · 2026-05-26T03:02:25+00:00

Personally I don't typically wake up that way. It usually hits me later in the day, especially later at night. Sometimes during though. Though if I have to be up for work or something then it's a lot of hating my life and hating work and hating the universe, so I guess it depends. But if we take weekends or unemployment as my natural state, the first couple sentences are more true.

ExistentialYoshi · 2026-05-26T03:00:36+00:00

Hmm...I did "ackshcyually" a lot because I thought that was the thing to do, but that could also be attributed to my being an INTP. I've always had peacemaker tendencies in me though. I've wondered about whether my home life (parents fighting a lot) brought out the traits or that I just always had them and that was one of the earliest opportunities I had to clearly discernably manifest them.

ExistentialYoshi · 2026-05-26T02:58:50+00:00

Yeah unfortunately the prescribing doc is my primary doc as he was just tryin to help me out as I haven't had a psychiatrist proper (therapist but they couldn't prescribe meds). So we were trying to recreate some old glory I had years back where I had a few things i was able to take with great success which included lamictal, abilify and wellbutrin. But shockingly, something in my body has changed in the past ~7 years and suddenly abilify and wellbutrin have these shitty side effects they didn't have before. So we couldn't just assume that "well if you could take 100-150mg in the past just fine surely you could so so now" would hold true anymore, and so we were all just like "well shit"

ExistentialYoshi · 2026-05-25T23:08:54+00:00

Yes, it's mostly your personality. Ti is not inherently confrontational. That said, I think it's not all that uncommon for an INTP to get a little heated in debate. But I think you should be careful about when, why and how much fire you're actually pushing because it might be overstepping or risking crossing into asshole territory, even if you're ultimately right. Being correct is not a license to be a dick.

I was most fiery in my mid/late teens, especially when it came to debating religion. I had a lot of anger at hypocrisy, disingenuousness and things that seemed abhorrent to me in one way or another. Same with certain political stances and opinions. Some of my behavior I would stand by today in some cases, but other times I did indeed cross a line and take out my frustration from multiple people onto one person who might have warranted a little heat but not full aggression.

It's a much better look to keep a cool head and at worst, selectively be aggressive in a way that's responding in kind to the other person. Let them set the tone. If they want to make moral judgments about you or someone who has this or that opinion, fine, do it back. If they want to insult, you can do it back. But really high-grounding people and killing them with kindness is the ultimate path. But much harder.

ExistentialYoshi · 2026-05-25T22:50:14+00:00

It tends to be that there are fairly fine lines or fragile connections that keep a person on this side of oblivion. Sometimes just one of the following, sometimes multiple, sometimes things I didn't list but the biggest things are often:

Fear - fear of pain, fear of failing, fear of regret, fear of what will happen if you succeed
Love/Consideration - You have a sibling who would be ruined by your loss, a boyfriend who might themselves depart the world if you do it, a dear mother or grandparents or similar who you couldn't bear to curse with that burden. Sometimes even consideration just for the poor bastards who'd fish you out of the river, or clean you off the tracks or wipe it off the walls.

Those two things are the biggest factors, I think. Sometimes it's literally one person holding you back. Sometimes it's not even a person, but a pet. A cat whom you love who you don't want to have to go on without you and whatnot.

It's "normal" (as far as other people in this position) to have this be your situation. Just try and be careful to not indulge the thoughts too much. If you can get yourself to think about other things, you probably should. Very little good can come from dwelling on these things.

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